RELATIONSHIP LAZINESS

By Profit Eneh

Omake things easy for themselves or where one person makes the other person do all the work to get the relationship to the next level.

The truth of the matter is that a lot of couples fall into this category and some individuals make the same mistakes by wanting to build the relationship alone.

For instance, when it comes to communication. I was telling someone a few days back that you can't build communication alone.

For example, if you are experiencing poor communication in your relationship, you can not just say you want to improve communication on your own. No, it will never work. You will try and end up frustrated.

Communication requires two intentional people to make it work.

This is why any time I want to do training on communication. I prefer to have the couple present and not just one of them. This is because I believe that each person has a role to play to make things work.

Relationship laziness comes into play when one of the couples refuses to put in the required effort to make things work out. When you are trying to communicate and they few you are doing too much or they don't have to do much.

In a relationship between two mature individuals who truly love themselves and want to spend the rest of their life together, their primary goal is usually to ensure that things they do don't hurt the other person.

They put in the work to see to the growth of the other person. They are not just seating around waiting for things to happen. They stand up and make things happen. They go the extra mile to make life easy for the one they love.

They are not in the group of people that believe in what will be will be. They are people who believe, if i want this, i go for it and make it happen.

They put themself on the line because they know what they want. They make efforts to make life easy for their partner.

They communicate with clarity and ask important questions. They share their deepest thoughts with you because they want you to be a part of them. They are very vulnerable with you.

This is what it means to put in the work to make your relationship or marriage work. Many couples are not here yet because they are too lazy to make it happen and too selfish, thinking only about themselves.

They just want it but are never ready to get it. They say I love you but their action says I don't love you and I want you to go through emotional stress trying to figure me out.

You can't afford to be like that or be with someone like that.

Put in the work.

Don't be lazy.

Relationship and marriage need two hard workers ready to invest in themselves and their union.

You can do better.

Start taking action towards making life easy for your partner. Don't make them guess to understand you. Open up to each other and show yourselves all there is to you.

I hope this was helpful in a way.