6 MATES YOU MUST MARRY!

MARRY YOUR MATE 

6 MATES YOU MUST MARRY!

 

One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate!

You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on seven dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.

1. #MARRY_YOUR_SPEAKING_MATE: Marry someone you can speak together and understand each other. Communication is very crucial in marriage. Don't marry someone that, when you are saying 'A' he or she will be saying ' Z' Once their is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can't enjoy that marriage. So many men go to bar to hang out with friends and gist till 11pm because they know their wives can't engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. So many women too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their husbands mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Marry your speaking Mate.

2. #MARRY_YOUR_SCHOOL_MATE: 

By this I mean, marry someone you can learn together and improve together. Don't marry ' Mr Know all' or 'Miss Know all'. Don't marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your 'school' mate; someone who is ready to learn with you.

3. #MARRY_YOUR_SPIRITUAL_MATE: Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Marry someone who knows the same God you know. Don't marry someone who's believe of God is different from yours. Two can't work together except they be agreed ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to marry.

4. #MARRY_YOUR_SPENDING_MATE: Don't marry someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in marriage. A stingy guy in courtship won't suddenly become a generous husband in marriage. Don't marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ' My husband's money is our money, but my money is my money'. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labour , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the family.

5. #MARRY_YOUR_SEX_MATE: Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the success of any marriage. Any man you don't have emotional feelings for, don't marry the person. If you don't have emotional feelings for that lady, leave her alone. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your marriage, you won't be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won't be reading the Bible or worshipping God 24/7. You will have sex! You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your marriage so much!

6. #MARRY_YOUR_SOCIAL_MATE: Don't marry someone you won't be proud to go out with. Don't marry someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness. Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are socially compatible with. Don't marry an anti- social person.

You might be wondering if your can find all the 'mates' in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don't need to marry 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be all that for the guy/lady that will marry you.

The promise of God for you is this : 'Seek and read from the book of the LORD: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the LORD has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.' (Isaiah 34:16).

Say it loud and clear 'I shall not lack a mate!'

I hope this blessed someone reading?

Cc: AFL

THE UGANDAN CULT MASSĀCRE 25 YEARS AGO

It happened exactly 25 years ago, on 17th March 2000, in Uganda.

The story began in 1960, when a man called Paolo Kashaku claimed to have a vision of his late daughter called Evangelista, who revealed to him that he would have a vision of heaven.

In 1988, the man claimed to have seen a vision of heaven where he saw Jesus Christ, the Virgin Mary, and St. Joseph.

Her daughter, Credonia, also claimed to have a similar vision and began a virgin cult.

In 1989 his father told him to spread the message across Uganda on the orders of the Virgin Mary. She agreed.

In the same year, 1989, Credonia met a man called Joseph Kibweteere, who also claimed to have had the vision of the Virgin Mary in 1984.

The two decided to form a religious group called the Movement for the Restoration of the Ten Commandments of God.

The aim of the religious sect was to spread the Virgin Mary's message concerning the apocalypse.

Within a very short time, the group grew rapidly and attracted some defrocked Catholic priests and nuns. 2 of the former priests were Paul Ikazire and Dominic Kataribabo.

Since the majority of the members were Catholics, especially devotees of the Blessed Virgin Mary, the local church tried without success to bring the group under its control.

The group lived as a community in Kanungu District, Uganda, where they had their own farm, grew what they ate, and ran their own schools.

They lived in silence and communicated mostly in sign language.

The sect grew in importance when a respected and famous priest, Dominic Kataribabo, with a PhD from a university in America, joined them.

The group held that the apocalypse will take place before the year 2000.

As 1999 was coming to an end, the activities of the group became frenzied and weird as they were getting set for the end of the world.

When January 1, 2000, came without anything happening, members were disillusioned. Many who sold their properties began to demand back their money.

The leaders of the group calmed them down and came up with another date: 17th March of the same year.

On that day they had a heavy feast where they ate and drank in preparation for the apocalypse.

Without the knowledge of the members, the leaders of the group sealed all doors and windows so that no one could escape and then set the entire building ablaze, and over 300 of them were roasted beyond recognition.

Authorities believe that the leaders escaped but have not been found to date.

Later, authorities discovered several pits within the premises with over 400 members that were kiĺled and dumped inside them.

Next Monday, 17th March 2025 will be exactly 25 years since the massacre took place.

Looking at the picture below, how on earth can anyone believe that these innocent faces are capable of committing such atrocity.

Fr. Angelo Chidi Unegbu [14th March 2025]

Fada Angelo Chidi Unegbu 

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*🚨5 Signs You’re Emotionally Ready for a Relationship🚨*

Have you ever wondered if you're truly ready for a relationship?

Many people rush into love without checking in on their emotional readiness—only to find themselves overwhelmed, unfulfilled, or heartbroken.

A healthy relationship isn’t just about finding the right person; it’s about being the right person. So, how do you know if you’re ready? Here are five signs that show you’re emotionally prepared for love.

1. You’re Happy on Your Own: If you rely on a relationship to make you happy, you’ll constantly feel empty when you're alone. True emotional readiness means you’re content with your own company and see a partner as a bonus, not a necessity.

2. You’ve Healed from Past Wounds: Unresolved pain from previous relationships can sabotage new ones. If you've taken the time to process past heartbreaks, learned the lessons, and let go of resentment, you're in a much healthier place to love again.

3. You Know What You Want (and What You Don’t): You no longer fall for just chemistry—you value compatibility. You understand your standards, boundaries, and deal-breakers, and you’re not afraid to walk away from situations that don’t align with them.

4. You Can Communicate and Resolve Conflicts Maturely: Relationships thrive on communication. If you’ve learned how to express your feelings, listen without defensiveness, and work through disagreements without shutting down or exploding, you’re on the right path.

5. You’re Ready to Give and Receive Love Fully: Love isn’t just about getting—it’s about giving too. You’re ready for a relationship when you can offer emotional support, compromise, and invest in someone else’s happiness while still maintaining your individuality.

6. You know how your growing up years have shaped you and you can recognise how a prospective partner’s growing up years have shaped them .

Love When You’re Ready, Not When You’re Lonely

A relationship won’t magically fix loneliness or insecurities—it should complement the wholeness you’ve already built within yourself. If you see these five signs in your life, congratulations! You’re in a great place to welcome real, healthy love.

For More Guidance On How To Know If You’re Emotionally Ready for a Relationship, Register for the Get Yourself Ready For Marriage 12 Weeks Group Coaching Program here: https://selar.co/GetYourselfReadyForMarriage

If you have any questions, read the pinned post and go to: https://rightfitmarriage.com/gyrfm

©️ Modupe Ehirim

HOW TO CULTIVATE ONIONS USING ONE BULB TO GET MANY.

--- Get a bulb of onion and slice it in a circled form.

--- Get an empty water Can, cut it to the size of onion bulb. Fill the Can with clean water.

--- Cover the Can water with the sliced onion and ensure that the root side is touching the water.( if the root is too much you can quietly trim down the roots). Ensure that  it gets sunlight. 

--- Allow it for at least two days, you will find out that new roots are sprouting.  

---Still allow for another  9 days, within this time, the leaves will start growing, ready for transplanting. 

--- By then, you must have prepared your ground well manured to receive the transplant.

--- As you transplant, the onions will not go deep into the ground otherwise it will die. Just cover gently the roots and sliced part holding the growing leaves.

--- Allow it to grow untill about 40 days, at end of which you gently uproot the growing onions, at this crucial time, you carefully separate them one by one. Where it is hard to separate, use knife to make separation easier.

--- Then plant the separated onion one by one, after which you water.

--- Then allow to grow till about 3 months or more, during which it will be ready for harvest.

--- Remember this process is to help you get many produce from  one bulb of onion and make the onion grow bigger in size.

Nota bene: There are many other ways one can plant the onions though the result may not actually be the same.But which ever way, you will get something. Period of cultivating may also differ, but preferably between April to July.

From 

Fr Damian Ogwatta

The Role of Kola nut in Igbo Cosmology, Culture and Tradition.

Standing on existing protocol and the liberty to rephrase the title, I will like to caption the topic under the heading above. 

There is a long standing Igbo adage that says, “*while the Yorubas of Southwest Nigeria plant kola nut, the Hausas of Northeast/west of Nigeria eat kola nut, the Igbos of Southeast Nigeria show reverence to kola nut*”. 

This has presented kola nut not just as an edible nut for the Igbos of Southeast Nigeria, but also a natural nut with some socio-cultural connotations and philosophical implications that are entangled in Igbo cosmology. 

It is against this background that I made the post so that we will understand the place of kola nut (oji Igbo) in traditional Igbo culture, with a view to understanding the socio-cultural connotations of Kola nut in Igbo cosmology. 

As “king of fruits”, due to its presentation first in any gathering in Igboland, which specific variety is recommended for use in performing traditional Igbo opening prayers during visitations, festivals, ceremonies, new yam and ofala occasions etc given the resort to the use GWORO (oji Hausa) by our people?

What is the meaning and importance of the ritualistic invocations and blessings uttered while holding the kola nut in Igbo custom and traditional practices? 

Beyond symbolism and feminism associated with this sacred fruit, are there other utilitarian values e.g medicinal that kola nut serves in traditional Igbo society? 

What are the different varieties, colors, uses and ontologies of kola nut (such as “ọji bụ eze”, “ọnye wetere ọji, wetere ṅdụ”, etc) that exists in Igbo land?

Are there social, cultural, health, environmental, and economic abuses which the kola nut is subjected to in our milieu? 

How can we eradicate these abuses on the sacred fruit so as to guarantee it’s sustenance? 

It’s essential to acknowledge and address these forms of abuses to ensure the sustainable and respectful use of kola nuts in Igbo culture. 

From the following brief background and posers, this discourse will benefit from more information, thereby educating norms on the role and importance of kola nut in Igbo society. 

Our fore_fathers made kola nut what is known for today in Eastern region of Nigeria.Our elders so believe that much goes along with breaking of kola ,.spiritual connotations nd meanings, respect to the gods of the land, respect to the living more reason mostly eldest in every gathering are permitted to accept breaking of kola .on the contrary in other parts of the world these things surroundinng the kola nut not universal or acceptable .In igbo land today going by the generation of youths coming up with speed kola nut nd its cultural values might die a natural death where its meaning of meanings might go in extinction as against our elders who knew nd understood the cultural values of this kola .Except the government of the day wil hv to pass it into law as part of our cultural heritage nd should be observed whenever occasion demands ,the only way it can be preserved in Igbo land.

Not the One Who Loves or Spends on Her,

Listen my son, A Woman Submits to the Man She Fears—Not the One Who Loves or Spends on Her,

You’ve been lied to. They told you that if you love a woman, spend on her, and protect her, she will respect and submit to you. But reality tells a different story.

A man who leads with love and provision alone is setting himself up for disrespect. He asks his wife for water, and she points at the dispenser, telling him she’s not his slave. Yet, when she gets to work, her boss barely coughs, and she’s rushing to make him coffee, smiling like an obedient servant.

Now here’s the irony—her husband gives her 10 TIMES the amount she makes at work. But who does she respect more? The boss.

Why? Because submission is triggered by authority, not by love or financial provision. Women don’t submit to love—they submit to power.

A woman must FEAR losing you. She must recognize that you are above her, not beside her. If she senses that you are too emotionally invested, too giving, too “understanding,” she will begin to disrespect you.

Stop thinking money and kindness will buy loyalty. Set boundaries, demand respect, and make her EARN everything. That’s how a woman stays in her place.

If she doesn’t respect you, walk away and let her chase a weaker man. But never become that weaker man.

Aklahyel Goni