STOP ABUSING YOUR WIFE EMOTIONALLY!

Sir, stop abusing your wife emotionally.

Yes, you have never raised your hand to beat up your wife 🤔🤔 truly, you are giving her money for upkeep and food but what you are doing to her emotionally is worst than beating her.

You treat your wife like trash, you never treat her like a human,
you never value or respect her, you never consult her in your decision making, you come home as you please, you go to work in the morning, come back home late at night leaving your wife awake waiting for your arrival.

Your wife is not your friend, you never spend time with her, you never appreciate anything she does for you, you shatter and call her bad names before your friends and family.

You never want to know if she is in the mood sexually, you always have your way.

Your wife doesn't have a say, you never listen to her advice, you never for once assist her with domestic work.

You are the type that believes in the worldly fallacy that when you give a woman a chance, she will take you for granted, that is why you never allow her to be close to you because you don't want to be taken for granted🤔

You never crack jokes with your wife but you are jovial outside your home and on social media.

You never call your wife sweet names but you address other women with sweet names.

You yell at her every time you have a little misunderstanding.

It's a crime for your wife to sit down in the sitting room every time you are around, she must bury her face in the bedroom or be busy moving up and down with domestic work🤔

Weldone Mr Tyrant.

Your wife never enjoyed you since you married her, she doesn't have a good memory of you, she never misses you every time you travel, in fact, she always wishes you stay long on your journey.

You don't show care and concern to your wife every time she is sick.

You call her lazy and yell at her every time she's pregnant.

Can you count the number of times you have rejected your wife's food because of a baseless issue?

Every time you have a little misunderstanding with your wife, you always leave the house and stay for days before you come back home.

You never connect or have the heart to heart discussions with your wife.

Your communication with your wife is very poor, you always refer to past occurrences every time your wife offended you.

To you, it's taboo to call your wife on phone and ask about her well being every time you are not around, you only call her when you have information to pass across to her.

You don't even know how your children are fed, your children's school fee is not your concern.

You don't want her on social media and you have chased friends and family away from her.

When last did you eat together on the same plate with your wife?

When last did you pray together with your wife?

When last did you play together?

When last have you slept together on the same bed in the same room as husband and wife?

You only sleep together whenever you want to have sex with her, no foreplay, no talking, no touching...you always go straight to what you are after (sex).

No forgiveness in your dictionary, you even have a diary for your wife's wrongdoing 🤔

Your wife always cries silently praying to God to touch your heart.

#Stop #torturing #your #wife #emotionally, put yourself in her shoes 👠...

Remember, she is a human being like you, it's the blood that flows through her vein too, she needs care and love.

She needs affection and attention.

She wants you to be intentional in your commitment to her.

She wants to be valued and respected.

She wants you to be proud of her.

She wants you to praise, appreciate and call her sweet names.

She wants to connect and be more intimate with you.

She wants you to be responsible and available.

She wants you to see her as a wife, companion, confidant, soul mate, companion, friend...and not as a baby-making machine, not a roommate, cook, not as a maid, not as an enemy...

Turn a new leaf 🍂

Be more responsible and love your wife unconditionally.

Watch out for part 2👉STOP ABUSING YOUR HUSBAND EMOTIONALLY!

Baby's Actions

Your 3years old son gets angry whenever you give him a food he doesn't want and throws it on you, you laugh and say "😃😃 children ehh"

Baby boy will lift his hands and slap you when he wants you to drop him... All you'd say is "you're beating mummy 😃"

No other child in that area messes with him... And you're calling him "A no- nonsense boy"

He picks up things from the ground and hits people whenever he's stopped from doing something... You smile and call him "action boy😃🤾🏿‍♂️🤸🏽‍♂️"

You expose him to all manner of violence and say "He's a man, man suppose get mind"

Few years down the line the teenage boy bullies his sisters, commands them around, shares slaps as souvenirs to anyone that dares to challenge him. You call him "man of the house"😃

He grew up having his way all through. Now he's a full grown man in the society. And it's not funny anymore

Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

*It's easier to train a son than to correct a husband*.
We could address a lot from the root.

8 SPIRITS THAT CAUSE DELAY IN MARRIAGE FOR LADIES

1. BOY-FRIEND SPIRIT

The last thing on a Boy's Mind is Marriage.

Boys don't think of marriage, they want to have fun first, and marry later, they enter into relationships only for fun and sex,

Dear Lady, if you want marriage, stop dating boys, you'll only end up as a baby mama.. A Boy is different from a Man.

A Boy wants only Relationship.

A Man wants Marriage.

2. LORD OF THE RING SPIRIT

Aunty, say NO to Lord of the Rings oh.

Engagement ring will celebrate 7 years anniversary on someone's finger. No be juju be dat?

You're even planning to celebrate your engagement anniversary again this year. Kai.

When will he do the needful?

3. HARD TO GET

This spirit tells you not to accept a marriage proposal in a hurry, to do plenty unnecessary shakara so that the brother will not think you are cheap or desperate.

It tells you to tell him to give you nine months to pray, don't pick his calls, ignore his WhatsApp messages, behave as if you are not interested even though you are dying on the inside and truly love the brother.

This spirit will not leave you until you hear the brother is getting married to another sister, then your eyes will open and you will start saying "can't he even wait for me"

Wait for you? Because you are Jesus Christ?

4. PROUD SPIRIT

That spirit that tells you to always talk to brothers anyhow because you are beautiful, educated, and anointed.

That spirit that tells you that every brother that greets you is not your class, so you keep ignoring and looking down on them.

That spirit that doesn't allow you to greet brothers except those that ride exotic cars and wear expensive clothes.

You have use pride to look down on and trivialize all the ones God sent to you.

5. DENOMINATIONAL/TRIBAL SPIRIT

I'm a Deeper Lifer and must marry one who's a Deeper Lifer as well so our marriage will be Deep.

I am a Redeemer and must marry a Redeemer, any other Brother isn't Redeemed.

I'm from Rivers state and must marry from Rivers. River will soon carry you.

Aunty, if God is leading you to another denomination or state, kindly obey and marry, stop delaying our wedding rice.

6. BAD CHARACTER

The character of some ladies ehn.

This spirit has kept many ladies single, by the time any brother gets close because of her beautiful MASCARA, her ugly CHARACTER will chase him away.

Aunty, this year, work on your character, your date will be fixed this year in Jesus Name.

7 POOR DRESS SENSE

That spirit that tells you not to dress well because you are going to heaven. Special Heavenly candidate.

You dress and add 10 years to your age .

You dress and brothers will be greeting you "Good afternoon Ma." "Yes Ma" "Thank you Ma"

This spirit tells you to use tarpaulin to sew your dress, wear green skirt, yellow blouse and red head tie.

You dress like egungun that is going to the express to collect.

Dress well, we said don't dress indecently, we never said don't dress well.

8 SPIRITUAL PROBLEM.

This is for real, this is why I encourage everyone to be prayerful, prayer isn't only for Pastors,

Be spiritual

WHEN YOUR WIFE ENJOYS TALKING WITH YOU

Women love conversations. In fact, the worst thing you can ever do to your wife is to make her feel lonely, single and ignored in marriage.

Make your wife enjoy talking with you.

1. Create time to be with her, don't let it get to the point where she has to beg you to be with her

2. Have emotional conversations with her, listen. Do not be Mr. Facts all the time. Even you as a man have an emotional and vulnerable side, embrace it

3. Ask her how her dreams and life goals are going. Most husbands expect the wife to help him achieve his dreams but have no idea about the dreams of the wife. Show concern and be supportive

4. As much you can, come home early to her and the children. Don't give her the exhausted you where she is trying to make a connection but you black out to sleep on the sofa. Don't tip toe into the home late at night when she is asleep, she will feel ignored

5. Use the bed, not just for sleeping and sex but also for intimate conversations: pillow talks

6. Give her eye contact when she is talking to you. Don't let her compete with your phone or the television

7. Don't shout at her or intimidate her. A wife is not supposed to live in fear. You ought to be her safe spot

8. Don't belittle her conversations, ideas or feelings. If something is important to her, let it be important to you

9. Randomly call her or text her, not to give her a task, but just because you thought of her

10. Call her by a sweet name; "Hun", "Love", "Sherrie"... and don't call any other woman by that name. A woman who is made to feel special enjoys to talk

11. Know when it is time she just wants to be listened to and when she is in need of your advice. Discern. Sometimes she just wants to be heard

12. Start the day on a good note with her, tell her something like "Good morning Beautiful" and end the day on a good note, tell her something like "Good night Love". How a woman starts and ends the day with her husband means a lot to her

13. Touch her when you two are talking. Caress her, rub her hands, let her lay on your chest.. She will open up more and more, at home in your arms

14. Flirt with her. In every woman there is a naughty side. Connect with her flirty self and you will reap the benefits

15. Ask her open ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer. A woman is like a novel, she wants you to explore her by asking questions that show you are interested in her

16. Apologise to her when you wrong her. A woman who loves you wants to quickly forgive you and go back to warmth with you, make it easy for her by saying "I am sorry"

17. Have a good laugh with her. Anyone a woman laughs with she grows close with

18. Compliment her, tell her how beautiful she is and how great she is. Other people might tell her this but the one she wants to hear this from is you

As you do this, as you water your wife, you will see her glow in your presence, you will fall in love over and over again, you will look at her and be proud of yourself because of how you love her. Making your wife smile should bring you pleasure like it did the days you freshly pursued her.

The man who loves his wife loves himself

BE _OPEN _BUT _DON'T_BE_LOOSE

To have total control over your life, learn to have good control over your mout

Real talk is from the brain not from opening the mouth

Two things will make people listen to you. Either you tell them what they love to hear or you talk to them with problems facing their lives

What's the point of sleeping when you can't close your eyes, there's no point in singing where nobody wanna hear your voice. Knowledge is knowing what to say while wisdon is knowing where and when to say it. Whoever sings an obituary song at a wedding ceremony wil blame himself

The dangers of the mouth is more poisonous than the bite of snake

To whom brain is given, common sense is expected

Whoever wants to talk should talk with sense and whoever wants to listen should listen with brain

Never get carried away by the sweetness of mouth. Pay more attention to the actions and listen less to words

Think now and talk later. A keyless mouth can lead to a valueless lif

You don't have to be nude to be naked

No amount of clothing can cover a person whose mouth lacks control

Never trust a new friend with all your mouth

If you have a secret keep it to yourself

Once its out of your mouth, its already in the news

Never allow anyone to subject you to silence in life

A problem shared is half solved, but be very careful from who and where you seek advice. A listening ear is better than a running mouth, always make sure your confidant is also not a loud speaker

Remember everybody in life has a dirty linen in their close

Never wash your own in public

Learn to keep to yourself whatever brings you happiness

Not all those who tells you good morning wish you good morning in life

There are three sides to every stories in life. Not everybody will say the truth when it comes to self defense

Everybody has a right to freedom of speech, but if you are not feeling what you are saying, stop saying what you feel

Never feel sorry for saying truth, but be true to yourself when saying the truth

When you add sentiments to the truth it becomes attack

Whoever you accused wrongly may never forget

When you're short of words, use silence. Silence doesn't always mean you are afraid or weak

Remember your words may be misinterpreted but no one in this world can misquote a silent person

A closed mouth can also be a closed destiny. BE OPEN BUT DONT BE LOOSE...........t........e........h.*

Funny battle

So when I was 3years old my mother had a fight with Mama Nkechi

I was playing with my sand outside the house when my mother returned angrily from the market and dropped the items she had bought from the market. She then told my dad how mama Nkechi mocked her and how she was going to deal with her.

I stood up and went inside to see what was happening.

My mother was asking my dad to come with her so they can fight the battle together, but my dad insisted that the matter is a woman's matter and since her husband is not involved in the fight, she should handle it woman to woman.

This was how my mother grabbed my hands and landed me on her back. She carried wrapper and tied me on her back.

Fear gripped me.

I could not talk. I kept looking at my father who watched in shock.

"So where are you taking my son to?"

"If you are not coming with me, Chidera will follow me and fight the battle."

"Don't injure my son o."

Tears started coming out of my eyes.

I started talking in Baby's language.

"Mummy I don't want battle."

My mother wasn't listening. She kept walking fast.

"We would fight the battle with my son. You want to show me you have a baby who is 1year old. My baby is 2year old. We would see.

We arrived at Mama Nkechi's shop and my mother went straight to her and slapped her with iron fist.

Mama Nkechi who was backing her baby behind stood up and dropped her child in her shop. My mother also dropped me on the floor and the both women started fighting.

The fight was going well and my mother was winning the battle until Mama Nkechi lost balance and fell on me. Her armpit which was smelling crayfish covered my nose and I started shouting.

On seeing this, my mother Ran to her daughter Nkechi and used her armpit to clean Nkechi's face.

"Fight me and leave my child alone. If you touch my son, I will touch your daughter. Shey you want to tell me you have pikin."

Mama Nkechi did not like this. So she ran to me and poured me saliva.

My mother did not waste time.

She accumulated her own saliva and wired it on Nkechi's face.

That was when Mama Nkechi removed her trouser and started approaching me with her naked buttocks.

On seeing this, knowing that my mother will retaliate, Nkechi shouted "Jesus Christ" and ran into the shop to hide under the bench.

I don't know where energy came from. I stood up for the first time and started running home to meet my father.

My mother kept shouting.

"Chidera come here. Does she want to clean her nyansh on your face? Don't be afraid. Be a man. Come here let me see what she will do to you. If she do it to you, I will catch her pikin and do it to her pikin."

I was crying for my life and running with all my energy.

Battle I did not plan for.

COPIED