Saturday, 18 May 2024

BIG SECRETS IN MARRIAGE!

BIG SECRETS IN MARRIAGE!
Secret 1:
Everyone you marry has a weakness. No spouse is perfect, the one who comes in all shades of perfection is the one who is alive in your spouse, and that person is God. So if you focus on your spouse's weaknesses you will never get the best out of his or her strength.
See, the couples that last are the ones who magnify each others strength, rather than the weaknesses. 

Secret 2:
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future you are building together.

Secret 3:
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Fight, Fight, Fight until the enemy steps out of the ring. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse through the ups and the downs.

Secret 4:
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. Two marriage can look IDENTICAL, but can never be EQUAL. I hope you are hearing me? Never compare the love level from another marriage with yours. Learn to be patient, and keep sprinkling water where you want the green grasses to grow.

Secret 5:
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
🔥Ignorance 
🔥Prayerlessness
🔥Unforgiveness 
🔥Third party influence 
🔥Stinginess
🔥Stubbornness 
🔥Lack of love 
🔥Rudeness
🔥Laziness 
🔥Jezebels 
🔥Delilahs
🔥Disrespect 
🔥 And Cheating.
 
To keep your marriage you have to be willing to fight DIRTY with prayer and hardwork. A happy marriage is not for couples who want to be CLEAN.

Secret 6:
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work.

2 THINGS YOU SHOULD AVOID SO YOU DON'T DAMAGE HER SELF ESTEEM.

Dear Brother

2 THINGS YOU SHOULD AVOID SO YOU DON'T DAMAGE HER SELF ESTEEM.
Every Woman is full of greatness and potential.

How much of that potential sees the light of day depends on her self esteem and how motivated she is to go out and be/do her best. 

AVOID the following if you want to see the best come out of your Fiance/Wife:

1) BODY SHAMING.

Don't mock her body for any reason. Don't.

When you mock, criticize her because of her shape, breast size, body size, skin color or her height, you make her loose confidence in her looks and in herself, and accept that she's ugly.

She becomes overly self conscious and ashamed when with people, and this affects her self esteem, her self confidence, and reduces her productivity.

2) ABUSE  

You need to see some guys insulting the woman they claim to love,

How can you call a Woman who loves and cherishes you "good for nothing, stupid, dull, foolish, local, idiot, useless, failure"? 

You may apologize later, but your words leave a mark on her soul,

She soon begins to BELIEVE your words, and she soon BECOMES it because she believes it.

Her self esteem drops, her hunger to make repeated attempts at success and greatness dies. And she may end up useless (just as you called her). 

PHYSICAL ABUSE also affects a Woman's self esteem and confidence in herself.

Why hit a Woman who you should be protecting?

Each time you raise your hands to hurt her, she dies inside. She begins to feel sad, sorrowful, weak, helpless, defenseless and even suicidal.

These are ingredients that make a Woman into a Failure.. Don't be that Man

INSTEAD

1) PRAY FOR HER

Don't just pray with her, pray for her

As her Husband, lay your hands on her head and bless her daily, that she will be a great Woman.

As her Husband, Your mouth isn't just to suck breast. Pray for her.. 

2) ENCOURAGE HER

Whether she's succeeding or failing, encourage her. 

Call her Hephzibah, the Lords delight.

Call her Zion, the City of the Great KING

FOOLISH HABITS OF BABY HUSBANDS

FOOLISH HABITS OF BABY HUSBANDS

Bisi Adewale 
Six things are common to all baby husbands which shows the level of their wisdom and exposure. Men must use this as a checklist and stop being childish. 

1. Food rejection. Many men are fond of this foolish habit. Whenever they are angry with their wives, they show their displeasure by not eating the food their wives prepared. You are the owner of the food and the food was prepared in your house. Yet, you reject it. This is foolishness of the highest order.

2. Keeping Malice. Keeping malice with your wife whenever you are angry with her is another childish behaviour. In fact, there are situations when they turn deaf ears their wives move for reconciliation. 
      If there is a misunderstanding, settle it with your wife. 

3. Constant outburst of anger. Unchecked anger which makes you call your wives all sorts of names and say unprofitable things like threats of divorce, separation, beating, is not an attribute of a real man.

4. Not supporting their wives at home. More than 80 percent of African men do not raise a finger at home to do any house chores, care for the baby, help the children with their home works, attend Parent Teachers Association (PTA) meeting or carry the baby when crying. In fact, an average man will always say to their wives, come and carry your baby whenever the baby cries. Irrespective of what the woman is doing, she must abandon it to cater for the baby, while the man keeps himself busy watching television and also reminds the woman to bring his food. When asked the reason for such negligence, he is likely going to say one or more of the following: 
I am the head of this family
“My father never did it for a woman”
“In our culture, men don't do anything at home
“My wife will begin to take men for granted if I help her at home
“She will disrespect me if I do.
It is not manly to do.
I make the money, let her do the cooking.
I am too

HOW TO MAKE YOUR WIFE RESPECT AND SUBMIT TO YOU FOR LIFE!

HOW TO MAKE YOUR WIFE RESPECT AND SUBMIT TO YOU FOR LIFE!
Making a woman do your wish, honour you, adore you, celebrate you, respect you and submit to you for life is not difficult at all.

No woman on earth is difficult, except you married the devil's own daughter whose conscience is practically dead and buried! 

As long as she is a woman born in the image of God, total respect, honour and submission to you comes easy and cheap if you do the following:

1. TAKE YOUR FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY SERIOUS: Wives naturally submit to husbands who are responsible and do not wait for landlord to scream at the top of his lungs before paying rent, neither does he wait to for the children to be sent out of school before paying their school fees.

If you want your wife to genuinely respect you from the bottom of her heart, you must take your financial life serious. Pay your bills on time, provide adequate money for food, clothing and shelter.

Your wife can assist you but it is not her responsibility to shoulder all the responsibility.

Men who take their rent, feeding, clothing and the welfare of their wives and children serious do not lack genuine respect from their wives. Women naturally respect men who care about them and take good care of them.

2. DO NOT DEPEND ON HER INCOME 100%: your wife can assist you to pay bills. She can share the financial responsibility by 50% but don't ever depend on a woman to carry all the financial responsibility in the home. She will not respect you.

3. OVERLOOK HER IDIOSYNCRACIES: we all have some little attitudes that may look annoying to others. A man who can overlook some idiosyncrasies and act maturely while correcting his wife in love will win his wife's love, respect and submission forever.

4. SHOW HER COMPASSION: women need lots of empathy and compassion daily. A woman goes through a lot physically, spiritually, socially, emotionally, financially among others to keep her home together.

10 SEXUAL THINGS TO DO WITH YOUR SPOUSE

10 SEXUAL THINGS TO DO WITH YOUR SPOUSE
1. BE NAKED
Be comfortable being naked with your spouse. You will be amazed how many people are self-conscious about their bodies that they struggle being fully naked in full view infront of their spouse

2. MASSAGE
Massage your spouse's full body naked, this way you might discover places on your spouse's body that your spouse loves to be touched. Happy endings should be in your marriage, not at massage parlours and barber shops

3. SHARE EROTIC CONVERSATIONS
This will help you both learn to express your sexuality and sensuality freely

4. STUDY YOUR SPOUSE'S BODY UPCLOSE
As a wife, have you ever given a close look on your spouse's penis and find out its most sensitive points? Are you aware of how the lower tip of his penis looks like and how if feels when you play with it? Husband, do you know how your wife's clitoris and vagina looks like? Do you know what the labia is? Do you know which walls of her vagina are most sensitive, can you trace her most sexual part that erects slightly when she is aroused?

5. KISS FOR LONGER
A lot of married couples don't kiss like they used to. Get back to those extended kisses

6. SHOWER TOGETHER ONCE IN A WHILE Some of the best conversations happen in the shower. This will teach you to care for each other's bodies as you wash each other's back, butts, hair and torso

7. KISS EACH OTHER FROM HEAD TO TOE
As your lips kiss various parts of your spouse's skin, you will discover secret places your spouse gets excited when they meet your gentle lips such as the nipples, neck, back, inner thighs, sides of the stomach, navel and more

8. MAKE OUT
Fondling, rubbing and grabbing as you do heavy kissing is a major turn on

9. SENSUAL DANCING
Let loose and get to sensually dance, sweat on each other, let your bodies grind on each other. This is special entertainment just for two

10. BUILD SEXUAL TENSION
Make blood run by telling each other what you are going to do to each other. Learn the art of flirt

HOW TO HAVE AN INTIMATE NIGHT

HOW TO HAVE AN INTIMATE NIGHT
1. Both of you come home early. When you come home late, you will be too tired to have a memorable time

2. Leave your job title outside of your home; whether you are a big shot in your profession or in a job you don't enjoy, leave your position at the workplace. At home, you are husband and wife

3. Start light. When both of you meet at home, don't greet each other with hard and heavy news. Start with a smile, a kiss, asking each other how the day has been

4. Take an evening shower, it will freshen you up. Don't give your spouse a tired you yet you gave your employer/business the best of you

5. Prepare the meal/set the table together; do a homely activity together. The goal is teamwork

6. Eat together. Laugh

7. Play some nice music to set the mood

8. Put away the distractions: TV, laptop and the phone

9. Set some limited time to do extras: Watch the news, prepare for tomorrow, check the kid's homework

10. Pray as a family. Take the kids away early or if the kids are too grown, let them be as you both go to the bedroom

11. Talk in depth in the bedroom

12. Shower each other with compliments. Compliment more than you complain

13. Cuddle/make out

14. Make each other feel special. Massage

15. Make love

16. Speak love with words

17. Say a prayer

18. Sleep holding each other

19. Wake up with a smile

©️ Dayan Masinde