7 THINGS THAT MARRIED PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DO.

There are many things that single people can do that the married can't do. Some of these things may not even be bad, just that they do not befit the status of a married person, or perhaps, because they are not appropriate. 

Some of these things are sometimes small things (trivial issues) but they are capable of ruining marriage if care is not taken, that is why it is important to pay attention to them. 

Here are few instances of such activities that are not (or may not be) appropriate for the married.

1.  DON'T HAVE AN OPPOSITE SEX BESTIE

Haaa, you will make your spouse jealous and uncomfortable now. The only bestie you should have is your spouse. 

When you marry, you have to draw the lines for all your besties. They may become toxic intruders if care is not taken. 

You have to understand that the fact that you're married does not turn you to an automatic saint. So, you must deliberately stay away from things that can make you fall into temptation. You're not invincible.

Even same sex bestie should have limit. You can't be going about with those friends you had when you were single. It is not pride, it is because you no longer have that luxury of time.  This is more common to men. Please spend that time with your wife instead. Most women appreciate attention, give it to them. These things are part of the responsibilities that come with marriage. 

2.  DON'T ENGAGE IN INDECENT "CRUISE"

I used to post jokes a lot when I was single (even corrupt ones) but after I married, I noticed my wife don't usually like the insultive comments that people drop under the jokes. Whether playfully or seriously, my wife gets angry if anyone insults me. 

For me, I don't mind, jokes usually attract playful insults, but since my wife is not cool with it, I reduced the jokes, or I make jokes that feature her. Na married man joke I come switch to 😜😜😜😜

Nowadays, whatever "cruise" you see me partake in, it's because my wife is cool with it. 

Any kind of "cruise" that your partner frowns at has to be stopped. 

Note also that, your general online activities should reflect your status. As a married man, the way you compliment people of opposite sex has to be decent. You can't go under the comment section of a single lady's picture and write love poems. What is "You're sexy and hot"?  E get as the thing be o.🙄

 3. DON'T STAY TOO LONG IN YOUR MAN CAVE.

As a married man, your privacy may be intruded by your wife. Having some time all to yourself may be hard, especially when you marry a woman that loves attention. 

So, if you want some undisturbed time, you have to reach an agreement with your wife, and it must not be too long, else, a point will be reached that your absence won't matter anymore, probably because she has gotten used to being lonely or there's someone who now gives her the attention you've been starving her of. 

4. Late night outing, drinking, smoking, clubbing, womanising and all of those are not good for anyone, but it is a no go area for the married. 

5. Those addicted to watching football should learn to stay home to watch with their wives and stop going to public view centres. The matter no even hard, follow your wife watch Zee world (or whatever she likes) make she follow you watch football. That's how married men do.✌️

6. BETTING/GAMBLING.

Sometimes ago, a woman once told me that her husband is addicted to gambling. She said the man has sold most of their properties to play bet. Betting is not for anyone, not even married people please! You have responsibilities and pressing needs. Stop wasting resources

7.  FLIRTING

You must be ready to forsake your numerous girl friends and stick to one woman forever.

Extra marital affairs kills faster than Boko Haram, SARS, Fulani Herdsmen, Coronavirus and HIV/AIDS all put together.

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MISTAKES OF UNMARRIED LADIES

Timothy Ofoegbu wrote

MISTAKES OF UNMARRIED LADIES…

These are few mistakes some single ladies make.

1. WAITING FOR PRINCE CHARMING: From childhood women are exposed to sentimental stories of a beautiful Princess and Prince Charming that will come in a white horse to marry her in a castle. Many of them have missed their husbands as they wait endlessly for a Mr Perfect that will have all the qualities they are looking for in men. Even God is also looking for such man but where are such men? Scale down some of the impossible indexes in your checklist and settle down, time is going.

2. I WILL PICK HIM FROM A GUTTER: He is jobless, homeless but very handsome and highly romantic. You are paying all his bills with hope that he will marry you if you finance your own marriage with your own money. Sorry, you can’t buy a real man and a pretender will one day show his true colours.

3. SEX AND PREGNANCY WILL KEEP HIM: if frequent sex can keep a man in a relationship and make him to be committed and marry the woman, then all harlots will be married because they are experts in sex. Pregnancy before even proposal is both risky and suicidal. Be wise

4. PLEASER MENTALITY: Some ladies have very low sense of their worth and value. Pleasers want to loved and accepted by all means. They hate the word rejection and will do anything for a man that neither truly love them or committed to the relationship. Their partners beat them up, rape them, scream at them, curse them and date even their friends but these emotionally weak women will always run after them in tears. They are trapped in a loveless violent relationship with highly controlling and domineering men that they can’t even pick calls in their presence.

5. I CAN CHANGE HIM WHEN WE MARRY: Some Ladies see smokers, drunkards, drug addicts, night clubbers and occult men and start serious relationships with them with the hope that these hard men will change after marriage. Chances of such anticipated positive changes after marriage is very slim. Such men will beat ladies to submission if they fail to submit to them after marriage.

6. HE MUST WED ME IN MY CHURCH: This has made some ladies not to marry because they want to eat their cake and have it. They will tell men and their parents that the men MUST come to their Churches for the wedding or forget the marriage. It sounds funny that such thing should even be mentioned at all. If you are not interested in following the man, forget him and wait for someone from your Church.

7. I pray for all the unmarried ladies that are ready to settle down, may God bless you with men that truly love you and give you the wisdom to know when to settle down, AMEN.

Timothy Ofoegbu

30 THINGS WIVES WISH THEIR HUSBANDS KNEW.

DADDY KUMUYI SPEAKS ON 30 THINGS WIVES WISH THEIR HUSBANDS KNEW.

AUTHOR: PASTOR W. F. KUMUYI (THE IDEAL HUSBAND)

1. Wives want their husbands to communicate with them frequently.

2. Wives want companionship from their husbands.

3. Wives also wish their husbands would make provision for the family a priority.

4. Wives wish they would be genuinely respected for their roles as wives and mothers.

5. Women Appreciate husbands who respect their opinions on issues.

6. Wives Appreciate commendation from their husbands.

7. Christian wives admire and are proud of their husbands when they are committed and devoted to God's calling.

8. They also wish their husbands are vast in and have deeper understanding and application of the scripture.

9. Wives wish their husbands could vouch for their fidelity.

10. Wives Appreciate men who pay attention to the spiritual and moral upbringing of their children and the uplift of their wives.

11. Wives loves husbands who protect them from  harassment of in-laws.

12. Women do not appreciate it when their husbands compare them with other women.

13. Wives wish that their husbands would constantly affirm their love and commitment to them.

14. Women love surprises.

15. Wives hate when their husbands forget important dates ( wedding anniversary, birthday and the likes)

16. Women want men to appreciate both their physiological and emotional make-ups.

17. They want their men to be happy, healthy and successful in life.

18. Wives said they feel more inclined to respond to their husband's physical intimacy later in the day when they connect with them emotionally and were loving, considerate and romantic all day.

19. Women wish their men would buy clothes for them as they buy for themselves.

20. Most women want their husbands to support their family.

21. Most women don't like their husbands to take crucial decisions about the family without their input.

22. Women, especially Christians, want husbands who they can be proud of.

23. Wives want husbands who are patient with them.

24. Women respect men who resist undue influence from friends and relations.

25. Women want men who support their goals and ambition.

 

26. Women want husbands who commend their cooking, care of the home and everything they do.

27. Wives also wish their husbands would spoil them occasionally by taking them out and giving them a special treatment.

28. Women love to be married to Godly and prayerful husbands.

29. Wives want men who play with the children,  help them with their homework, discipline them when they err, and give them Godly upbringing.

30. They want men of purpose, goal and ambition.

I bless and pray for you that your home will find peace, joy and happiness.

From this day, your home shall be what God says it will be in Jesus name.

As you walk with this understanding, your home shall be fruitful and be heaven on earth in Jesus name. 

Extract of 

THE IDEAL HUSBAND

THE IDEAL WIFE

AUTHOR: PASTOR W. F. KUMUYI ( GENERAL SUPERINTENDENT)

Never bite the finger that feeds us

MY HOUSE HELP 

When people talk about madams being wicked to their house helps , I laugh . 

Do you even know what  some of this house helps do ? . 

I do not ever support a person maltreatmenting another human but sometimes , madams never get to tell what this people do to them . 

I will tell my story .  

" You are leaving this house today  nneka " ... I said to her 

The atmosphere was heated . I have had enough . I  am done with this . 

Nneka is my house help of 5 years . 

I brought her from the village after her father died leaving behind her mother with 7 children . She was only 15 when she came . When I brought her , she looked extremely mal nourished . Not eating well and tedious farm work made her look like a 12 years old . 

I feed and cared for her like my child. If I didn't tell you she wasn't my blood , you wouldn't even know . Nneka turned 20 this year . But I started noticing a difference in her when she became 18 . 

" Which house " ? She glared at me , folded her hands and looked me straight in the eye   ." I go nowhere " 

she sat down . 

"  let me say this , I will leave this house when Your husband or rather my baby comes back and ask  me to leave.  

If he says to go then , it's fine . If he says not to go , what can I do ? .... She gestured arrogantly . 

I was beyond shocked . 

" Don't provoke me woman .. or you may be the one to leave the house " . ...

 She stood up , hissed at me and walked into the room .

I slumped into the chair .  

My husband has a lot of explaining to do . 

Episode 1 . 

#fiction 

May we never bite the finger that feeds us 

................................

#Njokuijeoma

skinning alive of a corrupt judge, Sisamnes, in the year 500BC.

A 16th century painting showing the skinning alive of a corrupt judge, Sisamnes, in the year 500BC. 

Sisamnes was a corrupt royal judge at the time of Cambyses ll in Persia. 

It was discovered that he took a bribe in court and passed an unfair judgement. As a consequence the king ordered that he be arrested for his corruption and ordered that he be skinned alive. Before passing judgement the king asked Sisamnes who he wished to nominate as his successor. Sisamnes, in his greed, chose his son, Otanes. 

The king agreed and appointed Otanes  to replace his father. He subsequently passed judgement and ordered that Sisamnes removed skin should be used to upholster the seat on which the new judge would sit in court to remind him of the potential consequences of corruption. 

Otanes, in his deliberations, was forced to always remember that he was always sitting on the skin of his executed father. This helped to ensure fairness and equity in all his hearings, deliberations and sentences.

The Zambian Voice @2022

*DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 25 TO 30*

▪Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers or Senior Brothers made.

▪Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with your wife.

▪You will never finish making money or

achieving your plans. You might still not succeed

at your target year. So start your life early, with

consistency you will grow.

▪My father said this to me: When i was 25, i was

talking about making billions before i marry.

Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid

no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love of my life very early, But my fear was, can i really take care of her? But right now She's married with

Four grown up children.

The guy that married her

was still schooling then, but had the courage.

They worked hard and succeeded together.

▪So please if you can feed yourself, you can feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry early, don't wait.

▪Stay away from abortion. Don't make our mistakes, I see my childhood friends play with their kids. Most of them are not doing as well as me.. But they are happier with their families..

▪Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. with a well planned life they are happier.

▪Trust me it isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion? buy the latest Car in Town? marry Sharon Stone type? but still we don't have those things we dreamt of, and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_

✔Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still

be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at

that age? Their grand father.

° I (Pastor Iyke) am 40 years and my first child is 11 years old and my last child is 6 years old. At 60 my first daughter will be 31years & last child 26 years. 

▪Please young men, take my advice seriously.

Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

▪Don't think you will get every thing before you

settle down.

Ofia afuluaagu