*Take life very easy*

Recently, a civil servant was promoted from grade level 16, awaiting her level 17 letter and suddenly, she had high blood pressure which resulted in a coma and the next thing we heard is her death.

It is a tragedy to work your ass off all your life only to pass away in your fondest moments. 'God forbid', I hear you say.

See, we are often got carried away giving our best to life when we forget that we too, deserve the best from us.

Beloved, you need to start taking care of your health. Eat good food. Rest very well and take life gently.

If you can't build a duplex, build a two-bedroom flat and enjoy yourself.

If you have a car thank God, If not, don't kill yourself.

Send your children to schools you can afford. Success does not necessarily tied to big schools. Cut your coat according to your size.

Dear, if you can't buy Lace, put on Ankara.

If you can't afford designers, slay with Okirika. You can't impress the whole world by wearing expensive clothes. So far you are not wearing rags, my dear, you are doing just fine.

Women, if your husband is misbehaving, try to fix it. But if he refuses to change, presume as if the problem doesn't exist.

If your wife is not giving you peace of mind, work things out. But after trying your best and no change in sight, presume the problem doesn't exist and take care of your children.

If one of your children is frustrating your life after giving him/her proper parenting, pray to God to intercede and do your best and don't give up on them, but if they aren't heeding, don't kill yourself. You did not kill your parents. Did you? They will definitely change one day and live fine, if you die. Perhaps, the barren also live a happy life!

See, if your workload in the office is becoming unbearable, speak out and do the little you can. Just be honest with yourself. Laziness is different from overdoing!

If your circle of friends, old school mates or family members are more of a competition rather than encouragement, don't do pass yourself, stay on your lane!

If you are amongst people who are full of envy and hatred, edit and exit their midst.

If your business folds up or is on the edge of folding up, look only unto God and seek workable solutions. Avoid different terrible advice from family and friends to do juju. Don't be tempted; it never ends well.

As long as there is life, there is always hope. Yes! Never compare your life with others. Know this and know peace!

And then, when you receive your salary, eat good food and sleep very well.

In 2016, a man dropped dead immediately after collecting a thrift of 150k. He was a taxi driver who worked more than a wall clock. The money he saved for six months was lavished by some people who couldn't imagine the hell he went through saving that money.

In all my research works, I have come to realize that, your job lives longer than you. And the fact remains that, YOU CAN ALWAYS BE REPLACED.

Work hard but don't be worn out. Dress well but don't dress to 'kill'. Rest well before you 'rest in peace'. Sleep well before you wake no more.

Once in a while, take yourself out for shopping. Buy yourself gifts. Make yourself happy. Tell yourself nice things. Celebrate your achievements and live life to the fullest.

My brother and sister, don't be selfish but PRIORITISE YOURSELF. Hear me well, Problems No Dey Finish! but we keep praying everyday to overcome as they are coming.

Be contented. Do your best but don't settle for less. Go extra length but never bite more than you can chew.

Trivialise your problems and give happiness an edge over worries. You only have this one life to live. Live peacefully so that you can leave peacefully. Put peace of mind above everything! Please!

If only you know how life moves quickly, you would thread with care. If only you know how fast dead people are forgotten, you would take a break. If only you know how temporal our stay on this planet is, you would take care of yourself.

Whether you like it or not, life will continue with or without you. Remember, the world did not start with your birth and it won't end with your death!

TAKE A BREAK AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY WHILE YOU ARE STILL ALIVE.

Remember to pray and do the will of God.

Thanks and God bless.

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ATE THE DINNER I TURNED DOWN

I had a quarrel with my wife yesterday morning. She was angry with me and I was also very angry with her. I tried to tell her what she did was bad, and all I wanted was for her to accept corrections.

She in turn had her own reasons for doing what she did, and she blames it on me for making her do what she had done. Not until I accept my own mistake, she was not ready to accept hers.

We shouted vehemently at each other before I left the house. I had no time to listen to her anymore, as I was already tired of exchanging words and as such, I was already running late for work.

While walking away she said to me.

"Come back here. So you are now running? Keep running. Run and I will be here waiting for you. But just know there will be no dinner for you. In fact, I won't cook for you anymore."

"Who even wants to eat your food? I will not eat." I fired back at her angrily before driving off.

That day after work, while driving home, I thought to myself. Hence she was not going to be cooking for me, I in turn decided to stay back late and not eat. I stopped by at a friends house and we got talking for a while. He was married and his wife had also become a very good friend of my wife.

They asked me what had happened and why I had refused going home. I explained things to them. I told them about the fight I had with my wife that morning, and how she had failed to see things my way. We laughed over it. They tried to advise me to go home, but I noticed they were also careful not to take sides.

I later returned home by 10pm that night. Although I was no more angry, I had prepared myself for the worst.

When I got back home I found my food long served on the dining. It was still warm. I was famished and walked to the plates already salivating. When I opened them the aroma of a sweetly cooked vegetable soup welcomed me. I didn't waste anytime. I immediately sat down and began to eat.

While eating my wife appeared behind me. She wrapped her arms around my neck and whispered in my ears.

"Thought you said you will not eat my food again."

Just then it struck me. How we say things we don't mean out of anger. How we promise things we can't keep just because we needed to make those promises. I had to cover my small shame, so I raised my head and stared into her eyes.

"Thought you said you won't cook for me again."

"You know I always do. You just didn't want to understand me. You were so annoying." She said

She sat beside me and explained in a better way. I understood with her. I realised I also had a fault. Probably the vegetable soup I was eating was now re arranging my head to factory settings. I apologised for failing to understand her earlier. She also apologised too

So many relationship have shattered because of the lack of understanding and ego between both parties.

So many words which have been said out of anger, have also been taken seriously

I have come to understand that the ability of partners to understand themselves, determines when quarrels are being resolved.

Don't let a night pass without you resolving a fight between you and your partner. If one partner refuses to drop his or her ego, drop yours and make peace.

It is the first step to reconciliation.

Applicable not to couples alone...Even to immediate relations, neighbors and colleagues at work

PLEASE LET US CARE FOR EACH OTHER, MAINTAIN LOVE AND LIVE IN PEACE AND HARMONY WITH OURSELVES

WHAT A BROTHER OR A SISTER SHOULD KNOW

I think it's not awesome truth to says where you meet your partner can or determines ones possibility of getting it right.

Location doesn't determine success in marriage, But who your partner is does, That Jesus is seen or met in the misdt of the prostitute doesn't make Him one of the misrables.

The awesome truth is, not to be equally yoked with the UNBELIEVER.

Unbeliever here in the Hebrew is not only those that are outside the church only but include those that are negative to one another; incompatibles in spirit, soul and body ( compatible in faith, in believe, goal and in practices),

A cow can be yoked with a ram they are both animal looks alike but not compatible therefore goals cannot be achieved and one will suffer for the other,

That Rebecca is met beside a well doesn't make her a drinker Or that Isaac met her in the field doesn't make her a players or have any attribute the has to do with the location but who Rebecca and Isaac are determines.

According to the record from Bishop Benson Idahosha's secretary in her book "Fire In His Bone" bishop met his wife at "mammi waters' worshiper house" as that is his wife's parents home.

But If an elephant married an ant or rat hell on earth or naming son/daughter the name Endurance is gauranteed,

The common ground I see in successful marriage *is that: the man SEES and then God AUTHENTICATES.*

Adam sees, Isaac sees,.. (though God planned it but hide to Adam until he sees No authentication though predestined but wife becomes favor after seen) ...Whosoever finds a wife: finds favor.

Sees here is deeper than just seeing with biological eyes; it entails spiritually (sees in the spirit which is not only through dream or vision only), physically (it's good your partner appeals to you) and biologically sees (like our brother has already said it's good you know your compatibility in place of our biology i,e the blood group matters to know if at all there will reason to change blood group which possible in Christ though not everyone)

So When you're compatible to some degree because it's impossible to sees fully compatible partner before marriage however they can grow into fult compatibility.

When you're compatible to some degree then that's your partner,

However, it's good to have your partner from your friends, people do kick against this even if the Lord (the holy spirit leads them to they rebuke and silent him), It is not like that, your partner can come from anywhere but you must SEES, The very first time you sees you know. However, this is not to grow lust into love or partnership. Which is another err many dash into.

May will never miss it Jesus name!

NO PLACE FOR FEAR

He called her DEAR and thereafter threw her Teddy BEAR at her in anger. He didn't mind her TEARS but the FEAR of losing him made her to apologise quickly.

Later, he came NEAR and gave her a PEAR and orange he bought on his way to comfort her. She collected it anyway to avoid another conflict.

The following Sunday, he led her to the REAR part of the Church building and gave her a new gown to WEAR for their introduction. She was a bit confused but he looked at her and said, "This is the YEAR I will marry you"

She humbly reminded him of his promise to allow her to finish her Masters programme the following year before their wedding.

"No way! I can't change my GEAR of purpose because of you otherwise, I will go for PEARL, the medical doctor. You know she is more beautiful than you."

She held her peace out of fear.

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Dear Sister, you don't have to change your plans and God's purpose for your life because of a guy who threatens to leave you or belittle your value.

A true God-sent brother will value and respect your purpose in life and endeavour to help you fulfil it. He will be patient with you and allow God to take absolute control.

Never allow fear to rule you. Arise and know what the Lord has promised you.

Focus on your purpose, pursue it, pray and God will lead the right brother to you.

It is better to wait for God rather than waste away in a wrong relationship.

You are beautiful and wonderfully made by God!

By Olumide Fatunsin

Marry Someone who knows the Real you.

Marry Someone who knows the Real you.Beyond the Make Up

Beyond the Phonetics

Beyond the Packaging.

Beyond the Macho expression

Marry someone who wants the Real You.

Who acknowledges and celebrates your PERFECTIONS and also recognizes, accepts and accommodates your IMPERFECTIONS

Marry someone who you can be real and imperfect around

Someone that you don't need to pretend around,

Someone that you can truly express your deepest desires and fears to, and they'll understand You.

Marry someone you can be yourself with and not feel judged or condemned.

It's a Red Flag

If they don't encourage you to be original around them.

If you need to be fake and hypocritical before you can impress them.

If they want to be around you, but don't like your family, friends, your background, the course you studied, the things you value, the real life that you live,.

If they want you to deny yourself, your passions and your origin and be fake for them.

Walk away...

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Whatever you do,

Marry Someone who let's You be You.

MARRY WELL

By Musa Gift

5 DIFFERENCES BETWEEN BOYFRIEND MATERIAL AND HUSBAND MATERIAL

1) BOYFRIEND MATERIAL WANTS TO SEE YOUR PANT

HUSBAND MATERIAL WANTS TO SEE YOUR PARENTS

Mention Marriage and Boyfriend Material begins to shake, he'll say you're rushing him.

Boyfriend Material are time wasters and heart breakers, they only come for your body, to see your Nakedness, not for Marriage, they take off once they can take off your clothes, or if they see that you won't allow them.

Husband Material puts Marriage on the table and waits, they want to meet/know your family, Pastor, Mentors. Etc. .

Husband Material wants to see your Parents before seeing your Pant.

Husband Material wants to become a Husband before becoming a Father.

2) BOYFRIEND MATERIAL IS A BOY

HUSBAND MATERIAL IS A MAN.

The difference here isn't age, but MATURITY..

Boyfriend has no Plan, no Vision for his life, he can't take care of himself (cooking and washing), he only wants to play Bet9ja, Party, Drink and have Sex.

Husband Material has a vision, he knows what he wants from life, he plans with you and has his life under control.

A Husband Material Leads You.

You Lead a Boyfriend Material. (spiritually and otherwise)

Marry a BOYfriend Material and you become a MOTHER.

Marry a Husband Material and you become a WIFE.

3) BOYFRIEND MATERIAL IS LOOSE

HUSBAND MATERIAL IS LOYAL

A boyfriend material cannot hold himself once he sees anything in skirt, even your female friends are not safe around him.

You catch him today and forgive him, tomorrow he's at it again

Anytime you hear "Man must cheat", na dem.

When a Woman is washing her husband's clothes, and starts seeing used condoms, several hotel receipts, she married a boyfriend material.

A Husband Material believes in One Man one Woman.

4) BOYFRIEND MATERIAL CHASE GIRLS

HUSBAND MATERIAL WANTS A WOMAN

A Boyfriend Material is threatened by a Mature Woman who knows what she wants and has a brain..

Boyfriend material want a person they can confuse with nonsense lies, deceive, intimidate, cheat on, and treat anyhow and she'll follow blindly.

Boyfriend Material takes a good Wife Material for granted. He naively prefers a Girlfriend Material.

A Husband Material on the other hand wants a Matured, independent, vision driven Woman who he can depend on and she too can depend on him, a Wife, not a GIRLfriend.

5) BOYFRIEND MATERIAL MOVE WITH FELLOW BOYFRIEND MATERIALS

You can tell where a Guy falls into by looking at his friends.

Lions move in Prides

Goats move in Herds.

Check his friends, can you see maturity and responsibility in them? Or you see promiscuity and thuggery?

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Aunty, shine your eye.

If you marry a BOYFRIEND material because of money, and six packs, you'll never really experience what being a WIFE means.

By Musa Gift