Monday, 10 January 2022

No two persons are created the same, even identical twins.


No two persons are created the same, even identical twins. Our relationship with God goes a long way in guiding our decision to marriage.
You cannot judge with your physical eyes in determining who's your spouse to be. You need spiritual intervention and guidance from the Almighty God, who will instruct your mind and expose inherent dangers you cannot identify with human knowledge.
All that glitters is not gold. Ladies, don't think that because a guy is riding on flashy car and dresses fine, he's the best for you.
There's nothing wrong with having guys with such endowment and attributes, but the question is, is he meant for you. Pray to marry your own man and not that meant for someone else.
Likewise men, the physical beauty of a woman or her financial position should not be the reason to marry her. She can possess all these but yet will not bring you happiness.
Marriage is not a sprint race but a marathon that you must be prepared for a very long distant race.
I encourage those of us already in it to make the best out of it.

YOU MUST DO THAT COURT WEDDING!


See, if you have no money to do the three types of wedding, just say so, pray about it and let God bless you instead of hiding behind "Traditional marriage is the best...", "Our fore fathers didn't do church wedding and have no problem..." bla...bla...bla...! What about those whose fore fathers and ancestors did church wedding and have no problem? Go and sit down!
Traditional marriage is basically to pay the bride price, both families to get to know each other and do what custom and tradition expect you to do. (Christians should avoid anything idolatry).
Church wedding is to get God's blessings on a holy ground with brethren as witnesses.
Court wedding! Now, let's talk!
Unless you want to remain in your country for life and have no dream of travelling out at least to enjoy some life with your partner (not everyone travels to USA to wash plate at McDonald's), you must do that court wedding!
As a lady who wants to change her maiden name to married name, the bank needs your court wedding certificate to do that. You hear? The newspaper needs your court wedding certificate. There are some businesses you can't properly transact if your bank details do not bear your current name.
You can't get some jobs too!
The name on your NIN must tally with all your official names especially the one at the bank. This apply more to ladies so ladies, you better drag that guy down to court and do the needful before you start singing a new song few years after marriage!
God will bless you ooo!
Your husband will acquire properties. You will build business conglomerates, you will be known around the world!
Stay safe and get your official name boldly printed and approved by the government of the land on a certified sheet of paper, you hear?
Ladies, you hear?
Thank you!

*SEX is sweet but* **poisonous when practiced wrongly*


A man who can control his sexual urge is a man who can live many years on earth. Men don't be your destiny destroyer; be careful.
1. A real Man has only one Woman in his life.
2. Do not obey your Erection at all times. Most Erections mislead you to wrong direction. Control your erection if you don't want to have few days on earth with much poverty on you.
3. Don't date a lady because she has sexy curves, boobs and shapes. Those things are just deceptive avoid such, don't fall for what is called the irony of social media.
4. It is not everything you see under skirt that you should hustle to eat, some skirts contain snakes that will bite you and leave you uncomfortable. Control your sexual urge. Self control and abstinence in most cases pays a lot.
5. Marrying a woman doesn't mean she's your property. Treat her with respect. Make her your queen, love, honor and give her reasons to treat you the same.
6. Having many girlfriends doesn't make you a man. It only makes you a womanizer, a cheat, sinner and a boy.
7. For the fact that you are good in bed doesn't make you a man. A real Man is the man who does not run from his responsibility but faces it squarely.
8. Respect any lady that loves you. Yes, it is not easy for a lady to throw her love on you and support your future.
9. The world celebrates successful men. Nobody will celebrate you for having many girlfriends. Therefore what is the benefit? Waste of energy, money and waste of Sperm.
Remember, being honest, loyal and faithful that's the TRADEMARK of a REAL MAN.

FOR PARENTS-PARENTING


*Parenting.*
A father’s influence goes to the fourth generation after him. Whitney Houston’s parents Emily (Cissy) and John Houston divorced when she was at kindergarten. Together with lover, Bobby Brown, Whitney smoked crack in the presence of their 5 year old daughter, Bobbi Kristina. At 22, Bobbi died of drug abuse…her mother Whitney died at 48 on similar grounds. Great careers and more importantly, great lives are lost due to weak fatherhood.
While there is little you can do about your ancestors, there is something that you can do about your descendants. One thing that prevents a man from being a good father is that he hasn’t completed being a boy. To be in your children’s’ memory tomorrow, you have to be in their lives’ today. Having children doesn’t make you a father. Raising them does.
There are many of us who were raised up in unstable families but we don’t have to pass it on to our children. We don’t have to fight in the presence of our children. We can choose to shield their emotions from our disputes as adults. To a large extent, you are a product of your early relationships
Unstable parents create insecure children. Stable parents raise stable children. Children need affection (hugs,), attention (listening) and affirmation (positive words), every day. When a man loves his wife, it creates security and stability. The best gift a father can give his children is to love their mother. Children learn how to handle feelings, loses, failure and conflicts at home.
Regrettably, parenting can neither be delegated nor suspended for a while as we work for the ring of fame and fortune. The growth of children is irreversible. Like a young tree, it takes the bends directed by the gardener, so is the life of a child. You can’t shape it in adulthood; you can’t pick it from where you left after you reach the top in your career pursuits. It’s always easier to model young boys than to rehabilitate grown up men.
If you invest in your child, you don’t have to invest for your child. Children require presence not presents. No amount of gifts and meeting financial obligations can replace your personal presence. Any written will can be torn in a few years after the demise of the writer of the will. The only sure inheritance that you can leave behind is the investment you make in your child not for your child.

HOW TO BE A ROMANTIC WIFE.SINGLES PLEASE GO ALONG.


1. Remember that romance is not the husband's responsibility alone.
2. Compliment your husband when he is well-dressed and smells good.
3. Touch your husband's thigh when he is driving or seated next to you when you want to tell him something.
4. Flirt with him over the phone.
5. Play with his fingers when you two are having pillow talks.
6. Cuddle with him and place his head on your bosom when you two are in bed.
7. Place your hand on his arm as a Queen who knows her position.
8. Dress up for his visual stimulation, especially in the bedroom.
9. Dance for him and tease him.
10. Tell him all the passionate things you want to do to him.
11. Praise his sexual performance and the things he does that give you pleasure. Tell him how he drives you crazy.
(Hmmm very notable)
12. Take him out on dates, don't always wait for him to plan things.
13. Kiss him, not just on the lips but also his cheeks, his forehead, his fingers.
14. Offer to serve him with a smile and take care of him.
15. Call him special names "My King", "Darling", "Honey", "Treasure of my heart", "My Happiness".
16. Be confident in being yourself, do great things as an individual. It excites him when he is proud of you.
17. Talk highly about him in public, encourage him in private when he is down.
18. Find out his favourite sex position and do it to him often.
(Very important)
19. Help him to put on and remove his clothes, his tie, his coat.
20. Rally the children in appreciating him, make him feel valued at home regardless of his financial status.
21. Buy him gifts that he will like.
22. Prepare his favourite meal or ask him what he would like to eat.
23. Tell him you love him. Men love to be affirmed too. Tell him also what you love about him.
24. Ask him how his day has been, be caring wife.
25. Make sexual moves on him, don't just lay there waiting for him to do all the work. (mmmmm)
26. Pray God should bless him, not because you think he is the devil or the problem in your marriage. Prayerful women are romantic.
27. Attend to his needs without him asking such as making him a cup of tea/coffee when he is working.
Just because you have spent years together doesn't mean you stop making him feel special. You were attractive and made him feel valued and that is why he pursued you to get you, stay attractive and valuing him to keep him; as you do so, he will long for your presence and give you his best. The woman who loves her husband, builds her home.
May God help you that is reading this to be a responsible wife.

My Two Stories

I want to share two old stories with you, and see how you would choose !

" *Story* *One*"
A certain company has a tradition of holding a party and a lottery every Christmas Eve.
The rules of the lottery draw are as follows: each employee pays ten dollars as a fund. There are three hundred people in the company. In other words, a total of three thousand dollars can be raised. The winner takes all the money home.
On the day of the lottery draw, the office was filled with a lively atmosphere. Everyone wrote their names on a slip of paper and put them in the lottery box.
However, a young man by name Karl, hesitated when he wrote. Because he thought that the company's cleaner has a frail and sickly son who was going to have an operation recently, but she did not have the money to pay for the operation. This made her very troubled.
So, even though he knew that the chance of winning was slim, with only a three percent chance, Karl wrote the name of the cleaner on the note.
The tense moment came. The boss stirred the slips in the lottery box, and finally drew out a note. Karl also kept praying in his heart: I hope the Cleaner can win the prize...Then the boss carefully announced the winner’s name. A miracle has happened!
The winner turned out to be the Cleaner! Cheers broke out in the office, and the Cleaner hurriedly came to the stage to accept the award. She burst into tears and said movedly: I am so lucky! With this money, my son has hope to live !
As the party was in progress, while thinking about this "Christmas miracle", Karl paced to the lottery box. He took out another piece of paper and opened it casually. The name on it was also the name of the Cleaner ! Karl was sincerely surprised. He took out several pieces of the slip of papers one after another. Although the handwriting on them were different, the names were all the same. All of them were the names of the Cleaner ! Then Karl's eyes were red with tears of joy. He clearly understood that there is a Christmas miracle in the world, but the miracle will not fall from the sky. People are required to create it by themselves!

" *Story* *Two* "
One afternoon, I went for a walk with a friend in the suburbs. Suddenly, an old man in tattered clothes approached with a bag of green vegetables in his hand. The sales of those vegetables are very poor, the leaves were dehydrated and yellow, and there were holes in them that are bitten by insects. But my friend bought three bags without saying a word. The old man embarrassedly explained: "I grew this vegetable myself. It rained a while ago, and the vegetable were soaked. They look ugly. I'm sorry.
After the old man left, I asked my friend: Will you really eat these vegetables when you go home?
He said no. These vegetables can no longer be eaten.
Then why are you buying?
Because it is impossible for anyone to buy those vegetables. If I don't buy it, the old man will probably have no income.
I admire my friend's good deeds, so I caught up with the old man and bought some vegetables from him too. The old man said very happily, "I been trying to sell them all day, and only you are willing to buy it. Thank you so much. You have put food on the table for me and my family.
Several handfuls of green vegetables that I can't eat at all taught me a valuable lesson. When l heard the old man, I was almost move to tears.
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When we are in a low ebb, we all hope that miracles will happen to us; but when we are capable, are we willing to be the one who creates miracles for others ?
When reading this article, everyone has two choices: 
1) You can spread it, spread some positive messages, and make the world know more love.
2) You can also ignore it at all, as if you never saw it.
However, your little sharing action may illuminate the destiny of countless people and inspire them to show a little more kindness.
*Wishing you happiness always*