After a person has broken up with you or made it very clear that you're not the one they want to be with, it is very important for you to cut-off every channel of communication with them. They may say, "Okay, we can still be friends." While this may be true, what you need immediately after a breakup is healing, not the friendship of someone you love who no longer loves you. If you agree to be friends with them, you'll be constantly hurting.
For a person to leave you for another, they must be very happy with their new partner. Do not be mistaken about this. Forget whatever nonsense things they tell you, it's all lies. What they want is to know if you're still hurting or not...they want to know if you're still into them.
Whatever they do for you thereafter is from a place of pity not love. The problem here is, you don't need their pity because their pity will stop you from healing. What you need in those moments is to be faraway from them. Cutoff all ties. Do not let them in on your feelings or next move. Don't allow them to pretend to care about you because they don't. Stop opening up your feelings to them by saying things such as; "I still love you..I still have feelings for you..and all. You need to show character. Shut them out totally from your life until after you have healed completely.
When you've healed and are independently happy, you may wish to be friends with them again. It is very important to know that to do all the things I have highlighted will not be easy. But it's in your best long term interest. It is very important for you to be strong and even to pretend to be happy after a break up.
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