My brother it's ok

Dear Brother.

Stop using poverty/traditional mentality to test, measure and standardize expectations from a would be Wife.

You may end up loosing a good Woman because of something that won't Matter much to you in a few years time.

My Wife must know how to pound yam (what of pounding machine?), and must know how to cook soup and stew with N500.

Your Wife should be Hardworking, that's important and non-negotiable (as should you) but "HARDWORKING" is measured beyond house chores.

Your wife should know how to manage, and be prudent, but prudence isn't only the ability to MANAGE POVERTY, but also the ability to MAKE and MANAGE WEALTH. Prov 31.

Don't be shortsighted as you seek a partner, do not use the criteria Esau used to chose porridge over birthright to chose a Wife,

Don't let your current problems, conditions and limitations blind you to the fact that where you are now is not where you will always be, you will grow, you will succeed, what is a priority to you now as a thousandnaire won't be tomorrow when you become a millionaire.

Marry a Woman with capacity to MOTIVATE, MATCH and REPLICATE your growth and success,

A Woman with Hunger and Drive for More.

A Woman who speaks the language of Greatness, not Mediocrity.

Don't measure humility only by a Woman's potential to stay under, also look for a Woman with potential and hunger for the top, MONEY MAKING abilities, not just BABY MAKING abilities.

Marry a Woman who will not only challenge and push you to greatness and success, but will herself also aspire for it, not a Woman that is very happy to manage your current condition and be pounding Yam and borning children for you till death do you part.

Selah.

Is our dream worth the chase?

Our dreams are our thoughts about progressing in life. We want to accomplish our dreams because we feel they can bring a positive change in our life.

Sometimes we have an idea or concept in mind that may help us achieve our dreams, but we feel our dream is too big. So instead of actualising it, we keep it to ourselves. The longer we take to put effort, the more difficult it appears and eventually, it never happens.

If you dream of something, give it a try. It may not always result in what you want, but you will still get closer than if you didn't try.

How do you deal with mental fatigue?

An effort is needed to achieve anything in life, but when our effort doesn’t seem to yield the results we want, we feel more tired than we actually are.

When the mind is tired, it loses its capacity to think, plan and perform. To replenish our minds, we need to allow a period of rest. Rest doesn't cause delay; rather improves our ability, so we can do things efficiently.

Allow yourself to rest. For some time, take your mind away from what you want, involve yourself in activities you enjoy, and surround yourself with positive people. After you rest, begin with a fresh mind and think that you have just started; your enthusiasm and motivation will also return.

Why does being in love make life beautiful?

Why does being in love make life beautiful?

Love changes our lives because it changes how we look at life and feel about ourselves. When we feel we have someone there with us, we see beauty in every experience of life.

When we face a difficult time, having someone there adds to our strength and makes us feel secure. Neither are we afraid to walk in the dark nor when we encounter a storm. Instead, we feel eager, enthusiastic and optimistic even in the toughest times.

Always be there for those you love. Give them the experience of life that makes them feel even the hardest moment is worth living.

The simpler you are, the deeper your connection with the soul”.

Being simple is about being transparent in your thoughts and actions. You neither judge anyone nor hold anything against them. You do everything with good intention and purity of heart.

Sometimes we meet people and feel so comfortable and at ease with them. Being with them, life seems so positive and vibrant. This is because when the intentions are clear, we connect with their soul and connecting with soul is always uplifting.

Be simple. It is effortless. All you have to do is be your true self.

Is overthinking a problem for you?

Is overthinking a problem for you?

Our mind has great potential. When involved in productive activities, it can build us, but when left idle, it can break us with our own thoughts.

Overthinking happens when we give unnecessary thought to something beyond our control. From one thought, we create another, and these series of thoughts only end up creating imaginary problems for us.

To stop overthinking, you need to keep your mind occupied. Whenever you start thinking unproductive, divert your mind, indulge in something else, talk to someone or just draw yourself away somewhere else. Your mind is meant to solve problems, don't let it create more for you.