Power in togetherness

How does togetherness make us powerful?

Being together means that we have people in our lives that are there to support us, encourage us and protect us. When we feel secured, we don’t fear anything and take all opportunities that come along our way.

Many times in life, we are afraid to make a move but when we find we have true people beside us, we feel an inner strength because we trust that they are there to hold us. 

Whether it is a relationship with your family or with other people around you, togetherness and taking a stand for each other can not only change one life but lives of everyone involved in it.

©Dr Bhawna Gautam 

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A smile is also a conversation

A smile is also a conversation. You give a smile and they will reply with one.Smiling can change our world and even the world around us. A smiling face brings hope. When you see someone smiling, even you feel cheerful because you get reminded that even though you might be facing hardship and disappointment, you do have reasons to be joyful. Always carry a smile, your smile might be the reason someone else sees hope in their life too.@dr.bhawna.gautam

WHEN YOU DIE

When you die, don't worry about your body...

Your relatives will do whatever it takes.

They will take off your clothes

They will wash you

They will dress you up

They will take you out of the house and deliver you to your new address.

Many will come to the funeral to honor you.

Some will even cancel their plans and ask for labor to go to the funeral.

Your things you didn't like to borrow will be sold, donated or burned.

Your keys

Your tools

Your books

Your CDs, DVDs, games

Your collections

Your clothes...

And be sure the world won't stop and cry for you.

The economy will continue.

You will be replaced in work. Someone with the same or even better ability will take your place.

Your property will switch to heirs.

And don't doubt that about you for the small and big things you have done in your life will speak, judge, doubt and criticize.

People who only knew you face will say, ′′ Poor thing!"

Your good friends will cry for a few hours or several days, but then they will laugh again.

Your pets will get used to the new owner.

Your pictures will be hanging on the wall for awhile, then they will be put on furniture and finally stored at the bottom of the box.

Someone else will sit on your couch and eat from it.

Deep pain in your home will last a week, two, one month, two, one year, two... Then you will join the memories and then your story will end.

It will end among people, end here, end in this world.

But your story begins in a new reality... in your life after death.

Your life is earthly where you couldn't move with the things you had here will lose the meaning they had.

the beauty of your body

Last name

property

loans

working position

bank account

the house

the car

academic titles

Classmates

trophies

Friends of the world

man / woman

the kids

the family...

In your new life, you will only need your soul.

The only property that will last is the soul.

So try to live your life full and be happy while you are here because, as Francis of Assisi said, ′′ You won't take what you have from here. You only take what you gave!"

WHY SHE HAD SEX

Don't blame me yet

Listen to me first

I can't count how many times I had it

But am not proud about it

I was young and naive

Inexperienced and faint

My mum couldn't tell me about sex

My dad said it was my mum's task

Until I did the unimaginable

Now everyone sees me as abominable

No one cared about me

Damm my parents for being a religious maid

When I first Saw my period

Aunty chika my class teacher,

Told me to stay away from boys

I was confused and puzzled

I told mum about it 

She just taught me how to clean up

I was enraged because I was expecting more

She just took her Bible and went to church.

I became lost and wounded

I needed someone to talk to but I found none.

I finally told bola my girlfriend

She congratulated me and said I could have a boyfriend.

You can't blame me for listening to her

Because she was the one that listens

She taught me about my cycle

She took away my burdens to tackle

She introduced me to her male friends

I was shocked at their friendliness

She told me Mike loves me

I accepted him

I really want to feel among.

I often sneak out to meet him

My parents believe me and no suspect me

I always feels fire in my body

Anytime mike hugs my body

I told bola about it

She said I should do it

Every big girl does it.

I was nervous but yet I did it

I was happy yet disappointed

Sex is sweet but I regretted it

Until I got pregnant and had to abort it.

I became wild

Because I was untamed

But now I regret it

I don't know who to blame

But sex isn't what people think it is

It is conscience draining.

Dear parents

Guardian

Big sis

Big bro

Aunt

Uncle

And elderly ones.

Tell us about sex

Tell us when we are yet innocent

Not when we are already crucified.

Written by ©blessing Oyikowo Freedom 

# Listentous#

Who is responsible for ur happiness?

1.Man's affinity with divinity

2. Man recognition of who he is.

3. And man contribution to humanity.

The three concept of happiness is so central, is not an issues to be trusted by people, venturingly every human act is motivated by the obvious or remote desire to be happy.

U don't need anyone or anything to be happy. To think people or things will make u happy is to arrogates to them powers the do not possess, there is always a tendency to think money is all will need, money is as powerful as it is, but can't make a better home.

Some have go ahead and learn this philosophy, while some enter into marriages thinking that it will make them happy, did it.  It wasn't long before the realizes the only happiness is the one the brought into it, are the no men like me who has postponed their happiness because the tied it to things people and event. U can be happy right where u are without am extra dain to your name. 

Marriage has been liking to be a trends while many look forward like their life depends on it, others can't wait to the bus stop called divorce. Marriage can make u feel trapped and hell, so at the end of the day u are entirely responsible for ur happiness. U can be happy all by yourself, although u should be  better of with people but you shouldn't be dead with out then.

People marry or long to marry because there is this illusion that the experience of  marriages will make them happy.

Marriage is wonderful but can't make two unhappy people happy, it will rather become a wedlock of unhappiness. They happiness mirage, there was a time i think all i needed was admission into the university and one day i got it, but before i got it, my chance was until i get admission, then until i graduated, then until  i get a job, then until i have enough money to put a societal party to put me in a headline, then it eventually became until i get married, now until i have children and then when children come more pressure and more fund needed to take care of them, will then get gross with their up keep that will even forget or lose the love that brought them into existence, then happiness mirage keep shifting it post. The first lesson in happiness is if it most be, is up to u. Will spent the fleeting moment training the kid's instead of enjoying them, and now the moment the leave us for either high school or university. Now the have their own life to face, and will see them few times than will like to, the graduate will are happy but this new era or the stage of their life show us the signals the neediness of marriages. The moral of the analysis is that u can enjoy people and things now stop postpone ding  ur happiness there is no other better time. 

©Uchenna Wilson

7 THINGS THAT MARRIED PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DO.

There are many things that single people can do that the married can't do. Some of these things may not even be bad, just that they do not befit the status of a married person, or perhaps, because they are not appropriate. 

Some of these things are sometimes small things (trivial issues) but they are capable of ruining marriage if care is not taken, that is why it is important to pay attention to them. 

Here are few instances of such activities that are not (or may not be) appropriate for the married.

1.  DON'T HAVE AN OPPOSITE SEX BESTIE

Haaa, you will make your spouse jealous and uncomfortable now. The only bestie you should have is your spouse. 

When you marry, you have to draw the lines for all your besties. They may become toxic intruders if care is not taken. 

You have to understand that the fact that you're married does not turn you to an automatic saint. So, you must deliberately stay away from things that can make you fall into temptation. You're not invincible.

Even same sex bestie should have limit. You can't be going about with those friends you had when you were single. It is not pride, it is because you no longer have that luxury of time.  This is more common to men. Please spend that time with your wife instead. Most women appreciate attention, give it to them. These things are part of the responsibilities that come with marriage. 

2.  DON'T ENGAGE IN INDECENT "CRUISE"

I used to post jokes a lot when I was single (even corrupt ones) but after I married, I noticed my wife don't usually like the insultive comments that people drop under the jokes. Whether playfully or seriously, my wife gets angry if anyone insults me. 

For me, I don't mind, jokes usually attract playful insults, but since my wife is not cool with it, I reduced the jokes, or I make jokes that feature her. Na married man joke I come switch to 😜😜😜😜

Nowadays, whatever "cruise" you see me partake in, it's because my wife is cool with it. 

Any kind of "cruise" that your partner frowns at has to be stopped. 

Note also that, your general online activities should reflect your status. As a married man, the way you compliment people of opposite sex has to be decent. You can't go under the comment section of a single lady's picture and write love poems. What is "You're sexy and hot"?  E get as the thing be o.🙄

 3. DON'T STAY TOO LONG IN YOUR MAN CAVE.

As a married man, your privacy may be intruded by your wife. Having some time all to yourself may be hard, especially when you marry a woman that loves attention. 

So, if you want some undisturbed time, you have to reach an agreement with your wife, and it must not be too long, else, a point will be reached that your absence won't matter anymore, probably because she has gotten used to being lonely or there's someone who now gives her the attention you've been starving her of. 

4. Late night outing, drinking, smoking, clubbing, womanising and all of those are not good for anyone, but it is a no go area for the married. 

5. Those addicted to watching football should learn to stay home to watch with their wives and stop going to public view centres. The matter no even hard, follow your wife watch Zee world (or whatever she likes) make she follow you watch football. That's how married men do.✌️

6. BETTING/GAMBLING.

Sometimes ago, a woman once told me that her husband is addicted to gambling. She said the man has sold most of their properties to play bet. Betting is not for anyone, not even married people please! You have responsibilities and pressing needs. Stop wasting resources

7.  FLIRTING

You must be ready to forsake your numerous girl friends and stick to one woman forever.

Extra marital affairs kills faster than Boko Haram, SARS, Fulani Herdsmen, Coronavirus and HIV/AIDS all put together.

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