Comparing your wife and your side chick

It is easy for you to see FAULTS in your Wife, and see that Lady at the office as PERFECT

You live with your wife, you wake up beside her everyday, you see her without makeup, you see her when she's tired, when she's in need of a bath, you see her without her wig and mascara.

You don't live with that lady you are now lusting after and wishing was your wife, you don't wake up beside her.

You see her when she's already applied make up, you see her only when she's had a bath, with her wig, brazilian weavon and mascara.

Your wife lives with you, it's easy to see why you feel like you need a breath of fresh air, you know her every flaws, her weaknesses, you see her CONTENT daily, while all you see about that lady is her CONTAINER

Your wife cannot PRETEND for you, she has no reason to, that lady has no reason to be REAL to you, she will only be COURTEOUS and KIND to you, but don't let that fool you.

That lady you are comparing with your wife has her own imperfections and flaws, she has attitude issues too, she gets angry too, but you won't see all this about her.

Don't begin to wish you were married to that younger lady, she's what? 22? 25?

Your wife is 35? 40+?

She's been to the labor room, her vagina can't be the same as before, maybe she's had a CS or two, let's not forget all the worship sessions and night vigils you conducted down there, shouting "give it to me, I paid for it"?,

Those stretch marks you detest are her scars from the pregnancies that made you a father.

You are complaining, your wife's breasts have sagged, but who pressed them? Was it us? Was it not you?

You are now eyeing a young lady that her chest Is firm, you forget that if she were subjected to the same conditions your wife has been through in your hands every night in the bedroom for 10 years, she'd look like your wife?

Respect that Woman who has stood by your side.

She has struggled with you,

She has taken in and given you kids,

She has loved you, emotionally and sexually,

She has hustled with you.

She's the wife of your YOUTH.

Love her with all her flaws

Love her through the changes you see.

Love those stretch marks.

Kiss that not so flat tommy

She's the wife of your YOUTH.

Malachi 2:15 "Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth."

Formation of The Village Savings and Loan Association (VSLA) In A Community

 At JDPC Issele-Uku, social transformation and the well being of our people are part of our highly placed priority. Here is the meeting of one of our formed Village Savings and Loans Associations (VSLAs) At their weekly meeting. This is part of our implementation of our 4GATES OVC Project, in partnership with Caritas Nigeria and under the sponsorship of the US Center for Disease Control.

VSLA formation assists to provide simple savings and loan facilities to the people, in a community that does not have access to formal financial services. The loans can also provide a form of self-insurance to members, supplemented by a social fund which provides small but important grants to members in distress.

JDPC ISSELE-UKU DIOCESE MARKS THE INTERNATIONAL DAY FOR THE GIRLCHILD IN A UNIQUE WAY

JDPC ISSELE-UKU DIOCESE MARKS THE INTERNATIONAL DAY FOR THE GIRLCHILD IN A UNIQUE WAY

The international day of the girl child is an international observation day celebrated by the United Nations; it is also called the Day of Girls and the International Day of the Girl .The observation supports more opportunity for girls and increases awareness of gender inequality faced by girls worldwide based on their gender. The international day of the girl child is celebrated on 11 October yearly with different theme for each year. 2021 international day of the girl child is themed Digital Generation Our Generation.The Justice Development and Peace Commission (JDPC) Issele-Uku Diocese celebrated this with the students of St Rose's Girls Grammar School, Ogwashi-Uku . It was the first of its kind in a long while and one that the students would live to remember for a long time to come.

The events marking the celebration, due to some logistics, took place on 22nd day of October, 2021 at the school hall. The JDPC Issele-Uku Diocese team was led by the director, Rev. Fr. JohnBosco Ezeonwumelu. Other members of the team are the OVC Protection Officer, Mr. Emmanuel UboguUsiwo, the OVC HIV Prevention, Care and Support Officer, Miss Esther AmakaAkawe and the OVC Education Officer, Mr. Frank AguEze. Also present was the OVC M&E Officer, Mr. Anthony Ezeobi. The team arrived at the school at about 11am and was received by the school principal, Sr. Henrietta Aguh NES. With the hall set, the students numbering about 120 settled down with their teachers with great expectation from the visitors. Without wasting any time, the director, Fr. JohnBosco led the opening prayer, after which he introduced his team and the organization to the school. He also set the ball rolling by explaining the reason for the gathering. Having done that, he invited Mr. Frank Agu Eze for the first presentation.

In his presentation titled, digital generation, our generation, Mr. Frank highlighted the benefits of digital technology such as learning and earning opportunities, reading of books and online news and the interconnectedness of people in far and near places. In the same vein, the downsides of digitalization were stressed such as crime, terrorism, privacy concerns, pornography, and job insecurity and so on. He therefore encouraged the participants to channel their energies and potentials to the advantages inherent in digital technology as opposed to the disadvantages. He concluded the first session with the point that digital equality can only be achieved if girls and young women are included in the picture.

The second presentation which was facilitated by Miss Esther Amaka Akawe was on HIV prevention, care and support and emphasis was laid on the causes of HIV such as pre-marital or extra-marital sex, sharing of unsterilized sharp objects and instruments. She noted that HIV has no known cure but can be managed if detected early and the patient adheres to treatment. However the children were admonished to abstain from pre-marital sex and any practice or act that can expose them to contract HIV/AIDS.

The third and final presentation was by Mr. Usiwo Emmanuel Ubogu. In the presentation titled, sexuality education and gender based violence (GBV), Mr. Usiwo x-rayed the differences between sex and gender and between the myths and facts of sexuality education. He also enlightened the Children on the different forms of gender based violence (GBV) such as sexual, physical and psychosocial violence. He encouraged the children to be bold and confident at every point in time to enable them resist any form of gender based violence and/or report to their superiors and to appropriate authorities whenever they sense danger around them.

The highlight of the event was class based quiz competition on the various presentations of the day. Two persons were selected through a transparent elimination process to compete against each other. All the children were given equal opportunities as the participants were made to pick a number and to answer the already set question assigned to the picked number. At the end of the completion, six winners emerged, one from each class. Each of the winners received the big sized Oxford Advanced Leaner’s Dictionary (10th Edition) and a Casio 3-Display scientific calculator. Satisfied with the performance of the students at the quiz completion, the Director also enlisted the best runner-up as a beneficiary of the same dictionary and calculator. Two other students who answered important questions during the competition from the audience during the completion were given consolation prizes, each going home with a big dictionary each. So, the victorious students include:

Winners:

1. Simon Onyebuchi – J.S.S. 1

2. Sunday Divine – J.S.S. 2

3. Chukwuka Ifeoma – J.S.S. 3

4. Nwaegbeni Francisca – S.S. 1

5. Agawuzo Geraldine – S.S. 2

6. Okolie Esther – S.S. 3

Best Runner-Up

7. Kidochukwu Stellamaris – S.S.3

Consolation Prizes

8. Okondu Miracle – J.S.S. 1

9. Onyeka Pearl – J.S.S. 1

Outside the individual gifts, the Director of JDPC Issele-Uku also made a presentation of a 4x6 white marker board with a park of marker and two dusters to the principal, Sr. Henrietta Aguh NES for the use of the school. All the participants were also provided with snacks for refreshment.

The celebration came to an end at about 3pm after the vote of thanks from the senior prefect, Miss Kidochukwu Stellamaris, closing prayer by the principal, Sr. Henrietta Aguh NES and the blessing by the JDPC Director, Rev. Fr. JohnBosco Ezeonwumelu.

Caritas Nigeria

U.S. Mission Nigeria

CRS

CDC

Africa CDC

The U.S. President's Emergency Plan for AIDS Relief (PEPFAR)

 

*KISSING IN RELATIONSHIP AND COURTSHIP*

Pastor, can we kiss? Is kissing a sin? That is a question on the lips of many young people who are serving God, but cannot seem to keep away from kissing each other as an expression of their love.

True to it, and as a counselor, I know there are many Christians who are doing this regularly. As a young man myself in courtship, I never had sex with my fiancée then, but I kissed her a few times and I really felt guilty about it. In fact, the feeling I had was that the Holy Spirit was grieved at it. So, I am not oblivious of what you are going through exactly.

Now, having been married for some years, about nineteen years, I can tell you, that the strong urge to kiss as singles is just more of the devil trying to trip you than an expression of love! Folks in western countries might find this ridiculous as well, since they are more liberal and they often greet as well with no lust attached.

Some of us go ahead and quote the scripture to justify this act. Well, in a very a straight forward way, you will never find a scripture that forbids kissing or that says, “thou shall not kiss.” In fact what you find are scriptures that seems to be encouraging kissing, and that in the New Testament!

All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss. (1 Corinthians 16:20 KJV)

Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you. (Romans 16:16 KJV)

Doesn’t this mean that God wants us to kiss?

The instruction to kiss that we see in the above verses and in some more places are verses that we have to consider in their cultural contexts.

The Jews usually greet one another with a kiss, somewhat on the cheek and not a direct mouth-to-mouth kiss or some French kiss

This is why Judas kissed Jesus Christ. He was just greeting him. It’s like a handshake.

And while he yet spake, behold a multitude, and he that was called Judas, one of the twelve, went before them, and drew near unto Jesus to kiss him. (Luke 22:47 KJV)

Kisses with Jews as described above is a form of greeting in their culture, hence Paul termed it as holy kissing.

In Nigeria, we don’t kiss one another with a kiss. Hence, the Jewish kiss is holy, but the Nigerian kiss is not holy! In non–Jewish states, a kiss outside wedlock between two people who are in love, behind closed doors will not be holy because it will lead to some unholy things!

The initial kiss might even be holy, but after a while, the law of progression will step in and before you know it, kissing will lead to some other things.

If I come into a meeting with my wife and an usher grabs my wife and plants a kiss on her, I will remove my suit and fight! Why? We don’t greet each other with some mouth-to-mouth kiss! If your handshake dey too long sef, I fit suspect you, not to talk of a kiss!

If you and your fiancée are kissing each other behind the church and as your pastor, I bump into you, who will apologise? It’s you! If as your Pastor, I’m kissing my wife behind the church, and you bump into us, who will still apologise? It is still you! Because we are married!

You see after marriage, if you want to kiss yourself 24 hours a day for the next one month; God is okay with it! Why? Your body belongs to each other! But after marriage, you will know that it is not all about kissing! It is about school fees, and house rent and pampers! You won’t feel like kissing all the time! So why would you want to jeopardise your relationship with God with what you can do as long as you want eventually?

The idea of holding on is where maturity is, and it is all about self-control. This is what separates the boys from the men! Ability to delay gratification!

Young ladies, when a guy comes and says, “let’s kiss,” you don’t submit your lips like you are submitting paper in examination hall. The power of life and death lies in your mouth! If the guy is hungry, why must it be your mouth that he would eat? If he is really hungry, doesn’t he know where they sell Kpomo (treated cowhide) in the market?

For married people, feel free to kiss yourselves! Your spouse should love it, then go ahead and give it! It won’t be a sin!

But for singles, always have this at the back of your mind that when you are in love, what you did with him or her, the last time you met will not satisfy you the next time! It is a law, so you need to consciously guard against that.

Finally, let me say, it is not wise to meet somebody and the next thing is that you are kissing! There are people you kiss, and your jaws are locked. There are people you kiss, and as it were, you cannot pray again. There are strange mouths you kiss for five minutes, and it leads to regrets for the next five years! There are poeple you kiss, and your destiny is arrested. If you doubt that, ask Jesus, for it was the kiss of Judas that led to his arrest!

*CONFESSION FOR THE DAY*

I have understanding of God's word and I have self control

*PRAYER FOR THE DAY*

Lord, teach me self control by your Spirit

*THOUGHT FOR THE DAY*

A man without self- control is like a city broken into and left without walls. (Proverbs 25:28 ESV)

*ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY*

If you have been kissing outside wedlock, decide to stop today

Contacts Rev Dr okechi Iwunze on what's app for counselling 

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SEX AND MOANING

1. Moaning is a vocal expression of sexual pleasure

2. Moaning encourages your spouse to keep on doing what he/she is doing to give you pleasure

3. The sweeter the pleasure, the more passionate the moaning

4. Pay attention to your spouse's moan. When you hear your spouse moan more, keep on doing that act. Moaning is a like a tip, a guide to knowing how to please your spouse

5. Don't lay lifeless, soundless, motionless in bed when your spouse is having sex with you. It communicates that you are not interested

6. The sweet names you call your spouse during love making, "Sweetheart", "Hun", "Babe".. don't be using them only during love making, use them also when sex is not the agenda. Show your spouse that you value him/her for more than an orgasm

7. Some people use colorful words during moaning such as "F*ck, that feels so good!". If you have such a colorful spouse, he/she is not insulting you, that is not the time to be a grammar police, your spouse is just feeling really good because of you. If you will use colorful words, make sure they don't offend your spouse

8. Don't copy moaning sounds in movies or try and imitate porn star moans; be you, don't act

9. Most people close their eyes when they moan. The feeling is intense

10. As you moan be aware of your surrounding. If you live very close to neighbors, watch your volume; enjoy but don't disturb the peace of others

11. As you moan, be conscious of the children if they are sleeping near. Lest they think mom and dad are having a bedroom fight

12. If you want those moments where you can unleash yourself the most and moan your loudest; occasionally book a room in a hotel that is sound proof and scream your lungs there

13. Moaning adds to the memorable experience of the love making. It is the soundtrack to the act

14. If your mind is lusting after another; you might find yourself calling that person's name while having sex with your spouse. Who preoccupies your fantasies?

15. Don't compare your spouse's moan with that of your ex/exes. Enjoy your spouse as he/she is

16. For most men, their moan is tied to their breathing. They moan and breathe louder as the pleasure intensifies. He breathes a loud "Ahhh" as he ejaculates

17. In most cases, the woman is the cheerleader during love making. Her moaning boosts the man's ego, urging him to continue

18. When your spouse moans as if he/she is about to climax, that is not the time to stop. Finish the job, keep doing that thing; take him/her there. Don't frustrate your spouse and lose momentum

19. Most people increase their moan and the passion of the moan when they are about to climax

20. After the highest moan and the climax, seal it with the words "I love you"

21. Moans are special. Only that special someone gets to hear your pleasure sounds

HOW TO APOLOGISE TO YOUR SPOUSE

1. Don't justify why you did wrong. Accept it was wrong

2. Don't seduce your spouse into sex hoping that sex will make your spouse forget the wrong you did and you can escape humbling yourself to say sorry

3. Don't blame your spouse for making you do something wrong. Be an adult. Take responsibility for your actions

4. Don't send friends, family or siblings to apologise on your behalf. It shows cowardice. Face the one you have wronged

5. Don't belittle the wrong you did as if showing your spouse he/she is overreacting. If it is a big deal to your spouse, take it as a big deal

6. Don't start listing your spouse's past wrongs when your spouse confronts you on your current wrong. Love doesn't keep a record of wrongs

7. Don't apologise on social media or put a post on Facebook or WhatsApp status hoping your spouse will see it without saying anything in private. Make your apology personal and heartfelt

8. Don't brush it off and move on as if nothing happened just because you know your spouse loves you. Don't sweep things under the carpet

9. Don't throw money and gifts at your spouse and doing good deeds without addressing the hurt you have caused and the issue. You can't buy your way into healing. Healing is emotional, not material

10. Don't apologise rudely and casually saying "Aah, OK then, I am sorry then if that will make you stop complaining" just because your spouse has asked for an apology. Show genuine remorse

11. Don't wait for when your spouse has decided to divorce you or to break up with you to let go of your ego and say sorry. You might be too late

12. Apologise as soon as possible, sincerely, acknowledging your fault, recognising how it hurts your spouse, assuring him/her of your love and commiting to do better.