Compatibility
Apart from love another important factor to consider is compatibility. Lack of compatibility is the leading cause of divorce around the world.
Compatibility is defined as when two things are capable of existing together in harmony.
For two people from different backgrounds, upbringing, culture, orientation, experience, education, philosophy etc., to live peacefully and in harmony with each other, they must be compatible.(see Luke 5:36-37)
Sometime ago, I wrote about these important areas you must be compatible with anyone you want to marry.
Let me highlight them here…
Spiritual compatibility.
Do your spiritual beliefs and convictions align?
Are the both of you born again?
Purpose compatibility
Is there an alignment in purpose? Are the both of you walking towards the same direction?
Mental compatibility.
Are the both of you operating on the frequency intellectually?
Some people are analogue in thinking while some are digital. Some are still operating with the mentality of the 7th century in the 21st century.
When you hear, "This is not how my forefathers and ancestors did it," that is mentality speaking.
Some men still believe a woman belongs to the kitchen and the other room.
Health compatibility
Does your genotype, blood group and Rhesus factor match?
What is your genotype status? AS, SS, AA, AC, SC
What is your blood group? A, B, O, AB
What is your rhesus factor? +ve or -ve?
Personality compatibility
According to research a large percentage of what you do is influenced by your personality type.
What is your temperament? Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy, Phlegmatic
Many couples are quarrelling and fighting today because they don't have this knowledge, they don't understand their partners.
So does your personality match?
Sex compatibility
Are your sexual orientations, education, exposure align with the person?
What's your take on oral sex, anal sex, BDSM etc?
What are the things you cannot do or accept wjen it comes to sex, do they align your partner?
Preference compatibility
This talks about hobbies or things that interests one.
Is there an alignment?
See, when there is disparity in any of these areas of compatibility, it may result in conflicts in marriage.
Without compatibility, someone is definitely going to get hurt, either the couple or the children.
Lack of health compatibility is the reason why we have many children today suffering from Sickle Cell disease.
I know a couple that has lost 2 out their 3 children because of this sickness. And these are children they spent almost 12 years looking for.
Lack of health compatibility in Rh factor one of the reasons why many women are having miscarriages.
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