MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE

A successful marriage has little to do with love.

Love is not the qualification for marriage.

Love is a dangerous thing.

Love can make you think you can make it. Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce. So, don't tell me love keeps you together.

Love does not guarantee success in marriage.

Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work. The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.

You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep. Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.

Myles Munroe

Do you agree with him

*VALUE RELATIONSHIP*

*Don't be too quick to shut the door against anyone.*

*Don't be too quick to conclude that someone can not add value to your life again.*

*Don't be too quick to end friendship.*

*Don't be too quick to hold and sustain grudges and more importantly*

*Don't be too quick to draw a battle line with someone for you can never know how battle will end and you might end up fighting your helper.*

*And you know what? The bridge you burn now might be the one you need to climb to your destination.*

*The ladder you break now out of anger might be the one you need to climb to that your desired height just as the friendship that you yanked off from because of small offence can make you stranded for the rest of your life.*

*Even if you need to back out from an organization or friendship, it should be done politely not aggressively as if you will never need the person again.*

*No one knows tomorrow and no one can exist alone except God.*

*We need ourselves so let's tread with caution that we may not be fighting unnecessary battle.*

*LOVE ONE ANOTHER*

*LOVE IS ALL WE NEED*

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DR OKECHI CARES

_What will they do for themselves?_*

A 1963 Harvard graduate said this:

*_"My one big mistake in life has been providing a trust fund for my five' children. I'm very comfortable paying for an education for as long as they want to study in a reputable university. However, providing additional funds so they could have a lifestyle beyond what they have achieved on their own was a mistake."_*

A leadership teacher, John Maxwell says and I quote:

*_"If you do everything for your children, what will they do for themselves?"_*

By the time they finish university education, we have slaved and built houses for them, put car keys in their hands and bankrolled their wedding.

*_What will they do for themselves?_*

In the course of doing these for them, some people develop hypertension and all sorts of illnesses. Some slump and die. Some even steal to achieve these for their children.

*I submit to you all that inheritance goes beyond material things. Give your children the right values, strong character and a revelatory knowledge of the power they carry as a creature of God!*

*_Then they will create water to sell in the dessert and sell sand to the Arabs to build mansions for themselves._*

Do something for your children to make them have a softer take off.

The keyword is *_"take off"._*

Do not *_take over_* their lives because you yourself have your life to live.

*Think about these things critically and adjust your approach religiously. Above all teach them the word of God!!!*

A word to parents and would be parents.

COMMON MISTAKES LADIES MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP 2

I was watching the last movie when I noticed him sit beside me on the floor, with two bottles of coke and a packet of crackers biscuit, which made me smile to myself, as I focused all my attention on the movie which was showing on his television……

“Mary here is cola oo he managed to joke while i smiled, and looked at him in appreciation. We ate the biscuit and drank the coke in silence, as i returned my focus back to the movie once again.

He later held my hand gently, which really made me look at him with surprise, and he appealed to me with his eyes.

“Please accept me into your life, i’m not a bad person, i promise and swear to keep your dignity and respect intact, i truly love you” he begged.

“Really?” i asked, while he held my hand strongly.

“I swear” he answered. I rolled my eyes and said nothing.

“Please answer me” he pleaded desperately.

Seriously seeing him beg me, really gladdened my heart, but i just pretended as if he was disturbing my peace.

“What do you want me to say again?” i asked, while he drew his face closer to mine.

“Please just say yes” he whispered. I looked into his eyes and saw love, desire and honesty in it, but i controlled myself and looked away.

“Just give me time, i will think about it”. I replied

But surprisingly and out of nowhere, he drew closer to me and gave me a tight hug, this i received while i closed my eyes ……

But I soon got myself and gently pushed him away, while he looked at me gratefully, and with shinning eyes.

“I have never felt this way before, thank you” he said, while i looked away and closed my eyes briefly, because i equally felt something strong when we hugged, which i have never felt for any guy before, not even my Ex..

I was unable to concentrate on the remaining part of the movie i was watching after the hug, because all my thoughts were now on him, and even though i was the one who pushed him away, i still wanted him to hug and hold me closer to himself, but then i had to control myself, because i’m nothing but an humble girl who has her pride and dignity to protect, and so i stood up minutes later, while he stared at me with his innocent face which always make me lose focus……..

“Let me go and sleep, i’m so tired” i said to him with a smile, while he equally stood up as well and held my hand.

“Will you come once you are through with your sleep?” he asked with a pleading face, while i looked down.

“I will try” I replied, but instead of letting me go, he drew closer to me, and hugged me again, while my soul melted. I immediately fled his room without looking back….

As i lay on my bed that evening, i battled with my thoughts and emotions, as i prayed for him to be real, because i really do not want to repeat the mistake i made with my Ex, who had equally looked so honest when i first met him, and so in love, i was with him then, that i freely gave him my virginity…….

Tears fell off my eyes as i remembered how he took my most precious asset, and i swallowed hard as i bit my lips. I knew i could never get over that trauma, because i knew the pain i passed through that fateful night. I thought he really loved me, just because he looked decent and said those words i wished to hear, I guess that’s one problem every girl faces, because we never really can tell or know the guy who really loves us. Moreover, they all appear good and decent at first sight, that you won’t really see the wolf in him, if you also do have feelings for him which will then blind you from his faults and before you know what, he’s had his way with you and it’s already too late………

My thoughts really drew much tears from my eyes that evening, and before i knew what was happening, i was already crying deeply, as my mind played back on how i lost my pride to Emmanuel……..

It’s really something that touched my soul, spirit and body, but i didn’t know it was just a game to him. Only God will judge us all and here is the story of how i lost my treasure……

SINGLE SISTERS IN THE HOUSE

My Single Sisters, I come in peace.

Relationship Lesson

1. Don’t compromise your values for a partner

2. There is more than one way to say I love you

3. Be yourselves

Don’t pretend to be someone you are not.

4. A heartbreak isn’t a life break, be quick to get yourself together and move on.

5. Never allow anyone prophesy you into marriage. Seek God for yourself.

6. Be intentional about building valuable relationships.

7. Be accountable and do not say yes to a man who isn’t accountable to anyone.

8. Don’t allow anyone put you under pressure and don’t put yourself under pressure through comparison.

9. Be intentional about your growth

10. Stop rushing home after service, it’s a bad habit . Do you gerrit? If you don’t gerrit, forget about it.

11. If you don’t like him, don’t like His money. Shey you hear ?

12. Don’t keep the young man in the waiting room for too long, when or if you are sure he isn’t the one loose him and let him go.

13. Enough of being a fashionista with empty brain, develop yourself.

14. Stop making excuses for your weakness, seek help and grow.

Finally, Matthew 6:33

Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness.

Peace I leave with you

Never allow friends break your home.

So funny!

A man married his heartthrob. After almost 10 years in the marriage the wife became an Oil tycoon. She runs a thriving business that takes her to almost every part of the world. The husband, still scraping by.

The woman loved her hubby. He drives her everywhere and she seeks out his opinion on almost all matters. Jolly fellows. The husband has 5 out of the 9 cars on the fleet. With the least being a 2012 Prado jeep. Big boy. His wife takes care of him.

Okay, the meat of the story!! The man was with his friends at a regular hangout and the conversation that ensued is both hilarious and a huge lesson:

Friend: "You! I am sorry for you. Your wife has used your destiny. She's so rich whilst you're merely scraping by. Doing fake big boy. We all know your wife is the source of all your bigboyism. You better think twice. Snatch your destiny away from her before she will finish you !

Husband: "Thanks for the advice. You see, let me tell you something you don't know o. I am 45 years old now and my marriage is just 10years old and for 35 years as a bachelor, I didn't know how to use my destiny. I was suffering, no clothes, no car, couldn't afford a good accommodation. Even to eat na wahala! Now I got married 10 years ago to my wife and she knows how to use my destiny. Now I drive the latest cars and travel with her to any part of the world that even you my friends whose destinies are not been used haven't been to before.

If her usage of my destiny has given me joy, rest/ peace of mind and great comfort like this, then I am going home right now to inform my wife to continue using my destiny o. Infact! She must make sure she finish the destiny. It must not remain o....