IF YOU CAN'T GET A HOLD OF YOUR SEXUALITY NOW THAT YOU'RE SINGLE, YOU WILL CONTINUE TO SLEEP AROUND WHEN YOU MARRY"

The first part of this post discussed the after effects of illicit sex. Today's part throws more light on the outcome of sex in marriage and why everyone who is not married should wait until the time is right.

God created sex in marriage, and of course, He is interested in sexual relationships in marriage. God wants you to enjoy a problem-free sexual relationship in your marriage.

Many couples who are experiencing issues relating to sex in their marriage do not tell God about it ..na una dey lose oh...story for another day.

In marriage, there's no fear in sex, as opposed to illicit sex. No fear sponsored thoughts. God's blessings is on sexual relationship in marriage. You get to enjoy a lot of things:

✓You can even pray to God for strength to satisfy your spouse sexually.

✓You can pray after everything and thank God for giving you the strength.

✓There's no fear of STI (if there is, something is wrong).

✓There's no fear of getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant. In fact, some women have been gifted cars by their husbands just for getting pregnant.

✓Sex in marriage is not a sin, so no guilt feeling.

✓No fear of abortion or sponsoring one.

✓ You can enjoy it for as long as your strength can carry you, depending on your agreement with your spouse.

✓ You have maximum peace of mind.

✓As a woman, you're not ashamed to carry your pregnancy about

✓ You enjoy the maximum support of your husband during pregnancy period.

✓No fear of your partner withdrawing his/her commitments after having sex with you.

✓You can be yourself, you don't have to fake anything and you're not ashamed to relate with your spouse. You can tell your spouse how exactly you want it done.

Let's switch to the other side. Sex is good. The only thing that makes it wrong is when it is gotten through illegal means. Pre-marital sex is wrong and dangerous because of just one factor; TIME!

Yoruba people will say "Eni ti a'n mun Iyawo bo wa ba kii ga'run".......permit me please.

Do you want to enjoy sex? Then wait for the right time, when you're married. Whatever means a person uses to get sex other than this is wrong and sinful.

Let me shock you, this same sex that you're killing yourself to have, this same sex that you're endangering your life to get from illegal sources, do you know that in marriage, there are times you would have had enough, but your spouse wants more and you have to start explaining why you sincerely can't offer more? If you doubt me, ask married people.

When I was single, I used to think that when I finally get married, I'd have sex in the morning, afternoon and night, in the balcony, in the kitchen, inside bathroom, on the couch, on the staircase, even on the roof but just look at me now...there are days that I'd be so tired after a hectic day at work and have no strength left in me. Such days, if madam makes any move, na only me by myself go dey beg, dey explain why I need to be spared......all these things na fantasy. There are times that married people have more important things going on in their lives, that sex is the last thing on their minds. Days, weeks (sometimes month) may pass, and no one is saying anything about sex, and it's not as if there's any fight oo.

See ehn, reality is not the same as those wild thoughts. There is more to marriage than sex, and hey, whoever gets married only to be getting sex regularly has married for the wrong reason. Sex is overrated indeed. "IF YOU CAN'T GET A HOLD OF YOUR SEXUALITY NOW THAT YOU'RE SINGLE, YOU WILL CONTINUE TO SLEEP AROUND WHEN YOU MARRY"

The reason why you would do anything now to get it is because you're not legally entitled to it. No wonder the Bible says "stolen water is sweet" in the book of Proverbs 9:17

It's not that it is actually sweeter, but the devil has a way of making a person believe it is.

You need to stop allowing the devil to manipulate you with the desires of your flesh.

How can you let the devil push you to be struggling for what will later become rightfully yours? You too check am now...the reason why devil always let you have sexual urge is because he knows that illegal sex is one of the fastest and surest way to completely destroy you. Stop letting the devil fool you. Remember what the Bible says about time and seasons? (Ecclesiates 3;1-8). Please wait for your time.

Do you know that the illegal sex you're getting now can destroy the beautiful sexual relationship God has planned for you when you get married? The devil wants you to use impatience to destroy your chance of enjoying great sexual relationship when you finally get married. ILLEGAL SEX CAN LEAD TO UNTIMELY AND SUDDEN DEATH! It has killed many already. There are diseases, restlessness and even death in it. The things we do now are what will determine what will happen to us in the future. Enough of the smartness the devil is playing on you. Please wake up!

Screaming...Ji, masun!

If you have been having sex illegally, you have to stop! You have no other choice. Have it in mind that, for with every wrong sex you have, you're one step closer to your destruction. Illegal sex will render you physically, emotionally and spiritually empty. It is draining. It is deeper than those thrusting.....be guided please.

Let me conclude with this, the decision to stay sexually pure till the time is right won't be easy, yes, it is going to be a real struggle, especially if you're the type that has been getting sex through wrong means already. Staying sexually pure is one of the toughest decision to make in our contemporary society where everything (music, movies, dressings, internet, TV shows, social media, trending talks etc) depicts sex. When the Bible recorded in the Book of Mathew 11:12 that the kingdom of God suffers violence and the violent takes it by force, being deliberate about not falling into sexual temptations is one of the issues you must tackle with violence and defeat. This heavenly race no be moin-moin, na serious matter!

The good news is that God is the one that can enable you to pull through with that decision, your strength will fail you but God is able. You need Christ. Run to Him.

Temptations will come, even Christ was tempted, but He overcame. You will also overcome if you rely on Christ.

Make up your mind today to wait until the time is right, and God will surely grant your heart desires.

If there's time, I'll write on practical steps a person can take towards living a sexually pure life.

Thank you all for following, hope the post no too long sha?

By John Adesogan