Why do difficult times make us value what we have?

We take so many things in our lives for granted. When something is already available to us, we tend to not value it enough.

Whether it is people in our lives or other aspects of life such as health, knowledge, relationships, and culture, we often forget to appreciate them. When we go through difficult times and see those people standing with us and little things helping us to cope up with those situations, we realize their importance and tend to appreciate them more. 

Don't become ignorant because you feel you have a surplus or you are so sufficient that you won't need anyone or anything else in life. Appreciate everything and everyone that adds value to your life. In the dark days, these are the ones who will stand by your side.

Dr. Bhawna Gautam 

#people #life #appreciation #sunshine #value

Living with guilt and self-blame is damaging to both our body and mind.

Do you forgive yourself for your mistakes?

Living with guilt and self-blame is damaging to both our body and mind. When we do something, we always expect a positive outcome but this doesn't always happen. At times things go wrong and sometimes we don't have a choice to retract our actions. 

If you face such a situation in life, don't crush yourself from inside with the burden of self-blame. You must remind yourself that your intentions were always right and what you did was your very best. You can control your actions but not the outcome. Even the best effort can fail and the best intention might not yield as expected.

Don't live in guilt when things go wrong or you are unable to do as desired. Accept, learn and move on.

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Dr. Bhawna Gautam 

#selfblame #guilt #moveon #mistakes #learn #intention #outcome

Our decisions can sometimes go wrong.

Why should we try to use the first chance to make things right?

Our decisions can sometimes go wrong. We might hurt people unintentionally, miss an opportunity or take a wrong path in life.

Only if we know beforehand how our decisions can affect us, we all could always make a right choice but that cannot happen and things do go wrong. If you find yourself in such a situation, make every effort to fix that mistake at that very moment. When people delay making things right, situations change, they lose that important time of life, all they are left with are the regrets of not trying.

Don’t let regret accompany you for rest of your life. Always give your best try to rectify. Living with regrets is more painful than trying to fix it.

Dr Bhawna Gautam

#relationship #people #life #wisdom #apology #forgiveness

Power in togetherness

How does togetherness make us powerful?

Being together means that we have people in our lives that are there to support us, encourage us and protect us. When we feel secured, we don’t fear anything and take all opportunities that come along our way.

Many times in life, we are afraid to make a move but when we find we have true people beside us, we feel an inner strength because we trust that they are there to hold us. 

Whether it is a relationship with your family or with other people around you, togetherness and taking a stand for each other can not only change one life but lives of everyone involved in it.

©Dr Bhawna Gautam 

#together #people #power #strength #stand #for #each #other

A smile is also a conversation

A smile is also a conversation. You give a smile and they will reply with one.Smiling can change our world and even the world around us. A smiling face brings hope. When you see someone smiling, even you feel cheerful because you get reminded that even though you might be facing hardship and disappointment, you do have reasons to be joyful. Always carry a smile, your smile might be the reason someone else sees hope in their life too.@dr.bhawna.gautam

WHEN YOU DIE

When you die, don't worry about your body...

Your relatives will do whatever it takes.

They will take off your clothes

They will wash you

They will dress you up

They will take you out of the house and deliver you to your new address.

Many will come to the funeral to honor you.

Some will even cancel their plans and ask for labor to go to the funeral.

Your things you didn't like to borrow will be sold, donated or burned.

Your keys

Your tools

Your books

Your CDs, DVDs, games

Your collections

Your clothes...

And be sure the world won't stop and cry for you.

The economy will continue.

You will be replaced in work. Someone with the same or even better ability will take your place.

Your property will switch to heirs.

And don't doubt that about you for the small and big things you have done in your life will speak, judge, doubt and criticize.

People who only knew you face will say, ′′ Poor thing!"

Your good friends will cry for a few hours or several days, but then they will laugh again.

Your pets will get used to the new owner.

Your pictures will be hanging on the wall for awhile, then they will be put on furniture and finally stored at the bottom of the box.

Someone else will sit on your couch and eat from it.

Deep pain in your home will last a week, two, one month, two, one year, two... Then you will join the memories and then your story will end.

It will end among people, end here, end in this world.

But your story begins in a new reality... in your life after death.

Your life is earthly where you couldn't move with the things you had here will lose the meaning they had.

the beauty of your body

Last name

property

loans

working position

bank account

the house

the car

academic titles

Classmates

trophies

Friends of the world

man / woman

the kids

the family...

In your new life, you will only need your soul.

The only property that will last is the soul.

So try to live your life full and be happy while you are here because, as Francis of Assisi said, ′′ You won't take what you have from here. You only take what you gave!"