THE TRUTH MANY PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO HEAR.

As a guy,

When you are not married to a lady it's not your responsibility to take care of her bills. You don't owe her that.

You do it though, you pay the bills, gift her because you love her, and care about her wellbeing.

Your actions are meant to come from a place of love and not responsibility during the dating season.

So because you love her you won't want her to lack. It is not your responsibility it is just out of love.

Who's responsibility is she?

It's her father's responsibility and hers to taker care of herself. Her father should pay her bills and ensure her daughter is doing well.

She also needs to grow up at some point and reduce the burden on her parents.

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But the moment you get married to her everything shifts from the place of love to responsibility.

In marriage, you now do it out of love and responsibility because her father has given her to you to take care of her. She is now born of your born. She is now your full responsibility. You got to pay the bills bro.

As a lady,

On the flip side, it is irresponsibility on your part to want a man to take care of everything about her. Married or not. It's a sign of selfishness and laziness.

A mature lady should be able to take full care of herself. Everything else a man brings should just be an addition.

Value yourself.

Don't become a liability.

Who knows, that could be why people keep leaving you.

RELATIONSHIP LAZINESS

By Profit Eneh

Omake things easy for themselves or where one person makes the other person do all the work to get the relationship to the next level.

The truth of the matter is that a lot of couples fall into this category and some individuals make the same mistakes by wanting to build the relationship alone.

For instance, when it comes to communication. I was telling someone a few days back that you can't build communication alone.

For example, if you are experiencing poor communication in your relationship, you can not just say you want to improve communication on your own. No, it will never work. You will try and end up frustrated.

Communication requires two intentional people to make it work.

This is why any time I want to do training on communication. I prefer to have the couple present and not just one of them. This is because I believe that each person has a role to play to make things work.

Relationship laziness comes into play when one of the couples refuses to put in the required effort to make things work out. When you are trying to communicate and they few you are doing too much or they don't have to do much.

In a relationship between two mature individuals who truly love themselves and want to spend the rest of their life together, their primary goal is usually to ensure that things they do don't hurt the other person.

They put in the work to see to the growth of the other person. They are not just seating around waiting for things to happen. They stand up and make things happen. They go the extra mile to make life easy for the one they love.

They are not in the group of people that believe in what will be will be. They are people who believe, if i want this, i go for it and make it happen.

They put themself on the line because they know what they want. They make efforts to make life easy for their partner.

They communicate with clarity and ask important questions. They share their deepest thoughts with you because they want you to be a part of them. They are very vulnerable with you.

This is what it means to put in the work to make your relationship or marriage work. Many couples are not here yet because they are too lazy to make it happen and too selfish, thinking only about themselves.

They just want it but are never ready to get it. They say I love you but their action says I don't love you and I want you to go through emotional stress trying to figure me out.

You can't afford to be like that or be with someone like that.

Put in the work.

Don't be lazy.

Relationship and marriage need two hard workers ready to invest in themselves and their union.

You can do better.

Start taking action towards making life easy for your partner. Don't make them guess to understand you. Open up to each other and show yourselves all there is to you.

I hope this was helpful in a way.

Beware of JACOB'S RESTAURANT!!!

By RevDr Okechi Iwunze

~ In other to avoid the STRESS of Preparing a good meal for himself, Esau decided to sell his Birthright for a FAST FOOD @ Jacob's Restaurant.

~ But Esau became an Eye saw, after eating from Jacobs Restaurant.

~ The Food is well Garnished and looks attractive, but you will end up paying with something that is worth more than the Price of the Food you ate.

~ Ask Esau, the Bible says; "for he sought it out with tears..." Heb 12:17.

FAST FOOD turned him into a FAST FOOL.

~ Jacob's Restaurant can only satisfy your appetite TEMPORARILY and at the same time, take away your Birthright PERMANENTLY.

~ Beware of any 5 minutes PLEASURE that will cause you to lose Costly TREASURES.

"lest there be any fornicator or profane person, as Esau who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright"

He 12:16

~ There are many Christians who have lost their Birthrights(salvation) through the FAST FOOD of Fornication, adultery or in other to secure a Job.

~ There are many Christian students who have sold their Birthrights with the FAST FOOD of "EXPO" because they wanted As

~ Many are Looking for the Fast means for everything, But one thing about God is that He has no Short cut...

Short Cut will cut short your Life...

If you rush, you will definitely pay the price attached with rushing...

David was anointed King,yet he still went back to Tending Sheep because he knew there were much to be learnt....

In this Generation where everything seems FAST....

Fast Internet connection....

Fast Food

Fast Cars

Fast Ways of Making Money

We bring in the ways and dealings of God, we think there are fast ways of gaining the GENUINE ANOINTING...... Hmmmmmm

Beware of Jacob's Restaurant , its still out there today..... But it's now well garnished with Some Greek and Hebrew words to deceive even the very elect.....

Beware of Jacob's Restaurant, it's loaded with every meal to satisfy your selfish cravings...

I know you are afraid of the PROCESS involved in getting the GENUINE ANOINTING but it's better you WAIT on GOD than to WASTE and GROAN.

Nothing Good comes easy.....

"The Longer you wait the HEAVIER YOUR WEIGHT"

While waiting please do the needful

Pray

Preach

Pursue Holiness and Righteousness

Persevere in Faith

Pause and Ponder on every word of God

Purposefully wait for the Infilling of the Spirit

Push unto Perfection!!!

Endure the PROCESS and you will end up enjoying PROGRESS.

Don't Skip the Process.

Endure it and Enjoy the Results

God bless you

NOTE FOR THE SINGLES

1. Don’t take off your panties, because he called you beautiful, take them off because he married you.

2. Don’t open your legs because he said you will make a good mother. Open them because he’s ready to be a father after your wedding.

3. Don’t take him home because he gave you a

ride or buy you ice cream and fried rice, take him home because he treated you like a queen and is committed to be the love of your life.

4. Don’t push him away because he has no money today. Hold him close if he is a man of vision, to another woman, he’s Honey and he got brighter days ahead, with a prospective blossoming future.

5. Don’t go punishing him because another man hurt you! All men are not the same! A man who fears GOD doesn’t hurt! If he loves you, give him a chance and he may be the best thing that ever happened to you.

6. Don’t stay up all night wondering where to find a good man. Work on your character! Be an asset!

Serve GOD and be faithful....

Soonest YOU SHALL BE CELEBRATED IN JESUS NAME.

SCARCITY OF HUSBAND

HUSBAND SCARCITY has become one of the challenges faced by many young ladies today. If you go to prayer houses,churches and native doctors shrine majority of the intentions are prayers for life partner, and this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of "HUSBAND SCARCITY" problem or there were more men than women? i don't think so....maybe then, women had values and were prepared and preferred to build a home and not to pack into a built home. I was told that, in those days, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciate him and help him to build a future but these days...All ladies prefer to marry a ready made man.

Honestly, ladies created husband scarcity themselves and now reverse is the case. Go to social media the first time you are chatting with a lady the next thing is can you help me with (airtime,money for one thing or the other). When you said no they will blocked you and give you a tittle (broke or stingy man). Ask an average girl to define her dream husband, you get things like...he has to be tall, handsome, fair, rich, own a house, be presentable, and will add GOD fearing in order not to sound worldly.

Just imagine 40 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is one and he gonna pick one, then what becomes of 39 others?

You hear them saying,i can't suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man. That is why some of them fall into the hands of evil men because of the standerd.

My dear, let me tell you the truth MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAMME, it's a mission of building the family of God here on earth.

You don't even know you maybe the person that will help him to that destination fast.

NOTE: I am not saying you should pick any man that comes your way(a man that can not feed himself) or if a rich guy comes you should not marry him. Get me right.

PLEASE Look beyond the physical.

Work by faith not by sight.

May God give us better Understanding.

Road to GOLDEN JUBILEE

30yrs of togetherness in

love.....Thanks for the love and care you've shown me since I was a kid till this very moment. Not even a day have you two turn back on me.I pray for God to shower more love,health, and life on you two.

Love you Dad & Mum