1. Pray together always, a family that prays together sticks to each other. Pray for each other , bear each other's burdens, your best friend is the one who shares in your joys and your pains.
2. Prioritize each other, always treat each other as top priority, position one.
3. Protect each other always at all costs, identify threats to your marriage and deal with them speedily together, both internal threats and external threats.
4. Play together, play with each other. There is power in playing, playing causes bonding, it enhances teamwork and bonding. Playing minimizes boredom.
5. Have plenty of time to talk, to discuss, to teach each other, to learn from each other. There is power in words. Talking is not arguments, talking is not quarreling talking is not shouting at each other. Choose your words, use special words, words of wisdom, polite words, gentle words, loving words, words of inspiration, words of encouragement, sweet words, words of good counsel and advice, words are powerful, use them to build and not to destroy each other. Do not allow unholy silence, talk and talk life to each other.
6. Plenty of pleasure together. It's a long journey, have zero tolerance for boredom. Within your income picnic together, party together, holiday together, dine together, plenty of outings together, laugh together. Remember marriage as God intended it was meant to be enjoyed not a lifetime inconvenience pain and loneliness. Have maximum fun. Have zero tolerance for a boring marital journey.
7. Planning together and always doing things together, including the budget. Attending events together, going to church together, shopping together, bathing together, singing together, ministering together, walking together, jogging together. Unity is powerful. If God blesses you with children parent them together. Team work and team spirit in marriage is key.
8. Pulling together without hurting and pushing each other, be each other's keeper and helper. Have zero tolerance for pride, selfishness, violence and dishonesty. Celebrate each other, commend each other, you chose each other out of over eight billion people, pull together peacefully, add value to each other's life. Be a good shoulder to lean on.
9. Uphold sexual purity and exclusivity, no room for infidelity, adultery and unholy secret unions. There is power in sexual purity and moral uprightness. Keep your marital vows no room for cheating and side chicks.
10. Finally brethren do not get tired of learning. We all need to learn and equip ourselves for challenges ahead. Read good books on marriage, attend marriage seminars and workshops, go for counseling, learn learn learn every day. Above all learn from each other.
Daily learning leads to daily growth.
God bless you, may there be peace, harmony joy and plenty of laughter in your marriage. Amen.
Attorney Chuchuchu Nchunga Nchunga.
