THE WIFE WORTH FIGHTING FOR

 THE WIFE WORTH FIGHTING FOR

Is the one who...

1. Adds value, not just there to receive

2. Brings out the best in her husband by believing in him

3. Gives a man peace of mind, not stress

4. Stands by him when things get tough

5. Brings him favour and progress, not taking him many steps back

6. Is aware that she can also be wrong and doesn't mind apologizing when she is

7. Helps him make the family stand, he knows he can't do it without her

8. Is not a yes woman, she can disagree with him respectfully and give a helpful, different opinion

9. Excites him sexually, seduces him

10. Moulds him privately so that he shines publicly

11. Keeps his secrets without sharing with others his weaknesses

12. Remains faithful and doesn't give him reasons to feel insecure

13. Appreciates his efforts big and small

14. Is a good influence to the children, he knows his children are in safe hands with mom

15. Doesn't undermine, intimidate or belittle him

16. Doesn't shout at him, insult him or provoke him to anger

17. Has her own personal vision and pursues it, making him proud of her as an individual

Dear wife, are you worth fighting for or have you drained your husband with your mannerisms, attitude, tone, fights and negativity that he is thinking life can be better, more peaceful and easier without you? Are you a keeper? Are you worth fighting for? Men fight for what they value

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde

YOUR EX WILL BE LOVED:

1. One day, the ex you used to beat up will find a spouse who uses his hands to love her

2. One day, that ex you dumped because he didn't have much money, will have not just wealth but a spouse who believes in him

3. One day, that ex you dumped because you said he/she was good for nothing, will be basking in success with a spouse who sees every good in him/her

4. One day, that ex you dumped because he/she is not educated enough, will shock you by the brilliance of his/her mind and next to him/her you will see a wise spouse

5. One day, that ex you dumped because of being Godly and boring, will find a Godly spouse and the two will have a blessed marriage, you will see them living in joy then you will notice why your ex put God first

6. One day, that ex you chased away because you claimed he/she didn't add value to your life, will find a spouse who knows his/her worth

7. One day, that ex you cheated on, will find a great spouse who will be faithful just like your ex is

8. One day, that woman you impregnated and rejected, will find a man who will be by her side always and that man will also love your child because your child is an extension of the woman he loves

9. One day, the man you made fun of and claimed he is beneath your dating league, he will find a woman who sees his greatness and the two will shine, you will wish to have what they have. A great man came your way but you despised him

10. One day, the woman you dumped because she was too complicated, too irrational, too emotional; she will find a man who loves to explore her, a man who calms her emotions and gives her stability. All she needed was a man who understands

11. One day, the ex you dumped because you couldn't handle his/her dark past, will find a spouse who uses the dark past to build a bright future

12. One day, that ex you publicly ridiculed and shamed, will find a spouse who makes beauty out of the ashes you created, a spouse who covers and defends

MENTALITY AND MARRIAGE

I took time to go through some of the groups I'm following on Facebook today and I couldn't help but ponder.

The major killer of a great marriage even before it starts is "THE WRONG MINDSET"

A lot of people today are going to marriage with the wrong mindset and so, they are not even ready to get it right.

How can you think "all men are the same" and you want to enjoy marriage? Now, if I may ask, how many men have you had relationship with to draw that conclusion?

"It is in the nature of men to cheat" Are you kidding me, says who? Why conclude because you know someone cheating on his wife or probably your husband is cheating on you?

"All ladies want is money" that is your mindset and a very wrong assumption.

"All ladies are the same and they just can't change" that is absolutely wrong, Sir

All these are individual assumptions and a conditioned mindset which have destroyed a lot of marriages and still keeping some single.

It will be good for you if you can do a reprogramming, change the way you think and stop assuming. Assumption kills relationship and if you continue to assume you will continue to lose valuable relationships.

Change your mindset because you are a product of your thoughts and these thoughts come from the image you've created for yourself(assumptions)

Until you change your mindset you will never think right and take responsibility but keep passing blames.

© Bisi Lanre - Ojolo

WISDOM FOR HUSBAND!

Dear husband, you can make your wife the most loving, romantic, admirable and beautiful woman on earth.

Ask her what you can do to make her happy. This is the most important question you will ever ask your wife.

Spoil her with your love. Pamper her.

Treat your wife with dignity.

Don't be her headache. Don't be her pain

Make her happy. Never let her regret getting married to you.

Never compare her to anyone living or dead

Never cheat on her.

There is nothing you desire from side chic that your wife does not have. Don't put your life in danger because of momentary sexual pleasure from side chic

Never beat her no matter what she does. Your wife is not a goat. Real men don't beat women.

Understand her love language and give it to her. Either it can be words, gifts, touch, actions, etc. If it is words, then frequently tell your wife you love and appreciate her. If it is action: regularly do things that she appreciates

Never allow any member of your family to insult her or make life difficult for her.

Be gentle and tender with her.

Make her your priority. Be 100% committed to her.

Pray for her always.

Play with her. Never create a hostile environment for her.

Listen to her. Drop your phone and be attentive to whatever she has to say.

Forgive her no matter her offense. Love forgives

Support her vision. Never bury her dreams because she is married to you.

Encourage her. You should be her number one encourager

Protect her from every physical and spiritual attack.

Satisfy her sexual needs. Never deny her of your body.

Always tell her she's beautiful.

Celebrate her always both online and offline

Spend money to beautify her.

Treat her like your beauty queen.

Give her gifts constantly.

Buy her new sets of undies: buy her bags, shoes, clothes, creams, perfume, chocolate, fruits, cakes, ice cream, shortbread biscuits or snacks for her.

Women’s love for shoes, bags & clothes are incurable .

WHAT EVERY WOMAN NEEDS TO KNOW

1. Your biggest enemy is yourself. That enemy is the one who makes you overthink, develop a low self-esteem, make you emotionally unstable and give you ulcers. Love yourself from the inside first before you expect love from the outside

2. You are not in a relationship with a man until you both clearly state it. Don't get carried away by the idea of love with a man simply because he spends time with you or treats you special

3. If you are in a relationship or marriage, demanding your man to spend time with you will not make him do so. A man willingly spends time with you because you give him peace and he enjoys your company. Attract him the same way you peacefully and warmly attracted him when he was pursuing you

4. Mr. Right is the man who offers a conducive environment for you to be the best you. Choose your environment well

5. Your husband will never find you if you keep fooling around with other women's husbands

6. Mr. Right can also hurt you. The difference is that Mr. Right hurts when he hurts you, he apologises, owns up to his short comings and makes effort to love you better. Love is a learning process

7. Silent treatment will not solve anything. If your man hurts you, learn to speak your hurt and teach him to love you better. The best couples have mastered the art of conflict resolution

8. Most men don't mind being corrected. What they do mind is the tone with which you correct them. The world has been harsh towards women for years, but tone down your defensive mode and learn to communicate effectively with respect and love. You two don't have to fight and argue to look like you are addressing issues

9. A man who is not serious about you will avoid accountability, will operate in grey areas and will hide you. You will never go far with him. Serious men like being kept accountable, they take pride in what they commit to and are not afraid of responsibilities

Best Marriage Advice EVER...✍🏾

1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

2. Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling. When possible, try to keep your phone off when you're together with your spouse.

3. Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the "currency of relationships," so consistently invest time into your marriage.

4. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage. Remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

5. Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy. And even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

6. In every argument, remember that there won't be a "winner" and a "loser." You're partners in everything so you'll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

7. Realize that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It's usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak.

8. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it's nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.

9. Remember that marriage isn't 50/50— divorce is 50/50. Marriage has to be 100/100. It's not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they've got.

10. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you've given your best to everyone else.

11. Learn from other people, but don't feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else's. God's plan for your life is masterfully unique.

12. Don't put your marriage on hold while you're raising your kids or else you'll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

13. Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

14. Never lie to each other. Lies break trust .