By Evang OkweChi
A woman noticed that her partner was very secretive before they got married.
She's the free type, who shares everything with him.
One day, they went out, and took pictures with his phone.
He promised to send it her through whatsap, but failed to do so.
Few weeks later, they hanged out, and she reminded him about the pictures that he promised to send to her, he waved it off, and told her later.
She decided to send it herself, as she took hold of his phone.
He ordered her to drop his phone. But she insisted that she wants to send the pictures herself and he should tell her his password.
He refused doing so, stating that his phone is his privacy.
After much pressure. He decided to come clean, that if he should give her his password, she will faint on going through his phone. To avoid that, it best she don't know his password.
She became inquisitive to know what can make her faint by going through his phone.
When he saw that she's not giving up, he playfully collected the phone from her and pocketed it.
She felt bad,and became insecure. The trust she had for him diminished.
She finds it hard to trust him after many other occasions she caught him cheating on her.
Some other day, he will be snooping through her own phone, to know if she's cheating or not.
Whereas, he's the one cheating!
Because she loves him so much, she thought he would later change, after confronting him, he promised to change but never did so.
After they got married, he grew worse, and started coming home late at nights.
He later graduated to sleeping outside for 3 days.
Whenever she confronts him, he would always give one excuse or the other.
He would sometimes tell her that he had so many business meetings to attend.
She became a shadow of herself, as it became clear to her that he's not ready to change.
He's a heavy cross that is weighing her down.
She wish she'd backed out while they were still courting.
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*Dear Singles,*
God has the best for you, don't settle for less!
Note the red flags in your relationship and take precautions.
Back out while there's still time.
Note this: you can not change anybody!
*Change comes from the heart*
Change can only be possible when the individual determines in his/her heart to make amends and change.
If he/she doesn't change during your dating and courting season, then know that he/she can not change in marriage.
Don't say that you will manage, so that you don't end up regretting.
Because a time will come when you can not tolerate (bear) it anymore.
Marriage has it own elasticity.When it reach to that stage (it limits); A time when it seems like the excitement is dying off, what keeps you two together is commitment, and not management.
Choose wisely, and don't neglect those red flags when you notice them.
Communicate to your partner about it, and if he/she refuses to change;
*OPT OUT IN TIME!*
*A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE!*
*STAY BLESSED!*
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