An opportunistic woman

In this part of the world, most ladies are looking for men who will treat them like queens. That's great!

However, my concern is that most of such ladies are not ready to treat their men also like kings.

Queens are only married to kings!

In the past, I have told you how I give my wife royal treatment in our marriage. She's indeed the queen in my world.

But what most of the ladies don't know about my wife is that she treats me also like the king that I am.

She respects me!

She honours me!

She submits to me!

She cherishes me!

She loves me like kilode!

I mean the whole to her!

My wife and I came into marriage with the mindset that it's about US. In our marriage, my wife has never felt more deserving and entitled to things than me. She wants the best for me just as I want the best for her.

Ladies who feel more deserving and entitled to things than their husbands in marriage are opportunists. Period!

Marriage becomes sweet when the two spouses "expend" themselves towards each other. But marriage becomes unhealthy and one-sided when one spouse thinks that marriage is about them alone.

During my last birthday, my wife gave me superb gifts. When I reflected on the meaning and monetary value of the gifts, what she gave me was almost twice the value of what I gave her during her own birthday. "Ladies, shay una dey see?"

Over the years, I have shared with you the secrets of my marriage. In my marriage, we are not perfect. But one thing we have succeeded to achieve is simplicity. We are down to earth. All protocols duly removed.

It takes the right mindset to have a great marriage!

I hope you have heard me very clearly!

By Coach Joshua

BE YOURSELF

1 ----- Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish, it makes you indestructible.

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2 ----- Be happy & be who you want to be. If others don't like it, then let them be. Happiness is a choice, life isn't about pleasing everybody.

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3- ---- I no longer have the energy for meaningless friendships, forced interactions & unnecessary conversations.

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4 ----- I don’t chase people anymore. I learned that I’m here, and I’m important. I’m not going to run after people to prove that I matter.

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5 ----- I believe it’s healthy to spend time alone. you need to learn how to be by yourself and not defined by another person.

The world we live in

The day I entered mortuary, what I saw was undescribable.... Human beings laid down on bare floor and stark naked. They were more than fifty. Some were supported by jerry cans, some were placed on bare floor, some on tables and some on plank. Women and Men were together but were stoned dead with their private part uncovered.

When we pushed Dare inside, the attendant removed all the cloth on his body and my leader was stark naked and he was placed on a wood. I looked at him, he could not protest, he could not use his hands to cover his nakedness and I asked myself, what is this life all about?

Why are we struggling to possess everything?

Why are we having pride and ego as if we own the world?

Why can't we forgive one another and know that vanity over vanity and all is vanity?

See house owners, degree holders, car owners, lying on top of one another naked without shame. See different hair styles on the head of women and here they are stoned dead.

Life is nothing, position is for a while, riches and wealth is temporary. I don't know when am leaving this world but I have an idea of what will happen to me when am no more.

I want to be better than yesterday, I want to be more humble. I want to be more forgiving and I want to be more humane than before because I have seen that life is nothing and death is certain and it is a leveller of status in life.

Let us step on the sand softly as the floor is slippery.

_The effects of peaceful marriage_

Peaceful marriage prolongs life.

Peaceful marriage enhances family and social health and peace.

It sets a good example for younger ones to emulate.

It creates a sound atmosphere for progress in life.

It brings honour and glory to God.

It is a vessel of evangelism.

A peaceful marriage brings the favour of God and His blessings on the family.

Let us therefore try all what we can, to make our marriages peaceful to fulfill the intended purpose of God for us. His banner over us is love so let LOVE reigns.

Misleading relationship

WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY.

Don't remain in a relationship you are suffering in because of ( what will people say)

Don't go into a relationship ( because of what will people say)

Learn to say NO when you need to say NO

And YES when you needed to say YES .

A lot of us have made mistakes and taking decisions because of the thought of WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY.

do the right thing for God and for you and not WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY.

POISON THAT KILLS MEN

Once upon a time a beautiful girl got tired of her marriage life and wanted to murder her spouse.

One morning she ran to her mother and say to her " mother, I am tired of my husband I can no longer support his nonsense. I want to kill him but I am afraid Law of the land will hold me responsible, can you please help me mother?"

The mother answered:

- Yes my daughter I can help you, but, there is a little task attached.

The daughter asked "what task? I am willing and ready to assume any task attached in order to get him out"

OK, said the mother,

1..You will have to make peace with him, so that no one will suspect you when he is dead.

2.. You will have to beautify yourself in order to look young and attractive to him

3.. You have to take good care of him and be very nice and appreciative to him

4.. You have to be patient, loving and less jealous, have more listening ears, be more respectful and obedient

5. Spend your money for him and don’t get angry even when he refuse to give you money for whatever

6. Don’t raise your voice against but encourage Peace and love so that you will never be suspected when he must have died.

Can you do all of that?

Asked the mother.

Yes i can. She replied

OK, said the mother.

Take this powder and pour a bit in his every day meal, it will slowly kill him.

After 30 days the lady came back to her mother and said.

Mother, I have no intention of killing my husband again. As of now I have grown to love him because he has completely changed, he is now a very sweet husband than I ever imagined.

What can i do to stop the poison from killing him?

Please help me mother.

She pleaded in a sorrowful tone.

The mother answered;

Do not worry my daughter. What I gave you the other day was just Tumeric Powder. It will never kill him.

In reality, you were the poison that was slowly killing your husband with tension and dispassion.

It was when you started loving, honouring and cherishing him that you saw him change to a nice and sweet husband.

Men are not really wicked, but our way of relating with them determines their responses and feelings towards us.

Women if you can only show respect, dedication, love, care and commitment to your husband he will 100% be there for you.

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