🎤"A LIGHT FROM HEAVEN FLASHED ABOUT HIM" (Acts 9:3)

 ⏰Friday of the Third Week of Easter (19 April 2024)

📖Acts 9:1-20; Ps 117:1, 2, (R. Mark 16:15); John 6:52-59 

🎤"A LIGHT FROM HEAVEN FLASHED ABOUT HIM" (Acts 9:3)

Beloved in Christ, in John 8:12, Jesus says, "I am the Light of the world." The evangelist had earlier informed us that this Light shines in darkness and darkness cannot withstand it (cf. John 1:5). In Matt 4:14-16, this Light brings freedom to those in darkness. All these are represented in the experience of St. Paul at his conversion.

St. Paul was a zealous persecutor of the Christians before the great Light shone on him on his way to Damascus. One good thing about Paul is that he humbled himself and cooperated with that Light. 

Do you think, as someone once said, that he was left with no other option? No! Even though Jesus stopped him from persecuting his people and called him to discipleship, his free will was not taken away from him. He could have resisted the change, but he didn't.

He did not look back at the affluence and the prestige he would lose among the Jews if he abandoned the course of leading the war against Christians. He regarded everything as a loss when compared to the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus (Phil 3:8).

Today, many of us will not want to change from our evil ways because of what we think we gain from it. Even some pastors have lost their prophetic voice because of what they may gain. Those ways lead to doom.

Again, some are reluctant to change because they feel that God can not forgive them again. But we must know that there is nothing that is greater than the mercy of God. Listen to the testimony of Paul himself, "... I had been a blasphemer, a persecutor, and a rapid enemy. However, he took mercy on me... and the grace of our Lord was more than abundant" (1 Tim 1:13-14).

Your case shall not be different! May his light enlighten the darkness that tries to overpower you. And as you make an effort to follow him, may his grace and mercy overflow in abundance for you to guide you and protect you. Amen.

Have a luminous and peaceful day. Peace be with you.

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WHY HUGGING IS IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE

1. Hugging is a non-sexual physical expression of love. You need this because marriage is more than sex

2. Hugging makes your spouse feel welcomed to your space 

3. Hugging can lead to an emotional release where your spouse breaks down receiving comfort, a therapeutic experience

4. Hugging is a good way to receive each other back home after a day of being a part. Leaving the house and coming back home safe is a miracle you should never take for granted 

5. Hugging your spouse in public shows you are proud of your spouse 

6. Hugging your spouse affirms to your spouse you two are emotionally close. When there is an emotional rift between you two, you will find it difficult to hug

7. Hugging is a good way to resolve conflict after you two have talked things out

8. Hugging makes you both feel loved. There are some people in this world longing for a hug, don't let your spouse be one of them

9. Hugging breaks down the rigid walls created by trauma or by an upbringing that lacked affection 

10. Hugging in front of the children normalizes being vulnerable in the family. Children exposed to love grow up confident to express love

© Dayan Masinde 

23 SEX RULES FOR COUPLES

1. Do not have sex with another

2. Do not flirt with another because that is how unfaithfulness begins 

3. Do not fake orgasms. Don't lie to me that I am good in bed, give me a chance to do you better to take you there

4. Do not insist on having sex with me if you don't take care of my heart. Sex begins by how you treat me when we have clothes on

5. Do not masturbate yet you have me. Make use of me

6. As you expect me to do stuff on you, do stuff on me too

7. Do not go around telling your friends about our sex life whether it is great or average. Keep it special. Keep it between us

8. Do observe hygiene. Take showers, smell good, get rid of odour, make use of body sprays, do not repeat underwear. Cleanliness adds to the sexiness

9. Have an affair with me. Yes, be naughty, kinky, daring with me

10. Kiss me anytime. You don't need my permission

11. When you want sex, ask from me. Touch me where you know I get fired up. You need it I got it

12. Explore my body. Do not copy paste what you read in magazines on me. I am unique. Study me

13. Send me naughty messages on the phone, when we chat. I like it

14. Do not fuel your lust for another

15. Keep no secrets from me. Affairs thrive on secrets

16. Let me know your close friends, especially those of the opposite gender. Don't get yourself in private and secluded places with them

17. Do not use your phone to entertain improper chats and threats to our marriage bed. Keep our marriage bed honourable

18. Do not go to places where you will get tempted to fall

19. Let us not hide our issues behind sex. There is more to our marriage than sex

20. Tell me what sexual stuff you want me to do for you. Your wish is my command

21. Do not hold back your sexiness or think sex is evil. Give me all your pleasure

22. Dress up for sex. Wear sensual lingerie and attractive underwear

23. Let's not call it sex, let's call it love making. That way, we are reminded it is all about intimacy, not orgasms

© Dayan Masinde 

In the love book called GOOD SEX BAD SEX, I reveal how to get the most out of intimacy and also show what happens when you abuse, misuse or use sex wrongly.

GET A COPY OF THE LOVE BOOK, "GOOD SEX BAD SEX", WRITTEN BY DAYAN MASINDE

STEP 1: MPESA Ksh. 300 to 0721590954

STEP 2: Text your email address to 0721590954

STEP 3: Receive the digital book in your email

STEP 4: Download and read on phone/computer

If you to get THE SEX QUIZ FOR HUSBANDS and SEX QUIZ FOR WIVES,  text the word "QUIZ" as you text your email address upon purchase

WHY IT IS IMPORTANT TO GIVE COMPLIMENTS TO YOUR SPOUSE

1. If you don't, your spouse might be tempted to receive compliments from another and that is how some affairs start. Don't create a vacuum

2. You are the one who knows your spouse best, you have more information to give substance to your compliments 

3. Your relationship was formed through compliments, your marriage will be sustained by compliments that make your spouse feel special 

4. To show your spouse you have not changed. You still are focused on him/her

5. To boost your spouse's self esteem. It is your role to make your spouse feel good about himself/herself

6. To show your spouse you are noticing what is good about him/her. Most times spouses only speak when they are pointing out negatives 

7. As you highlight what is good about your spouse, your spouse will be encouraged to keep possessing those good qualities. Compliments are motivators

8. As you speak of what is good about your spouse, you will appreciate your spouse more. You can't have a positive attitude towards someone who all you see is their wrong 

9. Compliments evoke smiles, lessens tension, creates the right mood and reduces arguments

10. Giving compliments will not make your spouse proud, but rather, make him/her feel valued

11. Compliments will inspire your spouse to keep looking good for you and seeking to impress you 

12. Giving compliments is a form of foreplay, it leads to deeper and richer intimacy 

© Dayan Masinde

In my book, MANHOOD SERIES, I talk about the benefits of a man loving his woman and how it starts by the man loving himself. I talk about the responsibilities of a man to God, to himself, his family and society. Men are capable of loving.

In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I talk about how a woman can make wise relationship choices, how to inspire love in a man and how a woman carries so many blessings for herself and her man.

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To purchase the MANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word MAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.

To purchase the WOMANHOOD SERIES written by Dayan Masinde, MPESA Ksh. 200 to 0721590954, then text the word WOMAN and your email address to the same number and the book will be sent to your email address for you to download and read on your phone or computer.

SEX: DOES THE SIZE OF A MAN'S PENIS MATTER?

A big size to many is seen as a sign of sexual prowess, but as a man, don't lose your sleep or your sexual confidence because of the natural size of your penis which is God given.

When it comes to pleasing a woman sexually, know that the woman's most sexually sensitive areas are at the entrance of a lubricated vagina and the top and lower walls inside of a vagina. These two areas can be sexually stimulated by any size of the penis.

The entrance of a lubricated vagina is what excites your wife when you get to push inside her. That is why she enjoys that feeling of you starting penetration.

The top and lower walls inside her are the ones that make her feel good when you are pushing in and out. These walls are very close to the entrance. As you move your penis in and out, your penis rubs on the walls inside giving her sensations. 

When she moans and tells you "Harder! Faster! Deeper", she is asking for more passionate rubs of your penis on her top and lower walls to heighten the sensations. 

The stimulation on top and lower walls inside her vagina can vary depending on sex positions: missionary, woman on top, doggy,  Mombasa Raha and others. It is all about stimulating the inner walls.  The faster you do it, the intense the sensations.

As you do so, those inner walls inside her close in on your penis to help you to please her by pressing her inner walls on your thrusting penis. You on the other hand get pleasure as the tip of your penis rubs on the walls.  It is your tip that feels the pleasure regardless of your size.

What matters is not your size. What matters is... 

1. Are you faithful to her? Nothing turns on a woman like knowing her husband is faithful to her. Your faithfulness will release her to giving you her body and allowing herself to enjoy you as you enjoy her 

2. Do you treat her right? When sex is not the agenda, do you treat her well? Do you take care of her emotions? Women make love with their heart. Emotional intimacy leads to sexual intimacy 

3. Do you sufficiently make her wet? Do you get horny and just jump on her or do you prepare her? How good is foreplay? Foreplay increases the feeling your penis will eventually give her

4. Do you maintain your erection? Do this by focusing on her. When you are making love, don't over think, don't doubt yourself. Sex starts in the mind. If you lose it in the mind, you will lose your erection. Avoid masturbation as this will help you to find her enjoyable. Avoid pornography, porn makes your wife compete with images of other women in your mind making your penis confused 

5. Are you selfless when it comes to intimacy? Do you make sexual pleasure all about you or do you show her that you want to please her? Do you know her favourite position and do you give it as she wants it? 

6. Are you confident in yourself? There are so many men with a penis out there but she chose you. Be confident in all you have to offer. Confidence makes you sexy and attractive. She values your penis because it belongs to you 

7. Do you pay attention to how her body responds? Do you listen when she tells you "Faster! Harder"? Do you pay attention to her moaning to tell you she is enjoying what you are doing, keep going?

8. Are you caring in your passion? If you have a big penis, are you gentle with it? Do you handle her roughly and hurt her? 

9. Do you know how to change the rythmn? Do you change the speed when penetrating to get her to enjoy various sensations? 

10. In case you do climax before her, do you find other ways to please her or do you leave her alone as you feel like a sexual failure?

© Dayan Masinde 

In the love book called GOOD SEX BAD SEX, I reveal how to get the most out of intimacy and also show what happens when you abuse, misuse or use sex wrongly.

GET A COPY OF THE LOVE BOOK, "GOOD SEX BAD SEX", WRITTEN BY DAYAN MASINDE

STEP 1: MPESA Ksh. 300 to 0721590954

STEP 2: Text your email address to 0721590954

STEP 3: Receive the digital book in your email

STEP 4: Download and read on phone/computer

If you to get THE SEX QUIZ FOR HUSBANDS and SEX QUIZ FOR WIVES,  text the word "QUIZ" as you text your email address upon purchase

The looking wife

He stormed into the house looking for his wife.

He found her in the kitchen and then he jumped to her and hugged her so tightly. He has never hugged her like that before.

He broke down and cried. Confused she was.

The sound of a crying man is shocking because men are told not to cry.

He gave a good cry with his deep voice.

She held him tightly.

"Darling, what is wrong?" she asked him.

"Talk to me honey, please. What is wrong?" she asked.

He cried even more with every word she spoke.

"Baby, you are scaring me.  I have never seen you like this before. What is going on?" she got worried.

"I love you" he said.

It has been a while since he has told her that and this time it came out with a certain authenticity than ever before.

"I need you" he said as he squeezed her to himself.

"I am here for you" she assured him.

"I feel so alone in my life and the worst part is that it is not that I don't have someone to love me but that I push that someone away. Time and time again, you have tried to get to me but my ego shouts you out" he said as she rubbed her hands on his back.

"Today I almost had a car accident but God saved me. After the car swerved and regained balance, I parked somewhere and looked at myself on the side view mirror and asked myself some questions. Who am I?  Am I loved? Am I allowing myself to be loved? Why am I a lone ranger? Why do I suffer alone in life? All my life, I have never had someone to let in my heart, I pride myself in being a self made man who doesn't need anyone. When I married you, I married for a title, to have children.. but I feel alone. I come home late and avoid heart conversations with you. I shut you out emotionally. What if I die today, will I die a stranger to you?"

"No honey, don't say that. Don't talk like that" she begged him.

"I want to know what love is. I don't know how long I have to live but I know for the first time in my life, I need love. I need to open up, I need genuine laughter, I need to be fully naked with you, I need to tell you my thoughts, I need your touch, I need to talk about matters of the heart not just bills and responsibilities. I need love. Teach me love. I surrender my ego, I want to live my life in full. I don't want to be a stranger" he said.

She pulled herself from him and kissed both his eyes and wiped his tears. I want to know you my husband, show me who you are so that I may love you. Stop fighting your battles alone, stop feeling alone yet I am here. My love for you is gentle and true. 

In your lifetime, may you find someone who will make you feel safe enough to be emotionally naked. It is easy to be physically naked with someone, but emotional nakedness will need you to put down your pride and be vulnerable. May you be loved, may you allow yourself to be loved.

 ©️ Dayan Masinde 

In the book MOTO MOTO COUPLE, Akello and I address in depth the 21 issues that affect every relationship/marriage including work, sex, finances, children, in-laws, communication and how rekindle love back in your marriage. She giving the female perspective, I give the man's perspective on each of those 21 issues. 

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GET A COPY OF THE LOVE BOOK, "MOTO MOTO COUPLE", WRITTEN BY AKELLO OLIECH & DAYAN MASINDE

STEP 1: MPESA Ksh. 400 to 0721590954

STEP 2: Text your email address to 0721590954

STEP 3: Receive the digital book in your email

STEP 4: Download and read on phone/computer