Is your relationship losing its charm?

 

Keeping any relationship is a lifelong effort, but the effort needed is little and if you love that person, even making an effort for them gives pleasure and joy.

Apart from understanding, trust and support, people need to feel special in a relationship. This is where most relationships suffer. At the beginning of a relationship, we do anything and everything for each other, but after some time, we become too focused on ourselves that we forget about the needs of our loved ones.

Be there for your loved ones, involved in what matters to them, surprise them, gift them and express your love for them. Your relationship will remain full of vibrance.

 

How can self-confidence help to overcome the need for validation from others?

 

Being confident means that you rely on your own judgement about yourself. You acknowledge other people's opinions but don't make them a reason for disappointment.

When you lack self-confidence, you become dependent on other people's, opinion, judgement and suggestions to lead your own life. You become so reliant on them that everything you do is about pleasing them. When other people decide how you need to behave, act or live, you start living the life they want, not what you want.

Feel confident in yourself, no matter what others think of you. Take note of only those you know genuinely wish well for you, and ignore those who don't add value to you.

Does being kind make you strong?

 

Kindness can change someone’s life, but making a positive change you may deal with people who are harsh, unkind and want to bring you down.

Being kind is a great attribute because it is the way we give back to the world but at times some people might consider your kindness as your weakness and try to suppress you. In such a situation, you must not let others take undue advantage of you and not give up to them. We need to be kind but at the same time strong enough so that we don’t lose our self esteem.

Help others but remember you also need to help yourself. To help yourself, you must never accept wrong and take a stand against anything that affects your dignity.

“There is comfort in being the real you; it is effortless”.

 

Being real means that you accept who you are. Once you accept yourself, you don’t have to make any effort to fit in.

Sometimes you want to be a part of a group or company, but your ideas and values don’t match them. You feel you may get left out, looked down upon and mocked, so you choose to give up on your real self.

For some time, you enjoy being a part of them but slowly realise that you have become someone else. You are always afraid that people will know the truth, and your true identity might become known, so you are always distressed.

If ever you face such a situation, when someone or something demands giving up on your real self, however hard it may seem, choose to walk away. You will never regret your decision.

Don't ever marry out of pressure, don't marry because it's late and suitors are scarce

 

IF YOU ARE SINGLE, READ THIS AND THANK GOD .

That's a question only you can give answer to.....

No one else can tell you if someone you are in a relationship with is actually meant for you, except you.

Marriage is not predestined, marriage is by choice.

And in making this choice, you have to look within you, find out who you are, what you want in life and then the values you cherish.

It is upon these things that you decide whom to marry. If for example you cant take smoking, it's already defined that you shouldn't marry a smoker, no matter the odds. If you know you love staying close to God always, don't even accept someone who thinks otherwise. These are just examples,the most important thing is for you to look within you. Are you truly satisfied within you that you should go ahead with this person,or you are having doubts but ignoring it out of pressure?

Don't ever marry out of pressure, don't marry because it's late and suitors are scarce. Don't marry because you want to be relieved of your burden. Marry someone you know will help you fulfill purpose. Your purpose is that thing you love doing. Anything that stops your purpose will stop your life. Don't marry someone that will make you a housewife and then you can't go out and pursue purpose. Most people ignore these only to regret after marriage, and once married, you have entered..

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How does an encouraging person add to our strength?

 

People who encourage us are the ones who are true to us because they want us to try, succeed and feel accomplished.

People around us, whether a spouse, sibling, friend, parent or any other family member, can greatly influence how we feel. An encouraging partner gives us confidence ad strength, while someone who always discourages us can bring our morale down and make us give up on our dreams.

Be an encourager. Help your loved one achieve what they want to. Be there with them, support them and make them feel capable.

Dr Bhawna Gautam