THE BITTER ASPECT OF ROMANCE

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1 **** To offer a girl friendship when love is in her heart is like giving a loaf of bread to one who is dying of thirst.

2 ***** Loving someone who is loving another one is like hugging a cactus. The more you hug, the more it hurts.

3 ***** We just have to accept the fact that some people are going to stay in our hearts... even if they don't stay in our lives.

4 **** Real tears are not those that fall from the eyes and cover the face, but those that fall from the heart and cover the soul.

5***** You know what hurts so much? Its when someone made you feel special yesterday but makes you feel like you're a nobody today.

SOMETIMES IN LOVE....SOMETIMES IN LIFE......

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1 ------ Sometimes, you just need to distance yourself from People. If they Care, They will notice. If they don't, you know where you stand.

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2 ------- Sometimes, People learn to Lie at some point, bcoz not everyone deserve to know the Truth.

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3 ----- Sometimes, to get Someone's Attention, you need to Stop giving them yours.

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4 ------ Sometimes, the Only Blessing you need to count is your Heartbeat.

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5 ------ Sometimes, you don't Regret your Past. You just Regret the Time you have waste with the Wrong People.

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6 ------ Sometimes, You lose the things you're trying so hard to save, just bcoz you hold on to them too tightly.

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7 ------ Sometimes, When you give up on Someone. It's not bcoz you don't care anymore but bcoz You realize they don't.

Avoid a contentious wife

*39 ANCIENT WISDOM TIPS FOR SINGLES AND MARRIED*

*By D.K. Olukoya G.O MFM*

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1. Wedding is a day but marriage is a lifetime .

2. A stingy man who is single will still be stingy when married.

3. Silence can never be misquoted.

4. If you want what no one has had, you must do what no one has done.

5. When God wants to bless you, He puts a person in your life. When Satan wants to destroy you, he puts a person in your life.

6. It is better to be single and alone than to be married to the wrong person.

7. Avoid a contentious woman.

8. 3 men to avoid:

a. A hot tempered man.

b. A womanizer.

c. A drunkard.

9. Marrying a comedian does not guarantee a happy marriage.

10. Never be yoked to anyone who will not be yoked to God.

11. 3 words that echo peace in a marriage:

a. I love you .

b. I am sorry .

c. Thank you.

12. Don't waste your time meditating or dwelling on your singleness.

13. Cohabitation is a recipe for marital failure .

14. Deal with anti-marriage dreams.

15. Masturbation is destruction.

16. *Marriage without friendship is like a sky without the sun.*

17. *If you rush into marriage, you may end up with someone who* *will bury your destiny.*

18. *A successful marriage is always a triangle : God, a man and a woman.*

19. Why you marry is as important as who you marry.

20. Much happiness in life depends on your marital choice.

21. A man needs divine wisdom from God in choosing who to marry.

22. Do not place your priority on good looks; no woman is ugly, she just needs rebranding.

23. 3 major characteristics to look for in a woman:

a. Fear of God.

b. Wisdom.

c. Discretion (beauty is vanity).

24. The best way to enslave a woman is to show her love excessively - as a rule, women don't run away from where they're pampered.

25. *Love is not blind;*

*infatuation and lust are blind.*

26. Love puts God first,

lust puts sex first.

27. Test every love with your peace of mind, if it is absent, God is not there.

28. If you are a true friend, you will attract true friends.

29. Caring hearts never lack caring hands.

30. Desperation leads to frustration.

31. Bad marriages can be avoided before they begin.

32. *Keep yourself pure and your bed undefiled.*

33. *It is spiritual insanity to plan to convert someone so you can marry the person.*

34. Wage war against the devil that fought your parents' marriage.

35. Marriage is a covenant, always look before you leap.

36. It is better to be single and believing God to be married than to be married and believing in God to be single.

37. A broken courtship is better than a failed marriage.

38. Do not marry money or property, marry a person.

39. Be presentable.

*REMEMBER, THE WORST PLACE AFTER HELL FIRE IS BAD MARRIAGE. THEREFORE, WATCH, THINK AND PRAY BEFORE GOING INTO IT.*

Do well to forward it to our children, the single and married individuals on your contact list.

THINGS YOU DO THAT MAKE YOUR SPOUSE INSECURE

1. Coming home late often without a good reason. Who are you from seeing?

2. No longer showing sexual interest in your spouse. Are you getting sex somewhere else?

3. Spending hours on your phone smiling. Who are you chatting with?

4. Exchanging suggestive messages with others yet you claim it is innocent flirting. Why are you making others feel special?

5. Treating other people better than you treat your spouse. Did your spouse stop being your priority?

6. Spending less time with your spouse and cancelling on your planned events. Must your spouse beg to be with you?

7. Your kisses have become cold and forced. Have you stopped being excited for your spouse?

8. Sudden secrecy on your side and getting defensive. Are you living a seperate life?

9. Other people knowing more about you than your spouse and before your spouse. When did you two stop being a team?

10. Your sudden effort to look good and smell good as you don't bother with your spouse. Are you trying to impress someone new?

11. The resurfacing of your ex and you two spending more time together. Has the past come to destroy the home?

12. You suddenly going to bed late when your spouse is asleep. Are you avoiding your spouse?

13. You spending more time with friends who are not pro-marriage or pro-your marriage. Are you being negatively influenced?

14. Hurting your spouse and seeing no need to apologise. Did you stop caring?

15. You praising another and comparing your spouse with them. Do you long to be with them?

16. Hiding your spouse from the public and social media. Don't you want people to know you are married and to whom?

17. You constantly talking of separation but you are still in the marriage. Are you in or out?

18. Giving stories that don't add up. Why are you lying?

19. Ignoring your spouse's phone calls and texts. Are you taking your spouse for granted?

Making your spouse insecure is wrong and selfish. Stop torturing your spouse with questions and assumptions. Get to calm the mind of your spouse, it is your role to make your spouse feel safe and assured

WHY MARRIAGE IS GOOD.

1. You get to have someone to come home to and share company with

2. You get to have someone with whom you can have as much sexual pleasure as you both want

3. You get to have someone to look after and who looks after you

4. You get to walk with someone who is your best friend long term, at a time when even friendships don't last

5. You get to build a future with someone who knows you as an adult. Our parents know who were as children, our spouse knows who we truly are as adults

6. You get to have someone to raise and guide the children with, collective effort

7. You get to have someone who won't give up on you just because of an argument

8. You get to have someone who has your best interest at heart and looks out for you, warns you, corrects and challenges you to be better

9. You get to have someone who shares in your success, your sorrows, your struggles, your good and bad days

10. You get to have a companion. You are not alone, no loneliness. Someone to laugh with and open up to without feeling you are a bother or you are talking too much

11. You get to have someone you are intertwined with to be your strength when you are weak

12. You get to have a prayer partner who prays fervently because whatever affects you affects him/her

13. You get to have a dependable helper you can count on

14. You get to have someone to share responsibilities and roles with at home, lessening the weight

15. You get to have someone to flirt with and be naughty with without judgement

16. You get to have someone who has spent so much time with you that they understand you and can represent you, cover you and get you even without saying a word

17. You get to have someone who worries about you when you are not OK, when an accident happens, when you are quiet or when you come home late

18. You get to have someone to pour your love to knowing that you are not wasting it because this is long term

19. You get to have someone who has given you authority to call on them, ask them for help or do things for you with no pay or demands; all because your spouse loves you and you do the same for your spouse

20. You get to have someone who will be a custodian of your secrets and memories for life instead of talking with person A, then person B, then person C... It is comforting to build with one

21. You get to have someone who teaches you things you never knew, only if you are willing to learn

22. You get to have someone to grow old with whose love has been tried and tested

23. You get to have someone who will continue with your vision and family in case you die

24. You get to have someone you loved and who loved you for life in your brief journey on earth

25. You get to have someone who helps you to fulfil purpose and you two coming together means you can do more

THE BENEFITS OF SEX WHEN YOU DO IT Right

FOR THE MARRIAGE COUPLES.

1. Gets you to start the day right. Morning glory has a way of kick starting your day with a smile on your face, warmth in your heart and pep in your step

2. Gets you to good sleep. Love making can knock you out so good. Sleep is sweet when you take each other there

3. Tightens the bond between you two, your love grows deeper with every pleasurable experience

4. Helps you to know your spouse better. When the Scriptures talk about sex, Scripture says "Abraham knew his wife". Love making makes you two let down your guard, you get to know each other deeper

5. Calms your emotions. When you're tense, angry or stressed, love making can give you great relief

6. Helps you two resolve fights. Frictions in marriage will be there, but after talking about it and coming to an understanding, seal it with some love making. Be careful though not to make love and ignore issues

7. Inspires you. Something happens to the brain after a sexual high. You can come up with solutions to save the world after climbing Mount Erotica

8. Makes both of you feel special when you exclusively give each other your bodies. His body is hers, her body is his

9. Inspires spiritual and emotional intimacy. With love making comes pillow talks and heart to heart conversations

10. Grows your family. Baby making through love making

11. Gives you a chance to be naughty. Unleash the flirty and cheeky you on your spouse

12. Gives you pleasure in your tough days. You can do with a good experience, life can be a pain

13. Heals you. Your body rejuvenates when your bodies collide in love

14. Celebrates your union as God intended. Love making is God's gift to your marriage, please your Maker

To enjoy all these benefits, stay faithful to each other. Sex was meant to make you two one in your marriage, not to be the source of pain when you abuse it.