Dealing with partner's addiction

Addiction is a strong compulsion to have or do something that harm your health. If God's word say you and your partner are one, when you are addicted to some kinds of unhealthy habits, you hurt your spouse.

Know it that addiction only gives you temporary satisfaction that is often fuelled by Stress. Be open to discuss whatever that stresses u with your spouse. Addiction can be

-Alcohol 

-Drugs

-Sex

-Pornography 

-Gambling

-Unhealthy eating

-unnecesary shopping, etc.

God created you in His image and after His likeness. When you refuse to drop your addictions, you limit God's wonders in your life.

*1Jh 2:16.

*Matt 11:28-30.

*James 4:7

There are different addictions your partner can be addicted to and unknown to you without them telling you when you find out many feel the best option is Divorce or fighting theirselves instead of looking for solution to the addiction problem.

 Cravings are powerful physical and psychological factors that drive addictive behaviour.

"BRAIN CHANGES also leads to BEHAVIOUR CHANGES"

TO DEAL WITH A PARTNER WITH ADDICTION

1) ACCEPTANCE - As a single or married ,you know some addictions your partner is dealing with and there are some you will not be aware of but you must accept what you can deal with for life if the person never changes or the process takes a long time .

If you are already married except for physical abuse that needs SEPERATION for sometime so It won't lead to loss of life of husband, wife or children

Even if your partner has become violent and you decide to seperate please keep communication ongoing

2)PRAYER AND FASTING :The place of prayer can never be over emphasized. God is the creator of every human he can touch their hearts and stop the addiction as a result of the COVENANT OF MARRIAGE that has made you both ONE in his sight 

3) CORRECTING IN LOVE: Love covereth many. Abusing , shouting and bringing your partner down by narrating the weakness in front of family or friends won't help him or her change but might lead to violence later. Look for words that will touch their hearts and find condusive times to explain to them the dangers to their health and other negative repercussions etc 

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4)AVOID BLAMING AND JUDGING: After you have identified the addiction problem to shift blame will drive your partner away from you instead help him or her finding the best method that works with wisdom. 

5) PATIENCE : You need to be patient with their change process it might take time you can't force them. More love will change them gradually and when they see how well you tolerate them.

6)FORGIVE IN ADVANCE: There will be so many offence in your heart because of your partners addiction ,you must prepare your mind to forgive in advance . Their addiction is like a friend to them so sometimes you might feel unloved you need wisdom to manage them .

SOME ADDICTIONS BELOW

1) DRUGS AND ALCOHOL ADDICTION: The abuse has  caused many peoples personality to change. When they are under the influence they will say or do things they won't do normally 

2) PORN ADDICTS: These set of people become emotionally dependent on pornography. Their partner don't seem satisfying to them often.

SEXUAL ADDICTIION: An understanding of your partners sexual drive will help the relationship. It takes discipline, a  decision and a crave for the help of God not to fornicate or commit adultery .

Eg As a man or woman you like sex daily and your partners is not on same page you need wisdom to manage your relationship. Discuss it as a man or woman don't keep silence .