SEX GOES WITH SENSE

2 Samuel 13:17-19 Then he called his servant that ministered unto him, and said, Put now this woman out from me, and bolt the door after her.

And she had a garment of divers colours upon her: for with such robes were the king's daughters that were virgins apparelled. Then his servant brought her out, and bolted the door after her.

And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colours that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying.

Ammon did not love Tamar but was filled with passion ...Apart from sex what do you want, what attracts you .Many got it wrong when they based their love on sex .Life becomes miserable as horror of misery follow such *senseless sex relationships..*

Passion for beauty

Peers pressure and accidental desperation will remove the honours abd glory from a man ...Jonadab had done his work and go left them with regret that's why sex is only good in the marriage parlance ...

Prayer..Ask for forgiveness..fight it

Steps to resolving conflicts in marriage

- Find a God honouring solution (In the resolving process, bear in mind that there is an unseen guest, the Almighty God who was a witness between you and your spouse.-Malachi 2 : 14)

Each of you tells the other what you think the problems is.

Don't seek to prove who is at fault, talk about possible solutions.

Discuss the possibilities, thinking of what would be best for your marriage.

Recognize that a solution will require a change in behaviour on the part of both partners. Ask yourself, “what can I do to make this solution work “?

- Focus on changing your behaviour

Work on changing your behaviour and allow your partner to work on his or hers ( Don't say, “ when you change I will change “)

- Forgive each other

To forgive simply means to release. To set a person free as a judicial act

Forgiving is not a feeling but something you choose to do

It is a command not optional (Colosians 3 : 13 - Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you).

When a husband or wife has been hurt, the “self” cries out for justice. God did not give us justice but rather He offered us mercy and grace.

- Hug each other.

When we touch – cuddle, hug, or hold hands, our bodies release “feel good” hormones. Once the hormones are released into our bodies we experience feelings of happiness, relaxation, improve mood, and lower levels of depression.

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LOSS OF SEXUAL URGE BY MEN

*Why Do Men Lose Sexual Urges?*

From ancient times, men did discovered that when lovers have been together for many years, they gradually lose sexual appetite for each other. Even to the point that the man can no longer get his penis erected in sexual anticipation, no matter the seductive efforts of the woman to help in copulation. This can be very trying and devastating especially for the man, who before then had always considered himself "ever ready...a champ!"

Meanwhile, as soon as he stepped out into the arms of another woman, his penis surges in arousal to the heights of Mount Everest. As a traditionally superstitious and unlearned man, he concludes, "There is something wrong with my wife." So he marries this second woman. The same strange "impotence" reoccurs after some years, and he goes on to marry another....

You see, polygamy in many cases is about men trying to be sexually active till death. They do not understand that no longer having sexual appetite for the woman you have been with for years is very natural. They think it is abnormal. But the truth remains that when you have been with one particular woman for a very long time, sexual appetite dies off gradually. This is why the Urhobo people have a proverb especially among men with multiple lovers, "Ohoro ovo hw'osho!"(One vagina only, kills penis).

Nevertheless, observation, experience, and deductive logic have proved that the reason why we lose sexual appetite overtime for our women is not that they stopped being beautiful, or sexually attractive.

It is because a man being together with a woman transcends sex. When everything is done and dusted, only one undeniable human need lingers on: companionship.

Companionship is the reason some married people celebrate fifty years of being together in marriage. Were it not so, left for sex alone, that marriage would have ended, at least, forty years before then.

I rest my case.

Difference between Weak erection and low libido

Weak erection is having a semi turgid, semi flaccid phallus that is not strong enough to penetrate a woman or falls out during love making 

While low libido is when your partner has no urge to want to be intimate with you. Some lasts for months or years . 

A man with low libido might not have weak erection, the desire is not just dear while a man with weak erection might be rustling with desires but the tool is doing break-and-quench.

When it comes to low libido issues, due to childbirth, hormonal imbalance issues and mood swings from other failed relationships, women suffer low libido more than men. 

Most times during love making some married women just serve themselves rather than actually being fully involved.

What do women want?

This is a very interesting story and a lesson for MEN

(To men) Please take time to ponder.

(To women) Just enjoy the story.

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom.

The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was:

*What do women really want?*

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man. And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end.

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but first he would have to agree to her price.

The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, and Arthur's closest friend. Young Arthur was horrified.

She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc.

He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden.

But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered.

Arthur's question thus:

"What a woman really wants?"

She said, "A woman wants to be in charge of her own life."

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth, and that Arthur's life would be spared. And so it was. The neighbouring monarch granted Arthur his freedom. And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him.

The most beautiful woman he had ever seen was sitting by the bed.

The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth become her horrible and deformed self only half the time, and be the beautiful maiden the other half.

"Which would you prefer?" She asked him. "BEAUTIFUL during the DAY... OR at NIGHT?"

Lancelot pondered the predicament.

During the day, he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!

OR,

would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day? But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous moments with?

(If you are a man reading this) What would YOUR choice be?

(If you are a woman reading this) What would YOUR MAN'S choice be?

And Lancelot's choice is given below...

BUT, please make YOUR choice first before you scroll down below!

OKAY?

Knowing the answer the witch gave to Arthur for his question, Sir Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now, what is the moral to this

The moral is...

1. There is a 'witch' in every woman, no matter how beautiful she is. It's how a man manages it

2. If you let a woman decide on her own she gives u d best. but if u force her with ur decisions she becomes a witch.

Hmmmm

What do you think ?

So, be careful how you treat a woman, especially your wife in other to have long life, rest of mind, and happiness.

What causes painful sex with an average penis?

It's is because you are not not aroused, sex lubricant will help

Around 17% of women aged 18-50 experience problems with vaginal dryness during sex, even before the menopause takes place. Many women may experience vaginal dryness during sex because they are not sexually aroused, this is often caused by insufficient foreplay or psychological reasons such as stress.