Dealing with partner's addiction

Addiction is a strong compulsion to have or do something that harm your health. If God's word say you and your partner are one, when you are addicted to some kinds of unhealthy habits, you hurt your spouse.

Know it that addiction only gives you temporary satisfaction that is often fuelled by Stress. Be open to discuss whatever that stresses u with your spouse. Addiction can be

-Alcohol 

-Drugs

-Sex

-Pornography 

-Gambling

-Unhealthy eating

-unnecesary shopping, etc.

God created you in His image and after His likeness. When you refuse to drop your addictions, you limit God's wonders in your life.

*1Jh 2:16.

*Matt 11:28-30.

*James 4:7

There are different addictions your partner can be addicted to and unknown to you without them telling you when you find out many feel the best option is Divorce or fighting theirselves instead of looking for solution to the addiction problem.

 Cravings are powerful physical and psychological factors that drive addictive behaviour.

"BRAIN CHANGES also leads to BEHAVIOUR CHANGES"

TO DEAL WITH A PARTNER WITH ADDICTION

1) ACCEPTANCE - As a single or married ,you know some addictions your partner is dealing with and there are some you will not be aware of but you must accept what you can deal with for life if the person never changes or the process takes a long time .

If you are already married except for physical abuse that needs SEPERATION for sometime so It won't lead to loss of life of husband, wife or children

Even if your partner has become violent and you decide to seperate please keep communication ongoing

2)PRAYER AND FASTING :The place of prayer can never be over emphasized. God is the creator of every human he can touch their hearts and stop the addiction as a result of the COVENANT OF MARRIAGE that has made you both ONE in his sight 

3) CORRECTING IN LOVE: Love covereth many. Abusing , shouting and bringing your partner down by narrating the weakness in front of family or friends won't help him or her change but might lead to violence later. Look for words that will touch their hearts and find condusive times to explain to them the dangers to their health and other negative repercussions etc 

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4)AVOID BLAMING AND JUDGING: After you have identified the addiction problem to shift blame will drive your partner away from you instead help him or her finding the best method that works with wisdom. 

5) PATIENCE : You need to be patient with their change process it might take time you can't force them. More love will change them gradually and when they see how well you tolerate them.

6)FORGIVE IN ADVANCE: There will be so many offence in your heart because of your partners addiction ,you must prepare your mind to forgive in advance . Their addiction is like a friend to them so sometimes you might feel unloved you need wisdom to manage them .

SOME ADDICTIONS BELOW

1) DRUGS AND ALCOHOL ADDICTION: The abuse has  caused many peoples personality to change. When they are under the influence they will say or do things they won't do normally 

2) PORN ADDICTS: These set of people become emotionally dependent on pornography. Their partner don't seem satisfying to them often.

SEXUAL ADDICTIION: An understanding of your partners sexual drive will help the relationship. It takes discipline, a  decision and a crave for the help of God not to fornicate or commit adultery .

Eg As a man or woman you like sex daily and your partners is not on same page you need wisdom to manage your relationship. Discuss it as a man or woman don't keep silence .

Never let failure stop you?

Why you should never let failure stop you?

To achieve one's goals in life, one has to go through many disappointments. People who persevere and refuse to give when they face these disappointments are the ones who become successful.

We all wish that there was an easy way to achieve success but the truth is that the path to success is rough. Sometimes it takes years of effort and hard work to see the results you want while other times you may not see the results the same way as you desire. One must remember that success is not just about achieving goals but building qualities and attributes that can lead to success in any field.  

Give your best try but if it doesn’t work, don’t feel you have failed. True failure doesn’t exist because every time you choose to pursue, you choose to learn more.

Dr. Bhawna Gautam

Knowing this by heart

Understand this:

Most single women in their late 20s and early 30s are thinking of and worried about getting married. What they would define as love is a man who loves them and is ready to settle down with them.

Most men in their late 20s and early 30s are thinking about financial independence. What they would define as love is a woman who understands their predicament and sticks by them.

Knowing this by heart will help you understand why your relationship hasn't been working out and or the partner you should be dating.

Good morning beloved fans❤️

Believe to achieve dream

How can believing help us to achieve our dreams?

When we believe, we put our trust in the unseen force. This force brings inner strength and builds courage within us.

When we feel courageous, we are likely to take every opportunity of life and not miss any chance that can lead us to our dreams. When we do something with doubts, we are reluctant to take chances because we are afraid of losing and that's when we lose even those opportunities that could have helped to achieve our dreams. 

Don't just look at your dream and wonder how it will happen. Believe and work towards it to make it possible.

Dr. Bhawna Gautam 

#believe #dreams #wings #sky #star #achieve #success

 

Is your life an inspiration?

If you are leading a truthful life, you are leaving a legacy for others to be inspired and benefit from.

Legacy is often referred to as the material objects or wealth that one leaves behind. Wealth and material objects can be lost, but what can truly help someone is the knowledge and experience shared with them. Knowledge gives people the ability to understand life and experience to overcome situations that they may face in their lives. 

Lead your life with optimism, truthfulness, and positivity, when you leave, you will remain alive as an inspiration.

Dr. Bhawna Gautam

#life #inspiration #truthful #positivity #optimism

First, apologize to yourself

Should apologizing to self be the first step to improve upon our mistakes?

Apologizing to self means that we analyze the situation and accept that we did a mistake. It doesn't mean that we become so regretful that we start blaming ourselves. Rather, we learn from our mistakes to make changes in our behaviour and actions.

Every day we come across different people and situations so every day we have an opportunity to improve ourselves. The reason why we keep repeating our mistakes is that we never take time to look back on our lives to learn from them. 

Spend a little time each day to analyse your situations and actions. Applaud yourself for things you did right and accept the wrong so you can improve.

Dr Bhawna Gautam 

#accept #admit #mistake #improve #selfimprovement #learn #apology