3 STEPS TO APOLOGIZE TO YOUR HUSBAND

As an African woman, there are three powerful steps to apologise to your husband!

As a woman when your husband is so angry at you whether he is right or wrong just be calm, leave your pride behind. don't get angry at him because it is dangerous for both of you to be angry at the same time. Your main objective here is to win your husband's love and peace of mind and save your good relationship that you have worked for.

Step 1. kneel down and say sorry baby- that's the African way. it put an African man's ego down in a very quick moment.

Step 2. Prepare his favourite food and give him a good massage on his head while eating.

Step 3. Make a passionate and peaceful love making with him and let him sleep deeply.

When he wakes up you will realise that he is already cured from his spirit of anger that wants to set your home on fire

FOUR TYPES OF CONFUSED MEN IN THIS WORLD.

1. A man who after impregnating a lady, he denies being the owner of the pregnancy. Later, After the lady has struggled alone and now the child is a bit older, he now wants to be involved with the child. If the child was not yours while still in the womb, why is it suddenly yours now??

2. A man who doesn't want to raise another man's child but goes ahead and marries a woman who has a child and tells her to leave the child at her parent's home, instead of simply marrying a woman without a child at all.

3. A man who marries a graduate with a degree or a diploma only to tell her to quit job and take care of children. If you wanted a housewife, why not marry a grade 2 dropout instead of killing dreams of someone who has worked so hard to reach that far?

4. A man who is a drunkard but goes ahead to marry a church girl and make her life a living hell. If you are a drunkard, marry your fellow drunkard and drink yourselves to madness without stressing anyone.

I rest my case

By coach Amos

THE INEVITABLE IN YOUR MARRIAGE,

You are not a perfect spouse and your spouse is not perfect. Regardless of how much you love each other, you will hurt and disappoint each other for as long as you both shall live. Therefore, have the readiness to forgive your spouse daily and develop the habit to apologize whenever you are wrong. Do not let hurts and guilt accumulate and compound into big problems. Each hurt, each disappointment, and each fault must be apologized for, forgiven and dealt with decisively the day it happens. Tomorrow has its own new issues to be dealt with. But do not be in the habit of repeating the same mistake or the same sin every day. Encourage each other to openly communicate your feelings and disappointments without the fear of judgment or condemnation. At the end of each day and before you go to bed, hand in hand bring everything to the Lord in prayer, and let bygones be bygones and never to be brought up in future conversations. Sleep guilt-free, hurt- free, sin-free and stress-free and enjoy the blessing of starting tomorrow on a clean slate. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”Colossians 3:13. MAY GOD HELP US IN JESUS NAME

Grass is always greener where it is watered.

Husbands;

The reason why other women look attractive to you is that someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always greener where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman but it takes a true gentleman to make his woman admirable and beautiful. Please, work on your woman and stop looking on other man's commitment.

Unfairir treatment and stigmatization mated out to single

Dear Society,

I am addressing this letter to you for the unfair treatment and stigmatization mated out to single women, mostly the single matured women.

How do you treat a woman like a plaque simply because her name has no Mrs in-between?

You insult and humiliate a woman because she lives alone, would you have preferred she moves in with a man who is not her husband, so to get "security?

You deny her job opportunities and contracts because of her status.

Dear Landlords, your discrimination towards the single women has come to our notice and it's very appalling that someone who can afford her rents would be denied her rights because a particular title is not attached to her name.

Fellow neighbours, you have little or no regards for the single lady living adjacent to you. You believe she can't make an honest living other than following men around.

No matter how much she makes, you don't respect her because the stereotypical mentality is that her money comes from men (sugar daddies)

You look down on her achievements and strides in life because you have been brainwashed to believe she slept her way up.

If she buys a car.....a man gave it to her

If she gets promoted....she sl.ept with her bosses

If she owns a car..... Her sugar daddy has done it again..

If she looks good....she's a runs girl

Even you, her fellow woman. Yours is worst. You are always the first to call her ashewo at the slightest quarrel

You'll body shame and age shame her

You'll clap your hands and mock her ... ...go and marry!!! Your mates are in their Husband houses, you are here doing ashewo work.

Look at you who is Marriage shaming your fellow woman, you are not even legally married. You are just cohabiting with a man and popping out children for free.

Is it how men treat single mature women that we want to talk about?

Many of them take advantage of their vulnerability to marriage-scam them. Some come with the promise of Marriage, eat their money and disappear..viam!!

Some don't even have any regards for them because they think they are desperate for marriage and nothing more.

Dear parents, you are not left out of this. At some point you start maltreating your girl child because she's still "under your roof"

You'll remind her that at her age, you already had 10 children.

Go and marry, your mates are marrying... you'll say...

You kill her psychologically everyday but you don't know.. we forgive you because you think you are doing the right thing however, stop it already!

The stigmatization against single ladies by the society (landlords, employers, neighbours, friends, men and women), is one of the reasons they settle for the wrong men just to be married and be validated in the society...even when they know right within them, that they are making a mistake

That same stigmatization is the reason, they think they can't be happy unless they are in a relationship.

It is the same reason that makes them feel worthless, incomplete even with all their achievements and talents.

Dear Society, you are indirectly creating more failed Marriages by bullying and blackmailing these women into rushing to accept wrong proposals, just to be married

Marriage is good. God created the woman for the man but can you allow her man discover (find) her in peace without driving her insane?

Respect the female child...married or not married!

Lust and love look alike but are different.

LUST AND LOVE

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Lust and love look alike but are different.

People have both lust and love in them.

THEREFORE it is wise to find out and be sure which one is driving you and which one you are seeing.

Calling LOVE lust doesn't change its nature and the way it functions and calling LUST love wouldn't change anything.

Whereas LOVE seeks to satisfy others; LUST seeks to be satisfied by others. LOVE is Charity but LUST is Selfishness.

When LOVE is induced by LUST, it is temporary and when LUST is induced by LOVE it is temporary too; but when LUST is produced by LOVE, it is excellent.