WHEN WE ARE HURT OR TROUBLED.

SO MANY PEOPLE believe it is better to be quiet than to speak out their hurts especially if their spouse is known to be aggressive, stubborn, naive, callous, obstinate or severely ignorant.

BEING QUIET or pretending to be calm is worse than letting out the hurt because; the kind of peace arising from being quiet is a "PEACE OF THE GRAVEYARD". Such a "peace" is an incubator of hurts. Surely it will explode someday somehow and the pieces may no longer be gathered. Bottled up emotions are said to be a health hazzard too.

THE MAJOR REASON for accumulating hurt inside us is that we often don't know the appropriate words and composure in expressing our feelings of hurt. Thus, instead of PRESENTING our hurts, we rather let out nasty threats and insults as our vengeance, thereby starting badly, a good case.

WE CANNOT JUST ACQUIRE the right words and attitudes unconsciously, it doesn't come with a college certificate, diploma or degree. It doesn't come with age either.

WE MUST LEARN THOSE FROM OTHERS WHO HAVE LEARNED FROM OTHERS...

Therefore, we need to be careful about our association; the friends we keep, the social media groups to which we belong, the religious sects we follow etc. Some people are so evil that they are wandering in social media groups looking for vulnerable persons to mislead with evil advice.

MANY SOCIAL MEDIA GROUPS do not control what comments people make and the quality of advice their members receive because, they see it as pastime activities with no consequences and no value.

HERE IN SECRET IN MARRIAGE GROUP, there are many officials of the Group moderating posts, membership requests, comments, advice, adverts etc so that the quality of what we receive here can be one of the best available.

WHEN ANY OF US IS WORRIED

OR TROUBLED AND DOESN'T KNOW WHAT NEXT TO DO, PLEASE OPEN UP IN THIS GROUP.

We are endowed with highly skilled, highly experienced, matured, elderly and very elderly people of numerous fields of learning and integrity who are ready to genuinely assist us free even privately or anonymously.

IT IS OUR PRIVILEGE AS MEMBERS OF THIS GROUP as long as we do not violate the membership rules