DON'T FRIENDZONE YOUR SPOUSE

DON'T FRIENDZONE YOUR SPOUSE

1. Never stop flirting with your spouse

2. Never stop kissing your spouse

3. Husband, never stop touching her butt

4. Wife, never stop playing with his penis

5. Never sleep in different rooms in the same house or same hotel 

6. Never tell your spouse, "You don't have to know"

7. Never deliberately hide your nakedness from your spouse

8. Never deny your spouse sex or use sex as a weapon

9. Never treat your spouse as you do your friends. Your spouse is most special

10. Never joke with your spouse in a manner that sounds insulting to your spouse

11. Never deliberately hide things from your spouse

12. Never go a day without saying something loving to your spouse

13. Husband, never stop checking out her breasts and clit with desire

14. Wife, never stop being sexually playful with your spouse

15. Never stop calling your spouse affectionate names like "My love", "Darling", "Honey"

16. Never stop dating your spouse

Don't make your spouse feel friendzoned. This is marriage, not friendship. Your spouse is your special, sexy companion

 

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THE IMPORTANCE OF SEX IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. Sex is God's gift for the both of you in your marriage. You two would be going against God's desire, not to do it

2. Sex relieves stress and taking away tension. Yes, it has a way of making you two relax even in the midst of tough times 

3. Sex makes you two create exclusive memories that makes you two bond deeply 

4. Sex is a celebration of your love. It's like a "Thanksgiving party" on the sheets where only two are invited

5. Sex affirms you two of your love. It reminds you two that you are a couple, that is why married people panic when the frequency dwindles. Some wives even remember the exact day the husband last touched them and wonder what happened 

6. Sex helps you two be vulnerable. As you two strip down to physical nakedness, it will help you two to be emotionally naked with each other 

7. Sex is good for your physical health. As a physical activity, sex is a good work out, helps your body organs and blood circulation 

8. Sex is a journey of self-discovery and discovery of your spouse. As you two work on sexually pleasing each other,  you will discover new things about yourself and your body and about your spouse and his/her body. This makes you know each other better

9. Sex allows you two to express your naughty side. We all have naughtiness inside that we hide from the public, sex with your spouse helps you to release that 

10. Sex brings down walls. As you two have sex, you will realize that you will also find it easier to talk about difficult conversations and you won't be so guarded because you feel you belong 

11. Sex gives you a glow that reflects on your children, your workmates, friends and the public. People who are sexed really good tend to be so upbeat, happy and positive 

12. Frequent sex reduces the power of temptation. When you and your spouse have a healthy sex life, and you do it frequently, you will be too satisfied to be lured by another 

13. Sex helps you two to solve issues. Once you two talk about an issue or you go for days fighting over something then you make up and have sex, it brings a feeling of closure and togetherness. That is why make up sex is sweet and passionate 

14. Sex keeps you warm. Nothing warms up your body in a cold season like good sexing with the one you love

15. Sex helps you two to bring children to the world. That is why you two look at your child/children with pride and go like "Our pleasure did that"

16. Sex provides an opportunity for you two to feel loved. When you have a spouse whose intent is to make you feel good to the maximum, you will feel really loved

17. Sex is a good way of passing idle time. When you two have free time and are just lazing around, what better way to pass time as adults than making a sex scene?

18. Sex takes away frustration. There is nothing as frustrating as having a hard on or a wet vagina and throbbing clitoris and no one to attend to it. Blessed are you when you have a spouse who will not let your hardness or wetness go to waste 

19. Sex takes away the need for porn and masturbation. Why touch yourself, lust after porn stars when you have the real deal?

20. Sex helps you build up memories to talk about in your retirement years. One day your penis and vagina will retire, when they do,  you two will look back and remember the sexy things you did

When you do it this way, it stops being just sex, it becomes making love. May your marriage have a healthy sex-life made by you two 

© Dayan Masinde 

HER HUSBAND, HIS WORSHIP

She is an usher in Church.

During the Church service, she felt a need to talk with God.

SHE: My God, I love You

GOD: I love you too

SHE: Look at him, my husband. The way he is lost in his worship of You

GOD: His worship is so pleasing. His heart is in the right place

SHE: It's hard to see a man surrendering himself to God like he does

GOD: Your husband knows the truth. He knows that worship is not a woman's thing, it's a human thing, it's the natural inclination of all I created. No man who truly walks in My Spirit struggles to worship. Him and I have come from far

SHE: He tells me of his testimonies. I know he cannot count the number of times You have come through for him. Look at him raising his hands

GOD: He moves Me, his worship moves Me

SHE: You have raised him well my God. I love his heart. Thank You for moulding him

GOD: Thank you for loving him well. By showing him love, you show Me love. Whatever you do to him, you do to Me. Whatever you do to each other, you do to Me

SHE: Sometimes I wonder how him and I came to fall in love? You truly are a God full of surprises

GOD: You haven't seen anything yet. I will do greater things for you two and your marriage. Remember the prayers you prayed to Me when you were single? I answered them through your husband. I never forget your sincere prayers

SHE: You more than answered them. Every day I fall in love with him afresh. His heart is so attractive. He spends so much time with You that I see You through him. Even when he talks, I can trace Your scripture. How can a woman struggle or fail to love a man who is a reflection of You? He arrests me with the beauty of his worship and his hunger for You

GOD: He is a keeper, keep him

SHE: Last night his worship of You at home was a sight to behold

GOD: I felt it. He spoke straight to me. You both did. He is most attracted to the fact that you are a worshiper. My Spirit in him speaks to My Spirit in you. People think marriage is just about the physical but I see marriage as two spirits living together as one in worship. The worship from husband and wife to Me blesses me

SHE: I worship you my Lord. We worship You

GOD: I receive your worship

SHE: He's turned to look at me. It's like he knows I am looking at him

GOD: That's because I spoke to his spirit telling him how much you love him. When you worship Me I reveal things, I make you a better husband and wife

SHE: Lord, allow me to pour my alabaster oil on You, to give You the highest praise. Allow this wife to worship you

GOD: Welcome to my throne

© Dayan Masinde 

MY FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE WIFE

WIFE: I feel fat, my cheeks look fat

HUSBAND: Darling, have you ever wondered why it is said God fearfully and wonderfully created you? Why would God do something fearfully?

WIFE: I don't know, you tell me

HUSBAND: Fearfully doesn't mean God was scared creating you

WIFE: (Laughing) So what does it mean?

HUSBAND: If you see how a craftsman makes a hand-made luxury wrist watch, you will notice how that craftsman does it with attention to detail. The craftsman is careful to place all those tiny parts correctly. Alert! Deliberate! Every move calculated. A labour of love. That is what fearfully means

WIFE: Wow!

HUSBAND: (Hugging her) That is the same way God created you. Fearfully!  Attentive to every detail. Making sure everything about you is just right, nothing was an accident. And on top of that, God, the Greatest Craftsman not only created you fearfully, God also created you wonderfully. God Himself, looking at you and finding you wonderful saying "It is good!". For a great artist to look at his own work and say it is good, that work of art must be very good and the artist confidently exhibits his work for the world to see. How much more God? God after creating you, He is so confidently proud of you His creation, He showcases you every day to His glorious world and has given me the honour to not only see your beauty but be one with your beauty!

WIFE: (Blushing) Double wow! 

HUSBAND: And just like that hand-made luxury wrist watch is expensive and valuable because of the work taken to create it... You my love are priceless and valuable

WIFE: (Squeezing him in the hug) Oh Darling, you say all the right things 

HUSBAND: (Holding her by her arms) Darling, don't you dare look down on God's work done on you. Your eyes are a wonder,  your lips fascinating, your shoulders glorious, your legs a perfect design, every strand of your hair a mystery, your boobs a delight 

WIFE: But they are sagging

HUSBAND: No!  They are positioning to your next level of beauty. You were fearfully and wonderfully made in your mother's womb, in your teenage years, your twenties, your thirties and even now in your forties. You have never and will never stop being the Queen who is fearfully and wonderfully made 

WIFE: (Shaking her head) What did I ever do to deserve you? You are so good for my self esteem

HUSBAND: (Kisses both her cheeks) You did nothing, because my love for you is not something you earned.  My love for you is a gift, just like you are a gift to me. I love your cute cheeks 

© Dayan Masinde

In my book, MANHOOD SERIES, I talk about the benefits of a man loving his woman and how it starts by the man loving himself. I talk about the responsibilities of a man to God, to himself, his family and society. Men are capable of loving.

In my other book, WOMANHOOD SERIES, I talk about how a woman can make wise relationship choices, how to inspire love in a man and how a woman carries so many blessings for herself and her man.

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GROWTH AND MARRIAGE

GROWTH AND MARRIAGE 

1. Marry someone you can grow with 

2. You may be a grown up but if you are not grown inside you will be difficult to relate with 

3. Let your growth together as a couple be holistic. Grow spiritually,  emotionally,  mentally, socially, sexually and financially. Don't just focus on one aspect 

4. It is frustrating to be married to someone who has no personal hunger for growth. Growth is first personal before it manifests as a couple 

5. Sometimes troubles will come in your marriage to cause you two to grow in patience, communication and teamwork. Embrace challenges. Couples that have grown together handle challenges better 

6. When you don't see growth in your marriage, it is easy to give up on it. Growth encourages more effort and investment 

7. Your spouse might be more grown in some areas than you, be willing to learn

8. You might be more grown in some areas than your spouse, be willing to teach 

9. No marriage is perfect, but what you two should be aiming at is growth 

10. If you don't grow as a couple then being parents will overwhelm you 

11. The more you celebrate the growth in your marriage rather than what is wrong in your marriage, the stronger your marriage will become 

12. Appreciate the growth your spouse makes no matter how small to encourage him/her. It is a process, not an event

13. When you are working on your own personal growth you will not be jealous or insecure about the growth of your spouse's career or financial gain

14. For any marriage to grow it needs deliberate watering, nurturing and weeding. It won't happen by accident 

15. You both grow faster and more united when you have a joint vision

16. Don't try and copy the same growth of other couples.  Each couple is unique 

17. As you grow as a couple, your preferences and patterns will change; you may not like the same music, the same gifts, the same destination spots you used to when younger; but love should be a constant 

18. In case you two do fall financially, through bad choices, veer away from God or things collapse or seem to be coming to an end; together come back up. Every couple has storms. Sometimes the growth after the fall is greater and stronger. Don't give up, keep walking together 

©️ Dayan Masinde 

In the book MOTO MOTO COUPLE, Akello and I address in depth the 21 issues that affect every relationship/marriage including work, sex, finances, children, in-laws, communication and how rekindle love back in your marriage. She giving the female perspective, I give the man's perspective on each of those 21 issues. 

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Not all guys are evil!

Dear LADY...

Not all guys are evil! 

Not all guys are pretenders! 

Not all guys are liars! 

Not all guys are stingy! 

Not all guys flirt! 

Not all guys are after your body! 

Not all guys cheats! 

Not all guys are devourers! 

Not all guys are beasts! 

There is a remnant of guys who are spiritual and filled with the Holy Ghost!

There are still guys who are passionately walking in their God-given purpose. 

There are still guys who are very much responsible! 

There are still guys who are sweet and sensible! 

There are still guys who respects and knows the value of a lady! 

There are still guys who are faithful and soft hearted! 

There are still guys who loves deeply and sincerely! 

There are still guys who have not defiled themselves! 

There are still guys who are constantly saying NO to all kinds of sexual immorality! 

Aunty, that you've had terrible experiences with SOME guys in the past does not mean every other guys does the same. NO ma! Why should everybody pay for the sin of one person? All guys are not and will never be the same!

Leave your past behind you and focus on the beautiful future God has for you. There are still amazing guys out there and yours is among them. Patiently wait on the Lord to give you the bone of your bone and the flesh of your own flesh in His own time! 

You will not miss it maritally in Jesus' name. 

I call you blessed