UNFORGIVEN COUPLE

My marriage is just one year plus and am pregnant for our first issue. My husband cheat on me, I found out months after we got married he even slept with the girl,I threatened to leave he pleaded  after everything I forgive and continued.

It was a distance relationship I had with him and finally joined him months back.My husband is badly addicted to phone chatting with girls he can do that from morning till night without minding if I'm around or not.we hardly make love unless I initiate I have decided to just forget about sex with him because of his attitudes and addiction. It is too bad ,he is in all social network always sex chatting with girls there is nothing I haven't done .I now decided not to even go to his phone again so i can have my peace and deliver safely.Most times he prefers I get angry at him so he can  sit to himself and chat all day.His addiction is killing me we don't play anymore like our dating days .I have talked to him severally yet nothing. sometimes I wonder why I ended up with him cos I had people that were better but I decided to follow my heart.But now it seems he doesn't love me enough. If I go naked or even try to seduce my husband he tells me to let him be that he is tired. Sometimes I just feel I will cheat on him someday  with anitger guy just that am pregnant for now at least to help me ignore him more.There is no kind of love I don't show this man buy I gave up because even while I worshipped him and pampered him when we newly got married I later found out he is cheating even with everything and all the love I'm showing him. He hardly apologize for any wrong which was different during courtship.

During Courtship he used to disturb me for sex if I visit I used to even be the one to tell him no way that I don't Want to get involved now till marriage, now after exposing me to sex this man sometimes stays months without minding my feelings.Am tired of always asking for sex from a man I call my husband. I noticed he got another cellphone he uses outside the home ,confronted him but he denied it ,I kept mute. Until one week end I came across the phone  and I hid it,since then he didn't asked me about it.He just behaved funny for some days but I ignored and have decided he won't see that phone again, I either dispose it or give it out to someone. I don't know what to do to make it work again. Am tired of the man I married .it even worst now that we are all at home,he  chat morning till night not minding me.I brought out game for us to play he told me he was busy out of annoyance I told him it even better be leaves the house that his presence is making me unhappy. Because of this man I just started charting the ways I'm not suppose to.I have prayed no way.Just decided to open different social network now to start my own because I'm tired I don't want to think again .Just new marriage.Please how do I handle this man,he hardly tells me he love me but he says that to his girls when he chats them. although he provides everything needed. I am tired .sorry for the long post I just need a way yo harden my heart more so I can forget about him.

THE URGE FOR OPPOSITE SEX

My struggle with lust and how I overcame

I want to speak with my fellow male counterparts. Please ladies close your eyes. It is non of your business. My brother, let's talk man to man. You know we men have these natural tendencies in common. For instance when we look at erotic images or motion pictures, we have urge for sex, you notice erection of the organ and a hunger for the real thing. Yes. It is natural. God created man that way, if it doesn't happen that way, if you get married, how will you impregnate your wife? Those who never felt like

that are not normal. If there is no erection there will be no penetration. God made it so. 
But I have not come to give you a sex education. No. I have come to give you a knowledge on the implications of having sexual urge with someone who is not your wife, as God had ordained it.
In wedlock, sexual intercourse is Holy, and pleasing to God. Yes He made it that way and reserved it for married couples. 
When I genuinely encountered Christ, I gradually ceased from being natural. It took time. I read and heard the word of God that said that that "natural" tendency of having sexual urge is carnal. Though It is natural but if one becomes born again, having a new nature, that urge dies with the old self. It only comes online when it is for Holy purposes in God's Will in marriage.

My confession

May I announce here that among the sins I struggled with during my early Christian life, sexual urge was the strongest. At a point in life, I considered it normal, if not, why must I remain under the yoke after making all the effort to quit? It was because it took me years that seemed endless. I must also confess that I fell prey to different seductions especially from erotic movies, websites, music and ladies I see on the streets. Yes. Though I was a believer then. I don't pass a beautiful lady without looking at her figure eight, from face to breasts, buttocks, legs. Yes. I was guilty of lust as a believer back then. I always had the urge to go into relationship with ladies, though not for sex but to gratify the urge. As a result, I opened the gateway for the spirit of lust to take over and I became possessed. I lost total control of my sensual body such that I engaged in secret sin like, watching pornography, and ejaculating, even as a believer. 
I lost my salvation totally, but on the outside, I still lived holy, doing the church things as usual. I maintain my good reputation as a genuine believer but I was rotten inside. I knew I was a big mess. I pretended but was dying inside. My spirit once whispered to me that I would soon enter into perdition. It shocked me to bone. Perdition. God forbid. 
Do you know the meaning of perdition? This is the opposite of perfection. In our Christian journey, we run the heavenly race to attain perfection, becoming like Christ. It is a point of no return. At the stage of perfection, which Paul announced, when he said he had finished the race, we wait to be raptured or taken to glory, no matter the age whether young or old. Perdition on the other side is a point of no return, whereby grace has elapsed or expired. Satan and his cohorts are in perdition. The door of grace has been shut up against them. So also are many souls shut out of grace while they are still alive on earth, simply because they crossed boundary line with their sins and entered into mortal sin. 
Paul explained why, he said every other sin is outside the body, but the sin of immorality is against our own body. May I inform someone reading this post that the only sin that leads to perdition is immorality. Ask Paul. Whether it is only in the mind, without actual sex, they are the same thing. Jesus said whoever looks at a woman and lust in his heart has already committed immorality in his heart. 
Immorality includes watching porn, sexual thoughts, masturbation, sex chat, watching erotic videos of movies, music; it also includes reading novels, books, websites that tells or shows immoral images or stories. 
Do you know Sirens? These are ladies with perfect beauty viral on the internet but they are hybrid demons. They reproduce through sex betwen demons and humans. Whether it happens through dream or it happens physically. You hear about spiritual wives and husbands. They reproduce in hours while normal human beings should reproduce in a gestation period of 9 months of conception. The Sirens are here with us. Many of them are on the internet. They don't have souls. There is nothing like conscience. That's why they derive joy in nudity. They are pornstars. They destroy even marriages with their sexual simulations. They are also here with us, in the churches. That sister you assume to be a strong believer, maybe one of them. Their picture on internet are as strong and active as their physical presence. They defy the law of time, gravity and distance. Just a glimpse on them, whether half naked or completely nude, their demons will posses their victims electronically and live inside of them physically. These are spirit of lust. I became their victim.

Their only goal is to defile God's temple. Once they have done that, their mission is complete. 
Paul wrote that defiling our body is tantamount to destroying our soul. Paul added that whoever defiles God's temple, him also will God destroy. They took advantage of God's word in making Him destroy souls by Himself. When God destroys, who can save them?
But it is our decision that makes it possible because the devil cannot decide for you. Just a little thought, "let me see this".... you enter. 7 years of salvation is gone in one minute.

Destroying a soul here means that the soul has been relegated to perdition. A point of no return. A point where no amount of prayer or repentance can bring you back to God. Paul said at this stage, it is impossible to receive grace again. This was dawning on me and making me uncomfortable such that I had to leave everything and entered into 21 days of fasting and prayer, studying the word of God, after which I underwent serious deliverance for a second time. 
I repented severally, it never worked. I prayed and prayed, tried the first deliverance, it didn't work. I continued until the last one worked. It was like hell on earth to be under the yoke of sexual spirits. My dear, if you have given your life to Christ but you are still having this challenge, just know the truth from me that you still need deliverance and sanctification not salvation this time. Salvation without sanctification is useless. Yes. If you die like that you are ending up in hell. Or you may not come out of it if you don't run for your soul now. God's time is "now". Not later or tomorrow. The danger of it all is, if one is under satanic yoke, the devil can do anything with his soul, take his life untimely in order to take away his chances of restoring his salvation. The devil creates problems, here and there, or keep you too busy to attend fellowship, weaken your prayer life, sap all grace out of your life. Taking you closer and closer to perdition. God forbid.

But when I got delivered, I had boldness to testify. 
For a very long period now, I have never had sexual urge or lust or anything immoral. Not even the slightest of it. If I had not been there, I may not have the testimony to share. But it was the love of God and rare grace that delivered me. Many souls never restored their faith after fallen. I have known some of them who told me that they had lost it and cannot return. They have tried all they could but to no avail. But that will not be the portion of someone reading this post. I leave you with some scriptures below. I advise you that is reading this, if you have the same challenge, meet a genuine pastor or deliverance minister in a genuine church. Note that most pastors are agents of darkness. You can inbox me to recommend a church for you. I am not saying you are to change church. No. Just go there to get delivered so that you will deliver others suffering similar cases in your own church. The scheme of the devil is spreading like wildfire all over the churches, without an exception. But only those who overcome till the end shall be saved.

Leviticus 20:10 And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. 
Proverbs 6:32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. 
Matthew 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 
2 Peter 2:14 Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children:

1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

1 Corinthians 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

1 Corinthians 3:17 If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.

Hebrews 6:4 For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted of the heavenly gift, and were made partakers of the Holy Ghost, 6:6 If they shall fall away, to renew them again unto repentance; seeing they crucify to themselves the Son of God afresh, and put him to an open shame.

1 Timothy 6:9 But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition.

Jeremiah 6:30 Reprobate silver shall men call them, because the LORD hath rejected them. Romans 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient.

Hebrews 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, 10:27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. 
10:38 Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him. 
10:39 But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul.

If you believe to saving of the soul, then kill that self to save your soul.

Marriage councel

I Can't Imagine This!
Cruel world!

Please She want to know What Next!
Godly Counsel Please!

Good afternoon ma, please help me post on TMT and make me anonymous. I am 32yrs old and married for one year now no child yet. My younger sister who is 20yrs left the village to come stay with me after her secondary sch. After some times I noticed behaviors and chat between her and my husband that I wasn't comfortable, i reported her to my mum and sent her away never to come to my house again. She left and stayed with my immediate younger brother who stays in the same location with me. I took responsibility of her since her SS class and  was still taking care of her after she left my house by sending her 6k every week plus other things.

I was still interested in making her further her school and I bought jamb form for her this year, all these at a distance. Early this year, I fell sick and was hospitalized for a week. On coming back, I wanted to use my husband's phone to make a call, I saw several to and fro calls btw my sis and husband. I installed an app on hubby's phone to record their calls. I found out from the app that my husband calls her a and have sex with her as they pls. I have not confronted them yet. I want to ask married people in this house how I can manage this betrayal from this two. If I leave this marriage, does it mean I can't fight for my marriage? Can I ever forgive them? What should I do please

I have been married for the past 9yrs with three boys but I and my husband have never stayed more than one month together because of my work, I work somewhere far from my husband. he took that opportunity and picked a girlfriend whom he has a baby boy with, for the past five years my marriage have being hell for me, my husband insult me, shout at me, dislike my children, and so many things because I always complain about his other relationship the girlfriend on the other don't respect me even though I consider her child as mine, now my problem is, a little issue came up between us, and he called and my parents he can't stay with me anymore. n
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Question is ever since we got married, am the only one who apologize when we have issues, my husband doesn't know how to say sorry, now he is waiting for me to apologise once again for a crime I have not committed else our marriage will collapse. because I always apologise for peace, he feels am the only one who causes problem. Should I apologise once again for a crime I have not committed?

WHAT DID YOU DO?

I was at home and we had some visitors, so I decided to go upstairs to my mother's room to pray and study since she was busy with cooking in the kitchen. As I laid on the bed, I saw on the platform where she keeps things, a small quantity of sugar wrapped in nylon but engrossed by some tiny ants. Immediately, I took the sugar and dropped it on the floor where the rays of light coming from the sun can penetrate it. Then, I continued my prayers.
Suddenly, I heard the voice of God saying to me, *'Son, what did you do to the sugar?'*
I replied, I exposed it to sunlight! Then, God spoke again, *why didn't you start killing the ants one by one?*

I said, because I will be wasting time and of course no matter the number of ants, when the sugar is exposed to light, they will all disappear.
Then, God said, *Son, expose your life to light of the word when the 'ants' of worry, lack, pains, trials come to you. Don't attack the problem, just expose your life to the word of God, and the problem will be solved (disappear)*
Brothers and Sisters, what are the 'ants' surrounding your 'sugar' right now? Is it lack, delay, joblessness, barrenness, dryness, failure, disappointment, all manner of sinful habits and the vicissitudes of life? Simply, expose your life to the 'light of the word'.
Have you read the temptation of Jesus? I mean did you study it? What did you see? For me, I saw the exact illustration above in that context. Jesus had exposed Himself to the light of the scriptures and the enemy was unable to have a free run.
Do you know what would have happened to that small quantity of sugar? Little by little, the ants would have sucked it up and left nothing there. That is exactly the enemies' agenda for you and me but we are able to stop them when we are exposed to light, not by 'killing' them

Quick Lesson for ladies

I just want to teach some of the ladies out there a quick lesson.
It is no longer news that a lot of ladies move in with men that are not legally their husbands.
The guy promises them marriage and invites them to come to live with him. For some, it was just introduction. Aunty introduction is not marriage as long as he as not either put an official ring on that finger or paid your complete bride price depending on your tradition.

So, Aunty, you move in and start performing wife duties. You wash plate, sweep the house, wash his clothes, sleep with him on the same bed, have sex with him, some get pregnant, some abort while some keep the baby. You automatically turn baby mama.
Funny enough, uncle is not even saying a word about coming to see your parents, some times you ask him baba what's up and he tells you to relax that soon he will do something about it that you should try to understand.
Wait first, if uncle can take care of you while cohabiting with him, please what is preventing him from paying your bride price since he can take care of you and himself.

Uncle is busy enjoying wife privileges without paying your bride price. Aunty you too, you are busy enjoying husband privileges without any price paid on your head.
Few years down the line you are wondering why the marriage promised years ago is still just a promise and not yet a reality.
Sister listens very carefully.
Let me let you in on a secret about guys, once a guy starts getting from you everything he should get from his wife, he becomes lazy towards marrying you. He will keep putting other needs ahead of you. To him, what's the point of marring you legally when he is getting everything that a husband gets from his wife.
Aunty wife trainee, you need to understand that the distance you give a man and his desire to always have you around him is the force that will push and motivate him to do everything necessary to make you his wife. As long as you are always available the desire to put in the necessary action to tire you down to himself forever is lost.
You know yourself. As you are still reading this, start packing your bags and everything that belongs to you in his house. It's time to either go back to your parent's house or look for a female friend to stay with. I know you have been thinking about this, so now is time do make up your mind. Don't allow any man brainwash you that you no longer have value for yourself and the principal guiding your life.
Some of you will claim hardship as an excuse, aunty wife in training, let's be honest, you are not the only one in a difficult position. Many people have found themselves in a worse situation but didn't even consider the option of moving into the house of a man that is not legally their husband no matter what was promised. So receive sense now. Don't be lazy.
Living with him is not a guarantee that the uncle will end up marrying you. So many have tried and ended up shocked as to how uncle moved on to marry another sister that values herself.
If you move out and he is not rushing to pay your bride price to bring you back, then my sister you have wasted your life on a man that never wanted you.