By George Ben
1.FEAR OF COMMITMENT : This is one reason why some guys are scared of getting married. They think this way, "how can I give all my love and affection to just one woman for the rest of my life? "
"I can't be eating only egusi soup for the rest of my life." "Variety is the spice of life."
Some say "I can't imagine myself waking up beside the same woman in bed every morning". Let me enjoy life alone some more.. That's how some guys suddenly became "Manchelors". People are now confused whether you should be in the church men's fellowship or youth fellowship.
2. I'M THE FIRST BORN IN THE FAMILY: The position of being a first born in the family certainly comes with responsibilities, no doubt.
Some guys feel they have to be the Lord and Savior of the family by solving all the problems in their family. My brother, you can't solve all your family problems. As you solve one, another problem is already in the queue waiting for you.
3. FREE SERVICES/MINISTRATIONS: Some guys don't think about getting married because they are already enjoying the benefits of marriage. They say "why should I get married now when I have a girl friend that offers me free sex. She comes to my house to cook for me and she does all my laundry work".
"why should I buy the whole Cow when I get steady supply of cow milk?".
I blame the lady that offers such free ministrations in a bid to prove wife material 1000 yards.. May that milk not purge you as you drink it, my brother.
4. BEING OVERLY SELECTIVE: No Lady is ever good enough for some guys. She is not educated enough. She speaks scattered English. She has tribal marks. She has k-legs.
I want a lady that has pointed nose, flat stomach, long legs, massive waist, and golden eyes like that of a bird.
She has an OND, I'm a masters degree holder, she's not my class. Bro, hope you know you are not some other person's class too?
She must be a working class lady when you are jobless.. "OLE"..you are not working, yet you want a working class lady that will be footing your bills. she will foot you down my brother.
5. MUMMY'S CHOICE: Some guys are not yet married or find it difficult to get married because they want to meet the specifications of their mother.
If his mother doesn't approve of the lady, he calls it a quit with the lady. Such guys have moms that insist they must marry from their village. The girl must be from the same tribe with you.
We were born into Assemblies of God Church, and the lady must come from Assemblies of God, so we remain assembled. Well done, brother. It's your scattered mind you need to assemble, my brother.
6. I MUST BE A MILLONAIRE FIRST: It's not by your power and strength that you become a millionaire, it's by God's favor. If you have waited for the money for long and it's not coming, will you keep waiting? Not everyone is destined to be a millionaire as a bachelor. Some become millionaires after they got married. So choose your choose, my brother.
7. THE LADY'S MAN: You are feeling young and fresh because of your good looks. You feel you are doing any lady that comes your way a favor by dating them. They are the ones chasing you, and your shoulders that have puffed up 50 50 shoulder pads are almost exploding with pride.
All of a sudden, you wake up one morning to realise you are 40 years old and still sagging trousers feeling young. Bro, you need to have a meeting with yourself and by yourself. You will not always be a bobo forever.
8. LORD OF THE RINGS: This spirit tells you to engage ladies with rings here and there, and they hold on to the rings for 10-15 years, yet no marriage. You even know the family of the lady, but you know in your heart of heart that You are not ready, yet you scare away other suitors from her.
You make the ladies feel you have made a commitment through the rings, alas those rings are nothing short of key holders and handcuffs.
You are that spirit husband people are talking about.. πππ
Stop giving people's daughters handcuffs and key holders in the name of engagement rings.
We loose every chain holding marriages from taking place at the right time in Jesus name.
May you recognize true love when you see her