God created love and has placed the desire to be loved unconditionally in each of our hearts . Marriage is a natural overflow of that desire. Yet within this scared and natural pursuit of marriage. It's easy to fall into the lie that finding a spouse will be the ultimate road to happiness and great satisfaction. That all problems , fears , and deficit will fade away in the presence of true love . it's isn't true in the world of marriage.
No perfect marriage , relying on your partner to fulfill your insatiable needs is a recipe for disaster because no human being has the capacity to offer you what is needed for true value and self worth.
*Don't marry for the following reasons or you will blame yourself.*
✓ Don't marry because for sex you won't be satisfied, if you have high sexual it's better to go for therapy than to think Marriage is the solution.
✓ Don't marry because everyone is getting married, marry because you have found someone destined by God
✓ Don't marry because you want to exploit your partner financially. You will end up becoming a slave in marriage, men who run after wealthy women end up as slaves, their expectations are never met and they blame themselves
✓ Don't marry because your family members are pushing you to marry . Don't let anyone push you into wrong marriage
✓ Don't marry because you think you should get married or you watched a movie scene and you are inspired with the romantic affairs and you want to feel it as well. You will be disappointed because 70% of nigerian men are not romantic and won't tend to your feelings .
✓ Don't marry because you love someone and you have to confirm whether he loves you back . It's possible to get married to someone who doesn't love you.
✓ Don't marry if you are financially bouyant or your income is not enough to care for yourself, don't let any lady push you into marriage as a result of desperation. At the end of the day , she will blame you for everything. Think twice
✓ Don't marry because of beauty or handsome, Beauty will fade , you will dislike your partner if he or she looses beauty or good appearance. So many men are running after good looking women , they marry because of beauty and later cheat in marriage, beauty fades as we get older.
✓ Don't marry out of ignorance, if you don't know your partner too well. So many things you will find out in marriage and will be difficult for you to bear ... Find out more about him or her , so you don't make serious mistakes
✓ Don't Marry out of pity , don't marry anyone you feel pity for . The marriage won't last .
✓ Don't marry because you sees your partner as an opportunity to cling on to( eg. You come across a beautiful lady , and you got enticed and then decided to rush marriage without understanding her motive . You will blame yourself
There are many ways to avoid troubles in marriage
*Marry because*
✓ Marry because you are in love and you are convinced
✓ Marry because you have prayed and God has blessed your Union
✓ Marry because you are financially, emotionally, physically ready for marriage
The heart breaking thing in life is placing your happiness in hands of human beings.
Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness, there will ups and downs, dissappointment, conflicts and so on .... Human being can never make you happy. Only God can .
Seek Gods face while making choice of partner.
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