*RIGHT RESPONSES TO MARITAL STORM AND WEARINESS FACED BY GODLY SPOUSES.*

Marriage is always a threat to the enemy of our Soul since the time from Garden of Eden because of evil-jealousy of being created as God's image and likeness.

Marital moments that you wonder at your spouse to think _“Am I sure to have made right choice when I married her/him?”_ . There are times when separation or divorce cross your mind as the only option out of present marital challenges. Many instances of Emotional and Financial betrayal/offenses/abuses beyond your tolerance. Please remember Christ do forgive us all when we are yet sinners, thereby Marriage is all about forgiveness as priority.

Marriage is not without times of demand for strong but healthy compromises, misunderstanding and misinterpreting of spouse's intentions because both spouses are humans that can made mistakes.

Marital Emotional hurtful times when you feel that your love and marital understanding is being taken for granted. Remember, You are not alone with this marital burden. The truth is that every marriage has its fair share of pains and trial moments. Every marriage goes through rough times and none is immune to life challenges though differs in perspectives.

Every Spouses in respective of gender experiences some scaring and perplexing moments over Family responsibilities, sickness, joblessness, Child delay, Spiritual attacks and Emotional battles.

Marital understanding in realizing that difficult seasons are temporary moments that will surely pass as it comes leaving the glory of God as our testimony. Straight roads don’t make experienced drivers but rough roads is the determinants.

Always remember it's the rough surfaces that sharpen the best. Rough Marital times are meant to build your marriage, not destroy it, if only spouses learn to respond wisely with the Truth that lasts not with human intelligent that's unstable.

Victory in Marriage is sure as long as Spouses continue to rest in God's promises for their home than what the marital daily circumstances is showing or dictating.

Hold on to your Marital Faith and Trust in Christ because faithful is He that called us all and still able to do it more than our wildest imagination or expectations !

I decree that the peace amd grace of God that's beyond human understanding will continue to uphold our homes to the end in Jesus mighty name.

By Rev  Evang OkweChi

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HOW TO BE A ROMANTIC WIFE

By First lady ossy Iwunze

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1. Remember that romance is not the husband's responsibility alone

2. Compliment your husband when he is well-dressed and smells good

3. Touch your husband's thigh when he is driving or seated next to you when you want to tell him something

4. Flirt with him over the phone

5. Play with his fingers when you two are having pillow talks

6. Cuddle with him and place his head on your bosom when you two are in bed

7. Place your hand on his arm as a Queen who knows her position

8. Dress up for his visual stimulation, especially in the bedroom

9. Dance for him and tease him

10. Tell him all the passionate things you want to do to him

11. Praise his sexual performance and the things he does that give you pleasure. Tell him how how he drives you crazy

12. Take him out on dates, don't always wait for him to plan things

13. Kiss him, not just on the lips but also his cheeks, his forehead, his fingers

14. Offer to serve him with a smile and take care of him

15. Call him special names "My King", "Darling", "Honey"

16. Be confident in being yourself, do great things as an individual. It excites him when he is proud of you

17. Talk highly about him in public, encourage him in private when he is down

18. Find out his favourite sex position and do it to him often

19. Help him to put on and remove his clothes, his tie, his coat

20. Rally the children in appreciating him, make him feel valued at home regardless of his financial status

21. Buy him gifts that he will like

22. Prepare his favourite meal or ask him what he would like to eat

23. Tell him you love him. Men love to be affirmed too. Tell him also what you love about him

24. Ask him how his day has been. Show care

25. Make sexual moves on him, don't just lay there waiting for him to do all the work

26. Pray for him to bless him, not because you think he is the devil or the problem in your marriage. Prayerful women are romantic

27. Attend to his needs without him asking such as making him a cup of tea/coffee when he is working

Just because you have spent years together doesn't mean you stop making him feel special. You were attractive and made him feel valued and that is why he pursued you to get you, stay attractive and valuing him to keep him; as you do so, he will long for your presence and give you his best. The woman who loves her husband, builds her home.

Greetings from mummy

MY ORDEAL WITH GEE BOYS

By Evang  OkweChi

Here is my ordeal with Gee boys

I am a 300level university student. I want to advice my fellow students who think they can eat their cake and still have it. Back then in the hostel, I looked like the most miserable. Everything about me looked awkward and out-dated because I refused to do what my fellow female students were doing. I belonged to a fellowship and happened to be the secretary.

There are these group of rich young guys who always come to school to pick girls with their exotic cars. Rachel my roommate will never let me be. She would always persuade me to hang out with them. Rachel was so hot. She was using the latest iPhone. In short, Rachel was very rich because of those guys popularly known as Gee guys or Yahoo boys always shower her with lots of money. The persuasion of Rachel became severe the very first day those boys saw the both of us together. One of them tried talking to me but I didn’t give listening ears to him. Rachel went as far as giving him my phone number. Every morning, these guy would wake me up with his calls and his romantic messages. He sent many gifts to me through Rachel which I rejected. My roommates who were of the same category with Rachel would call me names like sister Mary, holy Nweje, Kabasher all because I refused to join their company. They would always jest and make mockery of me in the room. One day my phone fell from the staircase and got damaged. I was still considering on how to tell my parents that the new phone they bought for me has damaged, when Cynthia unveiled her new iphone 6x. Cynthia was just a 100level student who recently joined us in the room. Her status challenged immediately she joined Rachel and her cohort. Her Gee friends must have been taking very good care of her. When I called my father to tell them that my phone got damaged, he was very angry but promised to buy another one for me.

One week later, he sent a new Tecno phone for me which was little bigger than the one I was using. To be sincere I was not happy. I was expecting a bigger one or probably an iphone. Soon, the money he normally sends to me at the end of every month could not reach me again. I wanted to be living big like Rachel and Cynthia; always cooking with chicken, always subscribing my phone, buying expensive clothes and accessories. I tried competing with them. The more I tried to compete with them, the more they beat me. When I could not beat them, I decided to join them. When I told Rachel, she never knew I was serious until I dressed up that evening to follow her. Few minutes after we came out of the hostel, two guys alighted from their Toyota Venza and picked us. After eating and drinking in their apartment that night, one of them asked me to come over to his room. Of course I knew what was going to happen and I was ready for it. When I retired to his bed, he started by kissing and caressing my body. All of a sudden, he stopped and left me on the bed. Few minutes later, he came back and started asking me questions about myself. After much questions, we both came to know that we came from the same state and probably the same town. He even knew my village but refused to tell me his. He told me that he stopped touching me when he saw that I was still a virgin and wanted to know more about me and why I chose that kind of life. That night, he gave me N20,000 and advised me to stop following GEE boys. He dropped a statement saying, ‘If girls knew what we [GEE boys] do with them they would never follow us no matter what we offer to them. When he said this, I thought he was trying to say that they will still dump us for other girls or that they [GEE boys] will not marry us after sleeping with us, but I was totally wrong. I thought that all these was just because I was still a virgin and also because we eventually hail from the same place, I didn’t heed to his advice because I had already made up my mind to break my virginity and go the other way round. I left the following morning with Rachel but never told her what happened. I only begged her never to take me to that guy again, besides there were many other GEE guys in town.

Few days later, I followed Rachel, Cynthia and two other girls from our school to a night party in the town. Rachel introduced us to these rich and young looking guys. We partied with them after which they drove us to their apartment. Truly, these boys were living large. Their house was beautiful that I felt like not leaving again, they chose us one after another after which we retired to their different rooms, but the guys were still at the sitting room drinking and smoking. After about an hour, I was pressed and decided to go and ease myself. I left the room and on my coming out, I heard the boys discussing. I was like, ‘let me do small amebo’. I gently went closer to them and heard the shock of my life. I heard them angrily saying in regret that ‘that day was a bad market, and that it was only me amongst the other girls that still have a womb and that other GEE guys had already used the womb of the other four girls for rituals. They must have viewed us spiritually to know this. I was so terrified and my body started shaking in fear and anxiety. I fearfully sneaked back to the room, took my bag and managed to escape through the back door. It was about 11:30pm. By the grace of God, I found a taxi that took me back to school that night. I was seriously panting when I returned but I refused to say what happened to me. Rachel and the other girls returned the following morning and was very mad at me. They said the guys got very angry for what I did. But neither the guys nor my roommates knew the reason why I ran away that night. They really attacked me verbally but I didn’t respond.

I really thank God for saving my life. He gave me another change after misusing the other ones. Please my fellow girls, I didn’t put up this to frighten anyone but it’s a call for carefulness. Please mind the kind of life you live. All that glitters are not gold. Be contented with what you have. All these GEE guys you see carrying big cars around are into what is called GEE plus, that is the ritual part of it. Yahoo Yahoo will not and will never pay you well, if you did not do plus [ritual]. Who in this 21st century will blindly transfer millions of dollars to you when you did not use jass on him/her. Again, most of these guys you see carrying big cars around are not all GEE guys as they claim to be. Most of them are just ritualist sacrificing their live span by shortening it, using their manhood or using their loved ones. Most guys don’t waste their time again pressing their laptops and looking for whom to fraud, they go straight to ritual. Some girls will say, let me go eat the money he had stolen from white people through fraud, but they never knew what they are doing to themselves. Imagine how I could have lost my womb and remain barren for life just because of my greed. I’m still afraid to tell my roommates what those guys said about them. Some girls has ignorantly exchanged their stars, womb, with money, phone and other material things.

I chose to live a wayward life but God’s grace found me. He saved me the second time.

Please if you have a sister, friend or any female relation who is in the University, please advise them.

Thanks and God bless you.

TAKE NOTE DEAR SINGLES

By Evang OkweChi

A woman noticed that her partner was very secretive before they got married.

She's the free type, who shares everything with him.

One day, they went out, and took pictures with his phone.

He promised to send it her through whatsap, but failed to do so.

Few weeks later, they hanged out, and she reminded him about the pictures that he promised to send to her, he waved it off, and told her later.

She decided to send it herself, as she took hold of his phone.

He ordered her to drop his phone. But she insisted that she wants to send the pictures herself and he should tell her his password.

He refused doing so, stating that his phone is his privacy.

After much pressure. He decided to come clean, that if he should give her his password, she will faint on going through his phone. To avoid that, it best she don't know his password.

She became inquisitive to know what can make her faint by going through his phone.

When he saw that she's not giving up, he playfully collected the phone from her and pocketed it.

She felt bad,and became insecure. The trust she had for him diminished.

She finds it hard to trust him after many other occasions she caught him cheating on her.

Some other day, he will be snooping through her own phone, to know if she's cheating or not.

Whereas, he's the one cheating!

Because she loves him so much, she thought he would later change, after confronting him, he promised to change but never did so.

After they got married, he grew worse, and started coming home late at nights.

He later graduated to sleeping outside for 3 days.

Whenever she confronts him, he would always give one excuse or the other.

He would sometimes tell her that he had so many business meetings to attend.

She became a shadow of herself, as it became clear to her that he's not ready to change.

He's a heavy cross that is weighing her down.

She wish she'd backed out while they were still courting.

* * *

*Dear Singles,*

God has the best for you, don't settle for less!

Note the red flags in your relationship and take precautions.

Back out while there's still time.

Note this: you can not change anybody!

*Change comes from the heart*

Change can only be possible when the individual determines in his/her heart to make amends and change.

If he/she doesn't change during your dating and courting season, then know that he/she can not change in marriage.

Don't say that you will manage, so that you don't end up regretting.

Because a time will come when you can not tolerate (bear) it anymore.

Marriage has it own elasticity.When it reach to that stage (it limits); A time when it seems like the excitement is dying off, what keeps you two together is commitment, and not management.

Choose wisely, and don't neglect those red flags when you notice them.

Communicate to your partner about it, and if he/she refuses to change;

*OPT OUT IN TIME!*

*A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE!*

*STAY BLESSED!*

Marriage based on pity

By Evang OkeChi

Marriages based on pity won't succeed.

It's hard to believe that someone would actually marry a person out of pity, unless someone paid him or held a gun to his head, how would you force him to marry you.

Marrying someone out of pity will never make your life as good as you would wish it to be.

It can be a huge challenge when you eventually meet someone you honestly feel love for, you care about and want to be with.

Only geniune love sustains a marriage.

Pity has nothing to do with a healthy marriage.

What is paramount in all this is "mutual happiness and love".

Most people marry for many reasons, pity being one of them.

Some even marry because they are bored.

Some because their soothsayer have told them that they've had 'visions' of their husbands, others marry because their mothers put too much pressure on them, while for others, they marry for status and security.

In short, we ALL have our reasons for marrying whom we marry.

Nobody owes the world an explanation as to why they married anyone.

You are responsible for any decision taken.

Prayer is powerful.

It can go where you cannot.

It reaches inside your spouse head and heart.

Tell God to teach him/her spiritual discipline

U will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

THOSE WHO CROWN KINGS DO NOT LOOK LIKE KINGS; BEWARE !!!

By Chukwuma obiagauzo

There was this poor man who wrote a book at the age of 40 and decided to launch it on his birthday.

He had no money to fund the launching and so, he decided to seek help from a millionaire in his community.

He made a visit to the Millionaires home and after they exchanged pleasantries, he told his host what brought him.

The Millionaire told him to take out a piece of paper and pen.

He said, " I will give you a test. If you pass it, I will give you the money you need and if you fail, I will still give you the money"

He then told him to write down the names of 10 people who could give him 10k each for his book during the launch.

Surprisingly, the man could not write even 3 names.

Now, take a glass of water and let me tell you something..

It is not enough to have talent and skills. You must understand the power of building valuable relationship.

It was a wise man that said, your network is directly proportional to your net worth.

_Relationship is a currency ._ Relationship is a stream of income.

Everything in this life actually reproduces on the basis of relationship.

See eh, Who likes you in this life matters.

_Men are lifted through men_ .

Many of us are talented but we lack a cup bearer to tell the King that there is a Joseph that can interpret dreams.

Who you know matters a lot in this life. Don't say it doesn't matter. It does.

There are heights and opportunities you will never attain if you don't understand *the power of Keeping Valuable Relationships* .

When they say, *turn and greet your neighbour in church,/ mosque at times, you don't even know who you are talking to* .

That might be the CEO of a company. But sometimes, *we despise people based on their outward looks and judge them wrongly.*

Have this wisdom am sharing with you.

That person you sit with in class, or the colleagues at work that you look down on, may be the ones that will lead you to your destiny helper because you have no idea who they know.

Sometimes, it takes just a recommendation to change your story.

Don't despise men in Life. You will need them one day.

Sometimes those who crown Kings don't look like kings and may never become kings but they can help you wear the crown.

Again

Shut the door of relationship gently you may need to use it tommorow

Enjoy a Blessed life full of God's favour.

Amen!

Don't say I didn't tell that person you are riftrag in your street may know somebody that knows the president, never look down on anybody

that cleaner sweeping your toilet

that house help you keep insulting all the time

That your gate you keep shouting upon, may be your life saver tomorrow or your helper, never looked down on anyone

Mike Tyson use to be Donald Trump boss before, But Donald Trump emerge as the president of United States, I hope you learn some lesson there

GOD is a time changer and he may decide to turn table arroud for that person you are calling riftrag

maintain standard relationship with everybody No matter what.

God bless you.