THE LITTLE CLUE THAT YOU DON'T SEE THAT BREAKS MARRIAGE

By Profit Eneh

When I hear stories about people who suffer abuse in their marriage, the story always sounds like there was never a clue that this abusive person can be abusive.

A lot of people subscribe to this school of thought but I have tried to get myself to agree with them but then I can't.

Yesterday I read a story of a lady who shares her story of how she dated her husband for 11 years and 11 months into the marriage they divorced because the man was abusive.

Her story painted a picture of a good man in 11 years and a devil in 11 months. In 11 years of dating, there was no clue that this guy was immature and abusive? No clue? So you believe that?

The issue today is that a lot of people are blinded by good sex, money spent on them, and forget to be doing the real thing why they are in a relationship in the first place.

Money is good, sex is great in marriage but those are not what sustains a marriage, to be honest. They are vital, they make marriage sweet but then there are other vital this you need to watch out for.

Most people are looking for a big red flag before they quit a relationship. Nooo. Seeing the big red flag for example hitting you is good. That's so obvious, but what most people don't see is the little clue like how authoritative he is or how subtle abusive her words can be.

One thing I know is that there is always a clue. Even if they are pretending there is always a clue. People are not just observant and they don't read deeper meaning into what they should actually read meaning to.

When someone's words are not aligning with his actions it's already a clue. A liar.

When someone is always giving excuses for almost everything there is already a clue there. Irresponsibility and blame gamer.

When someone is always too busy. Lack of interest in you.

When someone is never satisfied with what you do. Spirit of comparison.

When they fault you for everything. Possible Narcissistic.

When they threaten to hit you even if they never do. Possible abusive person.

When they always feel right or want it their way all the time. Potential inconsiderate person.

If he is all about women taking care of the home while a man goes to make the money. Possible dream killer.

I can go on and on.

There is always a clue. When you hear people make certain statements don't just brush it off. There could be clues to that person's mindset of how marriage should be which can make your marriage hell on earth.

It's good to be looking for the bigger red flags but don't ignore the little clues here and there.

Ask a lot of questions. Don't allow AC + Cold stone to blow off your brain that you focus on unimportant things and ignore the important things and questions you need to ask and behavior you need to observe.

So the two skill you need is the ability to ask important question and ability to observer unsaid words or actions.

Now the other reason why people fall into this mess of not spotting the clues is because of their irreconcilable value system and this is one topic I will be talking about in-depth in my 5 days training titled from Self Discovery to a Happy and Healthy relationship/marriage. Note: This training is not free. (If you are looking for free training don't contact me please but If you are serious about being a part of it go ahead and send me a message. Come and learn how to win in life and relationships).

You are your Solution

By Profit Eneh

It is easy to find yourself in that position in life where you feel worthless. You feel everything is just working against you and that other people have a better life than you.

You might have heard from friends that you are a failure, you are nothing. Just like in the days of Jesus Christ, when he was announced as the Messiah and as the son of Joseph from Nazareth. Someone said, can anything good come out of Nazareth. Some might have said can anything good come out of you.

They might have written you off but I have good news for you. You are a solution. You are valuable. You are important. Jesus proved them wrong and you can do so too because you have a purpose. You have something they need.

You have an assignment here on earth and your assignment/purpose was designed to announce you to the world. It's is in your place of calling that you will find peace or joy.

You might have tried to gain peace and happiness from your relationship but your partner didn't make that happen, rather he or she broke up with you and now you even feel more empty.

You have thought of ending it all. I pray you don't because in you lies the answers to someone's prayers. In you lies the solution to someone's pain. You are someone's destiny helper and they need what you carry.

You are not an accident, you are not a problem, you were born for a reason and you need to find out why.

It's possible that you a passing through series of heartbreaks just because you have ignored this part of your life. I know you feel lonely, i know you want someone by your side. But the truth is that for you to be able to meet the right one for you, you need to be the right one for yourself.

You need to find yourself. You need to build yourself and when you succeed in doing this you will discover that you will feel happier as a person and your chances of meeting the right one for you will increase because now you know where you are going in life and you know the kind of person you want to go through life with.

If you are struggling to find your purpose or develop yourself and become the best version of yourself then i welcome you to enroll in my coming 5 days training tagged From Self Discovery to a Happy and Healthy relationship where i will take you through my working and practical method of discovering your self and building a powerful relationship. Note: this is not free training. Interested persons can send me a message so i can share more details about the training with you.

THE TRUTH MANY PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO HEAR.

As a guy,

When you are not married to a lady it's not your responsibility to take care of her bills. You don't owe her that.

You do it though, you pay the bills, gift her because you love her, and care about her wellbeing.

Your actions are meant to come from a place of love and not responsibility during the dating season.

So because you love her you won't want her to lack. It is not your responsibility it is just out of love.

Who's responsibility is she?

It's her father's responsibility and hers to taker care of herself. Her father should pay her bills and ensure her daughter is doing well.

She also needs to grow up at some point and reduce the burden on her parents.

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But the moment you get married to her everything shifts from the place of love to responsibility.

In marriage, you now do it out of love and responsibility because her father has given her to you to take care of her. She is now born of your born. She is now your full responsibility. You got to pay the bills bro.

As a lady,

On the flip side, it is irresponsibility on your part to want a man to take care of everything about her. Married or not. It's a sign of selfishness and laziness.

A mature lady should be able to take full care of herself. Everything else a man brings should just be an addition.

Value yourself.

Don't become a liability.

Who knows, that could be why people keep leaving you.

RELATIONSHIP LAZINESS

By Profit Eneh

Omake things easy for themselves or where one person makes the other person do all the work to get the relationship to the next level.

The truth of the matter is that a lot of couples fall into this category and some individuals make the same mistakes by wanting to build the relationship alone.

For instance, when it comes to communication. I was telling someone a few days back that you can't build communication alone.

For example, if you are experiencing poor communication in your relationship, you can not just say you want to improve communication on your own. No, it will never work. You will try and end up frustrated.

Communication requires two intentional people to make it work.

This is why any time I want to do training on communication. I prefer to have the couple present and not just one of them. This is because I believe that each person has a role to play to make things work.

Relationship laziness comes into play when one of the couples refuses to put in the required effort to make things work out. When you are trying to communicate and they few you are doing too much or they don't have to do much.

In a relationship between two mature individuals who truly love themselves and want to spend the rest of their life together, their primary goal is usually to ensure that things they do don't hurt the other person.

They put in the work to see to the growth of the other person. They are not just seating around waiting for things to happen. They stand up and make things happen. They go the extra mile to make life easy for the one they love.

They are not in the group of people that believe in what will be will be. They are people who believe, if i want this, i go for it and make it happen.

They put themself on the line because they know what they want. They make efforts to make life easy for their partner.

They communicate with clarity and ask important questions. They share their deepest thoughts with you because they want you to be a part of them. They are very vulnerable with you.

This is what it means to put in the work to make your relationship or marriage work. Many couples are not here yet because they are too lazy to make it happen and too selfish, thinking only about themselves.

They just want it but are never ready to get it. They say I love you but their action says I don't love you and I want you to go through emotional stress trying to figure me out.

You can't afford to be like that or be with someone like that.

Put in the work.

Don't be lazy.

Relationship and marriage need two hard workers ready to invest in themselves and their union.

You can do better.

Start taking action towards making life easy for your partner. Don't make them guess to understand you. Open up to each other and show yourselves all there is to you.

I hope this was helpful in a way.

Beware of JACOB'S RESTAURANT!!!

By RevDr Okechi Iwunze

~ In other to avoid the STRESS of Preparing a good meal for himself, Esau decided to sell his Birthright for a FAST FOOD @ Jacob's Restaurant.

~ But Esau became an Eye saw, after eating from Jacobs Restaurant.

~ The Food is well Garnished and looks attractive, but you will end up paying with something that is worth more than the Price of the Food you ate.

~ Ask Esau, the Bible says; "for he sought it out with tears..." Heb 12:17.

FAST FOOD turned him into a FAST FOOL.

~ Jacob's Restaurant can only satisfy your appetite TEMPORARILY and at the same time, take away your Birthright PERMANENTLY.

~ Beware of any 5 minutes PLEASURE that will cause you to lose Costly TREASURES.

"lest there be any fornicator or profane person, as Esau who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright"

He 12:16

~ There are many Christians who have lost their Birthrights(salvation) through the FAST FOOD of Fornication, adultery or in other to secure a Job.

~ There are many Christian students who have sold their Birthrights with the FAST FOOD of "EXPO" because they wanted As

~ Many are Looking for the Fast means for everything, But one thing about God is that He has no Short cut...

Short Cut will cut short your Life...

If you rush, you will definitely pay the price attached with rushing...

David was anointed King,yet he still went back to Tending Sheep because he knew there were much to be learnt....

In this Generation where everything seems FAST....

Fast Internet connection....

Fast Food

Fast Cars

Fast Ways of Making Money

We bring in the ways and dealings of God, we think there are fast ways of gaining the GENUINE ANOINTING...... Hmmmmmm

Beware of Jacob's Restaurant , its still out there today..... But it's now well garnished with Some Greek and Hebrew words to deceive even the very elect.....

Beware of Jacob's Restaurant, it's loaded with every meal to satisfy your selfish cravings...

I know you are afraid of the PROCESS involved in getting the GENUINE ANOINTING but it's better you WAIT on GOD than to WASTE and GROAN.

Nothing Good comes easy.....

"The Longer you wait the HEAVIER YOUR WEIGHT"

While waiting please do the needful

Pray

Preach

Pursue Holiness and Righteousness

Persevere in Faith

Pause and Ponder on every word of God

Purposefully wait for the Infilling of the Spirit

Push unto Perfection!!!

Endure the PROCESS and you will end up enjoying PROGRESS.

Don't Skip the Process.

Endure it and Enjoy the Results

God bless you

NOTE FOR THE SINGLES

1. Don’t take off your panties, because he called you beautiful, take them off because he married you.

2. Don’t open your legs because he said you will make a good mother. Open them because he’s ready to be a father after your wedding.

3. Don’t take him home because he gave you a

ride or buy you ice cream and fried rice, take him home because he treated you like a queen and is committed to be the love of your life.

4. Don’t push him away because he has no money today. Hold him close if he is a man of vision, to another woman, he’s Honey and he got brighter days ahead, with a prospective blossoming future.

5. Don’t go punishing him because another man hurt you! All men are not the same! A man who fears GOD doesn’t hurt! If he loves you, give him a chance and he may be the best thing that ever happened to you.

6. Don’t stay up all night wondering where to find a good man. Work on your character! Be an asset!

Serve GOD and be faithful....

Soonest YOU SHALL BE CELEBRATED IN JESUS NAME.