Parenting

DADDY*

Daddy, don't wear ordinary boxer at home, you sit down, your 'thing' is dangling and your daughter is seeing it. There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom, just for your spouse. Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your house. It's not your house alone, it's a family house/home. You are putting your children into sexual bondage through these acts. The initiation starts from home.

Mummy, wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your sons is dangerous. Yes, they won't lust after you, but you might be messing up with their sensuality; and increasing their curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.

Let's stop being 'pornographic materials' to our children. Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.' It begins with me and you.

My Counsel:

Thank you very much for the issues raised in family porn. It is still our responsibility to build virtue into our family. We need to learn from others.

Still on building virtuous homes. Look at this:

*HABITS THAT SHOW IMPROPER UPBRINGING IN CHILDREN*

Please, carefully look into the list below to see where you may want to make amends on yourself or the young ones you are caring for.

Children, if not properly groomed may never get to the top in life, even if the parents are at the top of their career.

Manners take you to where your education can't take you, irrespective of your status, money or the "who you know" factor

This is not meant to hurt anyone or pinpoint on someone for their upbringing. Its a general message targeted to all the parents of today.

*1.* Going to your child's school dressed indecently? Think again.

*2.* Speaking rashly to your child's teacher.

*3.* Cursing, using foul words or swearing in front of your children.

*4.* Using makeup on children.

*5.* Dressing with tight clothes and indecently for children (they loose the sense of their princesshood and may not listen to you in future)

*7.* Your child holds the cup or glassware by the brim and you don't make a correction.

*8.* Your children don't greet and you just feel they will come around one day because they have a mood swing. (You will be blamed for it)

*9.* Your children eat with their mouth opened and you feel they will grow up some day.

*10.* Your children brought home something you did not buy for them and you said nothing. (That is the beginning of stealing)

*11.* They talked back at you and you concluded it's okay since you're a 21st century mummy. (You will hate yourself if they do that outside and they are disciplined)

*12.* They interrupt when you are speaking with another adult and you think they are bold and clever. (It's really bad manners)

*13.* They exercise authority over their nanny and domestic staff and you let them be. (That is bad parenting)

*14.* They say things like "my driver is on his way..."

I am not an advocate that children should call your domestic staff aunty or brother but, calling them by names when they are not young people is not poise either. The use of Miss, Mr or Mrs will look good on them.

*15.* Your children don't say- 'Thank you' when they have been helped or served something. They don't know how to say "please" when they need someone for help; and you are cool with that. (Bad parenting)

*16.* When your children cannot stand children who are less privileged.

*18.* When they pick their nose with their hands.

*19.* When they don't wash their hands after visiting the washroom.

*20.* When your children take something from the fridge without taking permission. (Bad parenting)

*21.* When your children don't knock on closed doors.

*22.* When your children don't collect from your hands the stuff you brought in as you walk in through the door.

*23.* When your children request for a bribe to carry out their home chores or extra task. (That is disgraceful)

*24.* When your children act like their grandparents are irritating them.

*25.* When your children have not learnt to get up from the chair for the elderly or visitors to sit.

*26.* When your child tells a lot of lies. (You will both cry in the future if such is not put to check)

*27.* When your child asks "who is that?" at a knock on your door instead of "please, who is there."

*28.* When your child is always seated by your visitors when being served drinks etc.

*29.* When your children still point their fingers at other people.

*30.* When your children play and jump around when prayers are going on. (age 4 above).

Don't be a 21st Century parent who cannot correct a child. Train your child in the way of the Lord, so that when he grows up he will not depart from it.

*IT IS BETTER TO LET YOUR CHILDREN CRY AT AN EARLY AGE WHEN YOU CORRECT THEM, IF NOT YOU WILL BOTH CRY AT NIGHT WHEN THEY BRING DISGRACE TO THE FAMILY WITH BAD AND TERRIBLE BEHAVIOURS!*

May Almighty God never let this be our portion. Amen

THE MOST RECKLESS LOVE EVER DEMONSTRATED

Good morning my neighbours 😀😀😀😀
I trust we all slept well. As for me, body just dey sweet me this morning, so I say make I share something with una, I go try make the post no long today 😁😁😁😁😁😀

Sometimes ago, while we were having our personal devotion, some thoughts struck my heart. It's about the love of God demonstrated through our Lord Jesus.

*For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not die but have eternal life.*
John 3:16 GNB

This verse that is so popular (like National Anthem) made a different meaning to me.

I tried putting myself in the scenario decribed in the verse above.

Now, I have only one son, I love that boy like my breath. People who have only one child will be able to relate.

Now, imagine that some other people sinned (not even my son). Then I'll now be asked to give up my only son to die for the sins of others......I CAN'T DO IT. THOSE SINNERS WOULD RATHER PERISH THAN TO HAVE MY DEAR SON DIE FOR THEIR SINS. And as a matter of fact, anyone that wants to reach my son would have to go through me and kill me first. Over my dead body would I leave my son to be sacrificed for the sins of others. Sebi na you sin your sin abi? Tor, na you go die your die and go your hell.

Hmmmm, this scenario made me understand the kind of sacrifice God made. He gave HIS ONLY SON......HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON, JESUS, TO DIE FOR OUR SINS........looking at it as human, it doesn't even make sense........No wonder, the Bible says only those who fear the Lord understand His ways.

Now, looking at Jesus himself, I believe God also gave Jesus His will (just as he gave everyone). We learned that satan was an angel and second in command to God, but because God gave him his will, he misused it and he was thrown to the world.

So that means, Jesus had the chance to say NO. He had the power to command thunder to strike those who came to seize him......but no, because of his unending love, he chose to die for sins he did not commit. He chose to die so that you and I can have life.
If Jesus had said no, what would have been our fate today as children of God?

One big lesson to learn from the event of the death of Jesus is that as humans, it is *NOT EVERY TIME* that we should stand on our rights. We should let some things go, even when we are on our right. If Jesus had wanted to claim right, he would not have died for our sins.

Please pause and imagine something; imagine that Jesus went to consult people for advise that time that he was to die for the sins of the world, as in, he went to ask people that God wants Him to die for the sins of others, but He has the power to say no, so what should he do? I am very sure people would call Him "MUMU" for even putting such into consideration. They'll be like "wetin be your own? Me I no follow those you wan die for abeg"

Sir, have you been called mumu because of your unusual service for Christ? People don ever look you say e be like say you dey mad because you decide to follow the hard and lonely but the right way to accomplish a task? Dem never call you holy holy? Dem never carry you do joke?
If not, then your Christianity never do. Be a proud mumu for Jesus. He was once a mumu for you too.

Again, I put myself in Jesus' situation after he has died for our sins and resurrected, I saw that it was a total display of reckless love.

Now, imagine dying for someone who is not willing to even thank you for it.

Imagine dying for someone who feels like "I send you make you go die for me?"

Imagine dying for someone who is not willing to repent. Meaning, such person has allowed the death of Christ to go in vain. I'm sure Christ knew some people would still not accept the free gift of life, but that didn't change his mind.

Now, imagine that I allow my beloved son to die for the sin of the world, with the aim that whoever accepts him and adopt a righteous lifestyle shall have everlasting life.......after this huge sacrifice, you now have the effrontery to sin again?......I will kill you immediately. I will strike you dead, I will command angel Micheal to cut you into tiny pieces, I will send thunder to roast you alive, I will avenge the death of my son on you right there and then........I am just being human.

But thank God that God is not man......His mercies endures FOREVER!
See what God is still saying in the book of Ezekiel 33:11 , even after giving up His only son 👇

"Tell them that as surely as I, the Sovereign LORD, am the living God, I do not enjoy seeing sinners die. I would rather see them stop sinning and live. Israel, stop the evil you are doing. Why do you want to die?"

What kind of matchless and incomprehensible love is this?

The heart of Jesus is so full of love that he even asked that God should forgive those crucifying him.

Luke 23:34 GNB
Jesus said, “Forgive them, Father! They don't know what they are doing.”

How do you relate with your own enemies? Don't you pray for their downfall or even death on a daily basis?
Would you not kill them yourself if you are presented with the chance?

Imagine the earthly mother of Jesus, watching her only son being humiiiated, disgraced and killed for the sins of others. Don't forget that just like every other mother, she also carried Jesus in her womb for nine months and she went through the pains of pregnancy and childbirth.......our mothers will understand this part better........even science confirms it that no pain is more excruciating than the pains of a mother in labour. I was there in the labour room with my wife when she delivered, it is no longer news, I saw everything myself. That day, na my wife dey born, but na me everybody dey tell sorry because of the way I dey cry like baby.....story for another day.

Do you desire to love the way God loves?

Take a look at this 👇
Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love.
1 John 4:8 GNB

The grace to replicate the love of Christ is given only to those that know Him. For you to love the way He loves, you have to seek to know Him first, because He is love.

Something that is worthy of note is that although, His mercies endures forever, He's a consuming fire.
Rejecting His love can unleash that part of Him.....and trust me, no one can survive His wrath.

If you die a sinner, you have missed out from His eternal love and have incured His wrath, you have rejected the free gift of eternal life and accepted death. The Bible says there's no repentance in the grave, If you can read this, I say CONGRATULATIONS, because you still stand a chance to repent and choose life.

Think about this deeply, make up your mind today to accept Jesus and enjoy the real, genuine and unadulterated love.
Do not let his death over you be in vain. Don't waste His love for you.
Accept him so that you can receive the grace to love just like him.

STOP ABUSING YOUR WIFE EMOTIONALLY!

Sir, stop abusing your wife emotionally.

Yes, you have never raised your hand to beat up your wife 🤔🤔 truly, you are giving her money for upkeep and food but what you are doing to her emotionally is worst than beating her.

You treat your wife like trash, you never treat her like a human,
you never value or respect her, you never consult her in your decision making, you come home as you please, you go to work in the morning, come back home late at night leaving your wife awake waiting for your arrival.

Your wife is not your friend, you never spend time with her, you never appreciate anything she does for you, you shatter and call her bad names before your friends and family.

You never want to know if she is in the mood sexually, you always have your way.

Your wife doesn't have a say, you never listen to her advice, you never for once assist her with domestic work.

You are the type that believes in the worldly fallacy that when you give a woman a chance, she will take you for granted, that is why you never allow her to be close to you because you don't want to be taken for granted🤔

You never crack jokes with your wife but you are jovial outside your home and on social media.

You never call your wife sweet names but you address other women with sweet names.

You yell at her every time you have a little misunderstanding.

It's a crime for your wife to sit down in the sitting room every time you are around, she must bury her face in the bedroom or be busy moving up and down with domestic work🤔

Weldone Mr Tyrant.

Your wife never enjoyed you since you married her, she doesn't have a good memory of you, she never misses you every time you travel, in fact, she always wishes you stay long on your journey.

You don't show care and concern to your wife every time she is sick.

You call her lazy and yell at her every time she's pregnant.

Can you count the number of times you have rejected your wife's food because of a baseless issue?

Every time you have a little misunderstanding with your wife, you always leave the house and stay for days before you come back home.

You never connect or have the heart to heart discussions with your wife.

Your communication with your wife is very poor, you always refer to past occurrences every time your wife offended you.

To you, it's taboo to call your wife on phone and ask about her well being every time you are not around, you only call her when you have information to pass across to her.

You don't even know how your children are fed, your children's school fee is not your concern.

You don't want her on social media and you have chased friends and family away from her.

When last did you eat together on the same plate with your wife?

When last did you pray together with your wife?

When last did you play together?

When last have you slept together on the same bed in the same room as husband and wife?

You only sleep together whenever you want to have sex with her, no foreplay, no talking, no touching...you always go straight to what you are after (sex).

No forgiveness in your dictionary, you even have a diary for your wife's wrongdoing 🤔

Your wife always cries silently praying to God to touch your heart.

#Stop #torturing #your #wife #emotionally, put yourself in her shoes 👠...

Remember, she is a human being like you, it's the blood that flows through her vein too, she needs care and love.

She needs affection and attention.

She wants you to be intentional in your commitment to her.

She wants to be valued and respected.

She wants you to be proud of her.

She wants you to praise, appreciate and call her sweet names.

She wants to connect and be more intimate with you.

She wants you to be responsible and available.

She wants you to see her as a wife, companion, confidant, soul mate, companion, friend...and not as a baby-making machine, not a roommate, cook, not as a maid, not as an enemy...

Turn a new leaf 🍂

Be more responsible and love your wife unconditionally.

Watch out for part 2👉STOP ABUSING YOUR HUSBAND EMOTIONALLY!

Baby's Actions

Your 3years old son gets angry whenever you give him a food he doesn't want and throws it on you, you laugh and say "😃😃 children ehh"

Baby boy will lift his hands and slap you when he wants you to drop him... All you'd say is "you're beating mummy 😃"

No other child in that area messes with him... And you're calling him "A no- nonsense boy"

He picks up things from the ground and hits people whenever he's stopped from doing something... You smile and call him "action boy😃🤾🏿‍♂️🤸🏽‍♂️"

You expose him to all manner of violence and say "He's a man, man suppose get mind"

Few years down the line the teenage boy bullies his sisters, commands them around, shares slaps as souvenirs to anyone that dares to challenge him. You call him "man of the house"😃

He grew up having his way all through. Now he's a full grown man in the society. And it's not funny anymore

Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

*It's easier to train a son than to correct a husband*.
We could address a lot from the root.

8 SPIRITS THAT CAUSE DELAY IN MARRIAGE FOR LADIES

1. BOY-FRIEND SPIRIT

The last thing on a Boy's Mind is Marriage.

Boys don't think of marriage, they want to have fun first, and marry later, they enter into relationships only for fun and sex,

Dear Lady, if you want marriage, stop dating boys, you'll only end up as a baby mama.. A Boy is different from a Man.

A Boy wants only Relationship.

A Man wants Marriage.

2. LORD OF THE RING SPIRIT

Aunty, say NO to Lord of the Rings oh.

Engagement ring will celebrate 7 years anniversary on someone's finger. No be juju be dat?

You're even planning to celebrate your engagement anniversary again this year. Kai.

When will he do the needful?

3. HARD TO GET

This spirit tells you not to accept a marriage proposal in a hurry, to do plenty unnecessary shakara so that the brother will not think you are cheap or desperate.

It tells you to tell him to give you nine months to pray, don't pick his calls, ignore his WhatsApp messages, behave as if you are not interested even though you are dying on the inside and truly love the brother.

This spirit will not leave you until you hear the brother is getting married to another sister, then your eyes will open and you will start saying "can't he even wait for me"

Wait for you? Because you are Jesus Christ?

4. PROUD SPIRIT

That spirit that tells you to always talk to brothers anyhow because you are beautiful, educated, and anointed.

That spirit that tells you that every brother that greets you is not your class, so you keep ignoring and looking down on them.

That spirit that doesn't allow you to greet brothers except those that ride exotic cars and wear expensive clothes.

You have use pride to look down on and trivialize all the ones God sent to you.

5. DENOMINATIONAL/TRIBAL SPIRIT

I'm a Deeper Lifer and must marry one who's a Deeper Lifer as well so our marriage will be Deep.

I am a Redeemer and must marry a Redeemer, any other Brother isn't Redeemed.

I'm from Rivers state and must marry from Rivers. River will soon carry you.

Aunty, if God is leading you to another denomination or state, kindly obey and marry, stop delaying our wedding rice.

6. BAD CHARACTER

The character of some ladies ehn.

This spirit has kept many ladies single, by the time any brother gets close because of her beautiful MASCARA, her ugly CHARACTER will chase him away.

Aunty, this year, work on your character, your date will be fixed this year in Jesus Name.

7 POOR DRESS SENSE

That spirit that tells you not to dress well because you are going to heaven. Special Heavenly candidate.

You dress and add 10 years to your age .

You dress and brothers will be greeting you "Good afternoon Ma." "Yes Ma" "Thank you Ma"

This spirit tells you to use tarpaulin to sew your dress, wear green skirt, yellow blouse and red head tie.

You dress like egungun that is going to the express to collect.

Dress well, we said don't dress indecently, we never said don't dress well.

8 SPIRITUAL PROBLEM.

This is for real, this is why I encourage everyone to be prayerful, prayer isn't only for Pastors,

Be spiritual

WHEN YOUR WIFE ENJOYS TALKING WITH YOU

Women love conversations. In fact, the worst thing you can ever do to your wife is to make her feel lonely, single and ignored in marriage.

Make your wife enjoy talking with you.

1. Create time to be with her, don't let it get to the point where she has to beg you to be with her

2. Have emotional conversations with her, listen. Do not be Mr. Facts all the time. Even you as a man have an emotional and vulnerable side, embrace it

3. Ask her how her dreams and life goals are going. Most husbands expect the wife to help him achieve his dreams but have no idea about the dreams of the wife. Show concern and be supportive

4. As much you can, come home early to her and the children. Don't give her the exhausted you where she is trying to make a connection but you black out to sleep on the sofa. Don't tip toe into the home late at night when she is asleep, she will feel ignored

5. Use the bed, not just for sleeping and sex but also for intimate conversations: pillow talks

6. Give her eye contact when she is talking to you. Don't let her compete with your phone or the television

7. Don't shout at her or intimidate her. A wife is not supposed to live in fear. You ought to be her safe spot

8. Don't belittle her conversations, ideas or feelings. If something is important to her, let it be important to you

9. Randomly call her or text her, not to give her a task, but just because you thought of her

10. Call her by a sweet name; "Hun", "Love", "Sherrie"... and don't call any other woman by that name. A woman who is made to feel special enjoys to talk

11. Know when it is time she just wants to be listened to and when she is in need of your advice. Discern. Sometimes she just wants to be heard

12. Start the day on a good note with her, tell her something like "Good morning Beautiful" and end the day on a good note, tell her something like "Good night Love". How a woman starts and ends the day with her husband means a lot to her

13. Touch her when you two are talking. Caress her, rub her hands, let her lay on your chest.. She will open up more and more, at home in your arms

14. Flirt with her. In every woman there is a naughty side. Connect with her flirty self and you will reap the benefits

15. Ask her open ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer. A woman is like a novel, she wants you to explore her by asking questions that show you are interested in her

16. Apologise to her when you wrong her. A woman who loves you wants to quickly forgive you and go back to warmth with you, make it easy for her by saying "I am sorry"

17. Have a good laugh with her. Anyone a woman laughs with she grows close with

18. Compliment her, tell her how beautiful she is and how great she is. Other people might tell her this but the one she wants to hear this from is you

As you do this, as you water your wife, you will see her glow in your presence, you will fall in love over and over again, you will look at her and be proud of yourself because of how you love her. Making your wife smile should bring you pleasure like it did the days you freshly pursued her.

The man who loves his wife loves himself