7 FACTORS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU MARRY ANYONE-Suitability

Water gets levels. Shoe gets size. Clothes get size and so do you when it comes to marriage. Everybody is not your size.

Even God understands this. In Gen 2:18 the Bible says, "The Lord God said, '“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”'

By explanation, suitability means when something is capable, qualified, fit, proper, and appropriate for something.

You cannot put a squared peg in a round hole.

Love notwithstanding, it is not everyone that is suitable for you, your personality, your purpose, convictions, aspirations etc. Look for your size. Find your levels.

7 FACTORS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU MARRY ANYONE-Good character

There are ladies that are so in love with their guys that abuse them physically, emotionally, psychologically and otherwise yet they will not leave them because of love.

These guys beat them blue and black, disrespect them and do all manner of things to them but they are still stuck with them.

This is how many of them end up getting murdered in cold blood. The same applies to some guys. So check for good character.

Because you love someone doesn't mean you will not check out his or her character. A person's character is who he or she is and that is what you will live with in marriage.

When someone has a bad character, no matter how much you love the person, my dear you will suffer.

7 FACTORS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU MARRY ANYONE-The Will of God

The will of God is another factor to consider before you marry anyone. What is heaven saying about this person you're considering? What is God saying?

The will of God in marriage is simply the person whom God approves for you to marry. That is, some that God is pleased with and approves for you(see Matt. 3:17).

Now, this doesn't mean that God specially created one particular person for you to marry. There is nothing like that. But as a child of God, you need to carry God along in your choice of life partner.

7 FACTORS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU MARRY ANYONE-COMPATIBILITY

 Compatibility

Apart from love another important factor to consider is compatibility. Lack of compatibility is the leading cause of divorce around the world.

Compatibility is defined as when two things are capable of existing together in harmony.

For two people from different backgrounds, upbringing, culture, orientation, experience, education, philosophy etc., to live peacefully and in harmony with each other, they must be compatible.(see Luke 5:36-37)

Sometime ago, I wrote about these important areas you must be compatible with anyone you want to marry.

Let me highlight them here…

Spiritual compatibility.

Do your spiritual beliefs and convictions align?

Are the both of you born again?

Purpose compatibility

Is there an alignment in purpose? Are the both of you walking towards the same direction?

Mental compatibility.

Are the both of you operating on the frequency intellectually?

Some people are analogue in thinking while some are digital. Some are still operating with the mentality of the 7th century in the 21st century.

When you hear, "This is not how my forefathers and ancestors did it," that is mentality speaking.

Some men still believe a woman belongs to the kitchen and the other room.

Health compatibility

Does your genotype, blood group and Rhesus factor match?

What is your genotype status? AS, SS, AA, AC, SC

What is your blood group? A, B, O, AB

What is your rhesus factor? +ve or -ve?

Personality compatibility

According to research a large percentage of what you do is influenced by your personality type.

What is your temperament? Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic

Many couples are quarrelling and fighting today because they don't have this knowledge, they don't understand their partners.

So does your personality match?

Sex compatibility

Are your sexual orientations, education, exposure align with the person?

What's your take on oral sex, anal sex, BDSM etc?

What are the things you cannot do or accept wjen it comes to sex, do they align your partner?

Preference compatibility

This talks about hobbies or things that interests one.

Is there an alignment?

See, when there is disparity in any of these areas of compatibility, it may result in conflicts in marriage.

Without compatibility, someone is definitely going to get hurt, either the couple or the children.

Lack of health compatibility is the reason why we have many children today suffering from Sickle Cell disease.

I know a couple that has lost 2 out their 3 children because of this sickness. And these are children they spent almost 12 years looking for.

Lack of health compatibility in Rh factor one of the reasons why many women are having miscarriages.

7 FACTORS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU MARRY ANYONE-LOVE

1. Love

Because I said love is not an enough reason to get married doesn't in any way negate the importance of love in marriage. It will take a book to explain the criticality of love to marriage.

No marriage can survive without love. Anger, irritation, resentment, quarrels, frustrations etc., are inevitable when there is lack of love.

To show you the importance of love, almost a whole chapter of the Bible was dedicated to that effect.( see I Cor 13)

Love is one of the vital pillars that sustains a marriage but as we all know that one pillar doesn't sustain or hold a building, other pillars are needed.

So love is the first vital factor to consider.

Do you really love the person?

Does the person also love you?

7 FACTORS TO CONSIDER BEFORE YOU MARRY ANYONE

"Don't marry anyone just because you love the person, love is not enough reason to get married. There are other factors to consider."

The post gathered some reactions both on Facebook here and on WhatsApp, some people agreed with me that love is not enough, while others disagreed and then many others asked me about the other factors that need to be considered before you marry someone.

So what I intend to do in this article is to show you the other factors you need to consider before you agree to marry anyone.

My intention for making that post two days was to help people to make sure all coasts are cleared before they venture into marriage to avoid regrets.

There are many people that got married only because of love but are now regretting that decision. They were blinded by love but marriage performed a miracle on their eyes, now they can clearly see their mistakes.