RANDOM THOUGHTS

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1💑-----  A person can be in a relationship, but mentally belong to someone else. A title means nothing. 

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2💁----Many relationships don't last nowadays because too many people are quick to give up when the bad comes. 

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3🤦-----The wrong person will have you thinking you're really asking for too much, when it's really them who can't offer you that much. 

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4🤷..Be happy & be who you want to be. If others don't like it, let them be. Happiness is a choice. Life isn't about pleasing everybody. 

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5🤦------  You don't realize how important intelligence & personality is in a person until you try to have a conversation with one who has neither.

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6💏----- Keep your Relationship Private without Keeping your Partner "Secret". There's a Difference between "PRIVACY and SECRECY"

14 TIPS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE. 🤷🏼‍♂

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👏🏼1) Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

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👰🏼2) Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

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😷3) Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you

want.

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🥰4) When you say, "I love you", mean it.

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😢5) When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye.

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❌6) Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

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💞7] Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

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💘8) In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

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🚫9) Don't judge people by their relatives.

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😛10) Talk slowly but think quickly.

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❓11) When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

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💗12) Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

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🤞🏻13) Don't Love too much to the extent that of losing yourself when you lose them

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🤗14) When you lose, don't lose the lessons

Dealing with partner's addiction

UNCENSORED FACTS...

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1 💞------Keep your circle small. Quality, not quantity. Not everyone who treats you like a friend is your friend. 

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2 🙋----- When a female no longer gets frustrated and upset with you, you can guarantee that she doesn't care anymore. Silence is deadly. 

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3✌Females like it when you're overprotective, not possessive. There's a thin line between the two. 

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4 💏------  Falling in love with someone's personality Is dope. It makes them even more attractive. It's like the icing on the cake. 

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5 🙏------ When some things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for the many more things that are still going right. 

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6 🙏------- God has perfect timing; never early, never late. It takes a little patience and faith, but it's worth the wait.

Control of my anger

One of the greatest things you can learn is how to be in control when angry.

As long as you are human, you will get angry, that's for sure, offenses must come, even from well meaning friends and family, the difference is how in control you can be once angry.

That is, being angry and YET being fully in control of what you SAY and DO or DON'T DO. 

Few People have mastered this act. 

A lot of People once angry lose it completely.

They'll say and do stuff they'll not say or do on a normal day, stuff they'll later APOLOGIZE for and the ones they'll REGRET. 

Many People are in Prison for murder because of this.

Many beautiful Relationships and Marriages were ruined by inability to control anger. 

Are you a highly temperamental Person?

Once angry, you can say anything, even the one's you aren't supposed to, you will say all. 

Once you vex, there's no holding you, team volcanic eruption. You will break TV, fling your phone, shove people

Work on Yourself.

Learn how to be angry and yet calm. That's Maturity.

How to detach what you chose to do at that time (ACTION) from your emotional state (EMOTION), otherwise, you will spoil something..

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Be Proactive, not Reactive.

Anger is not a Talent.

(Musa Gift)

#MG

Dealing with partner's addiction

Addiction is a strong compulsion to have or do something that harm your health. If God's word say you and your partner are one, when you are addicted to some kinds of unhealthy habits, you hurt your spouse.

Know it that addiction only gives you temporary satisfaction that is often fuelled by Stress. Be open to discuss whatever that stresses u with your spouse. Addiction can be

-Alcohol 

-Drugs

-Sex

-Pornography 

-Gambling

-Unhealthy eating

-unnecesary shopping, etc.

God created you in His image and after His likeness. When you refuse to drop your addictions, you limit God's wonders in your life.

*1Jh 2:16.

*Matt 11:28-30.

*James 4:7

There are different addictions your partner can be addicted to and unknown to you without them telling you when you find out many feel the best option is Divorce or fighting theirselves instead of looking for solution to the addiction problem.

 Cravings are powerful physical and psychological factors that drive addictive behaviour.

"BRAIN CHANGES also leads to BEHAVIOUR CHANGES"

TO DEAL WITH A PARTNER WITH ADDICTION

1) ACCEPTANCE - As a single or married ,you know some addictions your partner is dealing with and there are some you will not be aware of but you must accept what you can deal with for life if the person never changes or the process takes a long time .

If you are already married except for physical abuse that needs SEPERATION for sometime so It won't lead to loss of life of husband, wife or children

Even if your partner has become violent and you decide to seperate please keep communication ongoing

2)PRAYER AND FASTING :The place of prayer can never be over emphasized. God is the creator of every human he can touch their hearts and stop the addiction as a result of the COVENANT OF MARRIAGE that has made you both ONE in his sight 

3) CORRECTING IN LOVE: Love covereth many. Abusing , shouting and bringing your partner down by narrating the weakness in front of family or friends won't help him or her change but might lead to violence later. Look for words that will touch their hearts and find condusive times to explain to them the dangers to their health and other negative repercussions etc 

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4)AVOID BLAMING AND JUDGING: After you have identified the addiction problem to shift blame will drive your partner away from you instead help him or her finding the best method that works with wisdom. 

5) PATIENCE : You need to be patient with their change process it might take time you can't force them. More love will change them gradually and when they see how well you tolerate them.

6)FORGIVE IN ADVANCE: There will be so many offence in your heart because of your partners addiction ,you must prepare your mind to forgive in advance . Their addiction is like a friend to them so sometimes you might feel unloved you need wisdom to manage them .

SOME ADDICTIONS BELOW

1) DRUGS AND ALCOHOL ADDICTION: The abuse has  caused many peoples personality to change. When they are under the influence they will say or do things they won't do normally 

2) PORN ADDICTS: These set of people become emotionally dependent on pornography. Their partner don't seem satisfying to them often.

SEXUAL ADDICTIION: An understanding of your partners sexual drive will help the relationship. It takes discipline, a  decision and a crave for the help of God not to fornicate or commit adultery .

Eg As a man or woman you like sex daily and your partners is not on same page you need wisdom to manage your relationship. Discuss it as a man or woman don't keep silence .