There are many things that single people can do that the married can't do. Some of these things may not even be bad, just that they do not befit the status of a married person, or perhaps, because they are not appropriate.
Some of these things are sometimes small things (trivial issues) but they are capable of ruining marriage if care is not taken, that is why it is important to pay attention to them.
Here are few instances of such activities that are not (or may not be) appropriate for the married.
1. DON'T HAVE AN OPPOSITE SEX BESTIE
Haaa, you will make your spouse jealous and uncomfortable now. The only bestie you should have is your spouse.
When you marry, you have to draw the lines for all your besties. They may become toxic intruders if care is not taken.
You have to understand that the fact that you're married does not turn you to an automatic saint. So, you must deliberately stay away from things that can make you fall into temptation. You're not invincible.
Even same sex bestie should have limit. You can't be going about with those friends you had when you were single. It is not pride, it is because you no longer have that luxury of time. This is more common to men. Please spend that time with your wife instead. Most women appreciate attention, give it to them. These things are part of the responsibilities that come with marriage.
2. DON'T ENGAGE IN INDECENT "CRUISE"
I used to post jokes a lot when I was single (even corrupt ones) but after I married, I noticed my wife don't usually like the insultive comments that people drop under the jokes. Whether playfully or seriously, my wife gets angry if anyone insults me.
For me, I don't mind, jokes usually attract playful insults, but since my wife is not cool with it, I reduced the jokes, or I make jokes that feature her. Na married man joke I come switch to 😜😜😜😜
Nowadays, whatever "cruise" you see me partake in, it's because my wife is cool with it.
Any kind of "cruise" that your partner frowns at has to be stopped.
Note also that, your general online activities should reflect your status. As a married man, the way you compliment people of opposite sex has to be decent. You can't go under the comment section of a single lady's picture and write love poems. What is "You're sexy and hot"? E get as the thing be o.🙄
3. DON'T STAY TOO LONG IN YOUR MAN CAVE.
As a married man, your privacy may be intruded by your wife. Having some time all to yourself may be hard, especially when you marry a woman that loves attention.
So, if you want some undisturbed time, you have to reach an agreement with your wife, and it must not be too long, else, a point will be reached that your absence won't matter anymore, probably because she has gotten used to being lonely or there's someone who now gives her the attention you've been starving her of.
4. Late night outing, drinking, smoking, clubbing, womanising and all of those are not good for anyone, but it is a no go area for the married.
5. Those addicted to watching football should learn to stay home to watch with their wives and stop going to public view centres. The matter no even hard, follow your wife watch Zee world (or whatever she likes) make she follow you watch football. That's how married men do.✌️
6. BETTING/GAMBLING.
Sometimes ago, a woman once told me that her husband is addicted to gambling. She said the man has sold most of their properties to play bet. Betting is not for anyone, not even married people please! You have responsibilities and pressing needs. Stop wasting resources
7. FLIRTING
You must be ready to forsake your numerous girl friends and stick to one woman forever.
Extra marital affairs kills faster than Boko Haram, SARS, Fulani Herdsmen, Coronavirus and HIV/AIDS all put together.
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©John Adesogan
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