Unfairir treatment and stigmatization mated out to single

Dear Society,

I am addressing this letter to you for the unfair treatment and stigmatization mated out to single women, mostly the single matured women.

How do you treat a woman like a plaque simply because her name has no Mrs in-between?

You insult and humiliate a woman because she lives alone, would you have preferred she moves in with a man who is not her husband, so to get "security?

You deny her job opportunities and contracts because of her status.

Dear Landlords, your discrimination towards the single women has come to our notice and it's very appalling that someone who can afford her rents would be denied her rights because a particular title is not attached to her name.

Fellow neighbours, you have little or no regards for the single lady living adjacent to you. You believe she can't make an honest living other than following men around.

No matter how much she makes, you don't respect her because the stereotypical mentality is that her money comes from men (sugar daddies)

You look down on her achievements and strides in life because you have been brainwashed to believe she slept her way up.

If she buys a car.....a man gave it to her

If she gets promoted....she sl.ept with her bosses

If she owns a car..... Her sugar daddy has done it again..

If she looks good....she's a runs girl

Even you, her fellow woman. Yours is worst. You are always the first to call her ashewo at the slightest quarrel

You'll body shame and age shame her

You'll clap your hands and mock her ... ...go and marry!!! Your mates are in their Husband houses, you are here doing ashewo work.

Look at you who is Marriage shaming your fellow woman, you are not even legally married. You are just cohabiting with a man and popping out children for free.

Is it how men treat single mature women that we want to talk about?

Many of them take advantage of their vulnerability to marriage-scam them. Some come with the promise of Marriage, eat their money and disappear..viam!!

Some don't even have any regards for them because they think they are desperate for marriage and nothing more.

Dear parents, you are not left out of this. At some point you start maltreating your girl child because she's still "under your roof"

You'll remind her that at her age, you already had 10 children.

Go and marry, your mates are marrying... you'll say...

You kill her psychologically everyday but you don't know.. we forgive you because you think you are doing the right thing however, stop it already!

The stigmatization against single ladies by the society (landlords, employers, neighbours, friends, men and women), is one of the reasons they settle for the wrong men just to be married and be validated in the society...even when they know right within them, that they are making a mistake

That same stigmatization is the reason, they think they can't be happy unless they are in a relationship.

It is the same reason that makes them feel worthless, incomplete even with all their achievements and talents.

Dear Society, you are indirectly creating more failed Marriages by bullying and blackmailing these women into rushing to accept wrong proposals, just to be married

Marriage is good. God created the woman for the man but can you allow her man discover (find) her in peace without driving her insane?

Respect the female child...married or not married!