NEVER JUDGE THE LOVE OF A WOMAN 👩

NEVER JUDGE THE LOVE OF A WOMAN 👩 

1-She may catch you in bed with another woman and storm out of the bedroom and leave. 

2-Then you call  her several times but no answer. 

3-A few days later, you will receive her call back. 

4-My brother never think that she can't live without you,  that lady really loves you, it is not some kind of stupidity. 

5-Ladies get hurt,  but sometimes they choose to believe you  and think that you might change to become a better person. 

6-Flowers 💐  and expensive gifts won't make her forget the bad things you once did to her.  That smile she gives you doesn't mean that everything is now okay,  it still hurt inside her. 

7-Pain is something that ladies can live with; no matter how much you break her heart, she always find a way to keep on loving you. 

8-Never take her for granted; she might be the last one to give you that much love in your life. 

9-Loving you doesn't make her stupid but having you to laugh at her does. 

10-My fellow brothers let us love and respect our women.  They only need real love and care from us. 

GENTLEMEN ARE WE TOGETHER

THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T DO WHEN ANGRY

THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T DO WHEN ANGRY

1. TELL YOUR SPOUSE THINGS YOU WILL REGRET

In moments of anger, hold your tongue. Don't speak insults, don't bring up your spouse's past as an attack. When tempers calm down, you cannot take those words back 

2. CHEAT

Don't run into the arms of another to hurt your spouse or to get relief. It complicates and escalates the problems in your marriage 

3. SAY YOU WANT A DIVORCE

During moments anger, it is easy to forget the wonderful journey you two have had and lose objectivity. When angry, it is easy to want to cut yourself from the one who has hurt you; but you won't be angry forever. You cannot build a lasting marriage if your first option is to quit, you two will offend each other, love is learning to reconcile and build better from offense. Divorce is not something to rush into irrationally, it affects so many lives and so many aspects of you. Be sober and composed when making life-altering decisions

4. GO AND TELL OTHERS YOUR SPOUSE'S DIRTY SECRETS 

Don't rush to tell your friends and family members your spouse's faults and expose your spouse. When you two sort things out, it will be difficult to undo the image you have created of your spouse to others 

5. WALK AWAY AND NOT RETURN

Don't leave the house in a fit and get a new house or a new place to stay. This is dangerous as your ego might keep you from coming back and your spouse's ego might keep him/her from reaching out and before you know it, you two will be comfortable with being far from each other

6. TELL YOUR SPOUSE YOU REGRET GETTING MARRIED TO HIM/HER

Don't make your spouse feel useless, as if he/she adds no value to your life. If you were honest, you will see the many ways your spouse has been a blessing to you (and the children)

7. KICK YOUR SPOUSE OUT OF THE HOUSE

Don't order your spouse out of the house, whether you are the woman who feels entitled to the house, or you are the man who pays rent/has built or bought the house. This only ruins teamwork going

HOW TO HANDLE YOUR WIFE DURING HER MONTHLY PERIODS

HOW TO HANDLE YOUR WIFE DURING HER MONTHLY PERIODS

1. Buy her what she craves for, chocolates, ice cream, her favourite pastry

2. Understand when she gets moody, sometimes it is not her, it is her emotions. Don’t react to her reactions

3. Help her out at home, she struggles when in pain

4. Rub her belly, it shows care

5. Stock her up with painkillers if she uses them during periods

6. Understand her, that sex might not happen for some few days (although some couples make love during periods, some women get horny during periods)

7. Don't be mad at her because the periods confirm she has not concieved when you two have been trying to get a child. She is not God to guarantee conception 

8. Keep her company at night when her periods keep her from sleeping at night 

9. Pray for her. Thank God for her womanhood 

10. Give her good stories, make her laugh, get her mind away from the discomfort 

11. Compliment her, affirm her. Some women don't feel so beautiful when mensing 

The pain might be a lot, but with you it is easier

©  Dayan Masinde

WHY YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS PRAYERS

WHY YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS PRAYERS

1. To tap into the blessings meant for the both of you 

2. To access wisdom to navigate the various seasons your marriage will go through 

3. To protect your home from forces unseen 

4. To foster unity in Spirit between you two as a couple

5. To subdue the flesh which can make both of you selfish, difficult and hardened

6. To communicate love and worship to God as a couple

7. To be revealed the word in season and will of God for your lives

8. To bring about submission to God from the both of you

9. To make you both peacemakers and apply the spirit of reconciliation in your home 

10. For you both to be at peace in the midst of storms

 

© Dayan Masinde

THINGS TO SAY NO TO IN YOUR MARRIAGE

THINGS TO SAY NO TO IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. Say NO to going to bed with unresolved issues. The longer issues pile up the messy things become and the climate in your home worsens 

2. Say NO to involving outsiders or family sometimes in solving marital matters. Instead, see a counsellor, a pastor or a neutral person of authority who believes in marriage if you can't manage a breakthrough as a couple. Family are biased and after you two have solved issues, they will remember the wrongs done to their son/daughter and it will affect family relations. Minimise the amount of people involved in your domestic affairs 

3. Say NO to coming to big decisions without giving the other an opportunity to be heard and considered. This is how to build unity 

3. Say NO to using the words "My" in marriage. "My car", "My child", "My house", "My money"... Instead say "Our car", "Our child", "Our house", "Our money" regardless of who contributes the most financially. You two are a team 

4. Say NO to arguing in front of the children. Don't expose them to tension that will emotionally stress them

5. Say NO to ending a sexual moment with only one of you sexually satisfied. Both of you ought to enjoy love making 

6. Say NO to using insults no matter how angry you get. Your spouse will easily remember the insults spoken in moments of anger than the loving words spoken in times of peace 

7. Say NO to eating outside yet your spouse has taken the time to prepare a family meal for you. Make it a habit to eat together 

8. Say NO to visits by your relatives without informing your spouse. It is not your home alone. If you want your spouse to be a good host to your relatives, consult with him/her when the visit will happen and for how long 

9. Say NO to entertaining another or flirting with others. You two are allowed to have a healthy social life and friends even of the opposite gender but with boundaries and transparency 

10. Say NO to sleeping in different beds/rooms

WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE A GOOD MAN:

WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE A GOOD MAN:

When a man treats his woman right, there is a reason why. The reason could be:-

1. "He doesn't want to be like his father"

If his father was a drunkard, unfaithful, a wife beater and irresponsible; the man grew up vowing to be different, never to sink as low as his father did, to counter his dad's actions. The father treated his mother like trash, but he treats his woman like a Queen

2. "His father set a good example"

The man's father could have modelled what a great man, husband, father, worker and friend looks like. As the man does good he refers to his father, his role model. Fathers, set the right example for your sons to follow

3. "Finding a woman is an answered prayer"

If the man used to genuinely pray for a woman to love, he will love on that woman when God sends her his way. Hurting her will be hurting himself

4. "He grew up with loving sisters"

A man who grows up loving his sister/s and respecting the females in his life, he learns how to relate with people of the opposite sex and that prepares him on how to relate with the number one woman in his life

5. "The pain of an ex"

A man who was cheated on, hurt and heart broken by his ex will most likely protect his woman from the pain his ex made him go through. Because he knows how it hurts to be messed up by a lover, he will not mess up his love

6. "Lessons from regret"

If a man once felt bad letting a good woman slip away, if he gets another chance to love that same good woman or a new good woman, he will not be foolish again 

7. "An act of God"

God shapes people, God can turn a man into a great man regardless of the man's past.A good man can be moulded into an even better man, a wrong man can be transformed into an attractive and loving man who unlearns how to hurt women and learns how to be there for a woman

8. "Appreciation for his single mother"

A man who grew up with a single mother and an absent father, he tends to honour his mother. He appreciates thesacrifice