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HOW TO HAVE PEACE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. BE BEST FRIENDS

Marry your best friend. And when you are married, deliberately stay best friends. There is peace in close friendship

2. HAVE A LOT OF SEX

Making love releases the tension and brings about intimacy. With intimacy comes peace

3. BE RIGHT WITH GOD 

The more your relationship with God as individuals and as a couple grows; the more peaceful you will be

4. MAKE GOOD FINANCIAL DECISIONS 

Don't go into debt, live within your means, don't misuse money or cause your spouse to feel financially overburdened. Even when you are in financial problems, come up with a plan. Financial strain can bring stress

5. START EACH DAY RIGHT 

Start with a blessing, a prayer, a kiss, warm words; it sets the tone of the day

6. HELP EACH OTHER OUT

Do everything as a team. Share responsibilities. It lifts the burden bringing peace

7. RESOLVE ISSUES QUICKLY 

Don't dwell on issues. Apologize when you wrong, forgive when wronged. Making up maintains peace

8. CONTROL YOUR TEMPER

Learn to keep calm when angry. Pray

9. PLAY WORSHIP MUSIC 

Let worship surround the home. Where God is worshipped there is peace

10. KISS MORE, TOUCH MORE

Cuddling makes you less moody and grumpy

11. DO NOT HAVE AN AFFAIR 

This is the quickest way to destroy peace

12. DON'T DO ANYTHING SUSPICIOUS 

Refrain from doing anything that might make your spouse doubt you or be suspicious of you. You may not be doing wrong but make sure your spouse gets no impression that you are

13. LAUGH

Watch comedies, laugh, play games, enjoy a sport, have constructive debates. Be fun

14. COMPLIMENT EACH OTHER 

Tell your spouse how good he/she is or looks. When people are made to feel good about themselves, they are peaceful

15. SAY "I LOVE YOU" TO EACH OTHER 

These thee words calm the heart, they come with peace

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde 

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MOTHERLY MARRIAGE ADVICE TO A DAUGHTER

1. My daughter, if ever your father and I cross the boundaries in your marriage, tell us. Keep us in check. Protect your marriage, even from us

2. You have seen good sides of your dad, but please don't expect your husband to be like your father. You only know your father from the perspective of a child, love your husband uniquely. My husband is my husband 

3. Marriage is a beautiful thing but not the only thing in life. As you devote yourself to your husband and children, don't forget you. Grow yourself as an individual, your dreams and goals. When you are fulfilled, marriage will bring you fulfillment 

4. Whatever you do for your dad and I, if you send us support or buy us things, do so together with your husband and also do the same for his parents. Don’t make them think you don’t care

5. If my father and I have hurt you while you were growing up, forgive us. Heal from your childhood trauma so that you don't wound your husband and children on our account 

6. Forgive me and your dad if you watch us spoiling and loving on your children more than we did to you when you were younger, we are just trying to make up for the ways we let you down when you were a child 

7. As you expect your spouse to listen to you and meet your needs, do the same for him. Both your emotions and needs matter 

8. There is a narrative that women rarely apologize. Show that you are different. If your husband perceives you have wronged him, acknowledge it and tell him sorry. Cooking for him good food or buying him a wallet without acknowledging his feelings is not an apology 

9. In marriage there will be different seasons, each season will require different wisdom. Be willing to learn. Don’t panic or quit in tough seasons, don't become comfortable and egotistical in good seasons

10. When you two are having challenges, don’t be quick to come to your father and I. We can easily overreact or become bias. Go to a counsellor or someone neutral. Come to us only when all else fails

11. Remember your power as a wife, your biggest power are your words and tone. Don’t be silent, speak, your voice matters but when you speak at home, speak gently, with love, and with the right tone. You have the power to set the mood. When you brighten up, the whole home brightens up

12. Don't be ashamed of your sexual needs. When you want sex, ask for it from your husband, seduce him, let yourself free to enjoy. Eventually sex will not be possible with age 

13. If you ever get tired or feel overwhelmed, reach out to others for encouragement, engage in self care, breathe then continue. We need you in the right state of mind, don’t breakdown lonely

14. Never ever forget how beautiful you are. I love you and I am proud of you 

 

© Dayan Masinde 

LORD, WE ASK FOR PEACE

Lord,

Come fill our marriage,

Come reign in our home,

We ask for peace.

As we ask for peace,

We are aware You desire us to peacemakers.

We are Your vessels of honour,

Give us peace beyond human understanding.

Give us peace when we are close to fighting,

Hold our tongue so that we don't hurt each other.

We bring every thought in us captive to You,

Especially in moments of anger.

Give us peace when life issues come to shake us,

When outsiders try to frustrate us,

When work is burdensome;

Make our home an oasis of peace.

Give us peace when we sleep.

Protect us in the spiritual and physical,

Let us sleep trusting each other;

But above all, trusting in You eyes shut.

Give us peace when plans don't go our way,

When we suffer setbacks and disappointments.

Give us peace to hold on to You,

When things are beyond our control.

Let me be peace when my spouse is in a storm,

Let me be assuring and calm.

May I never be the reason my spouse hides or cries,

The reason my spouse doesn't feel at home.

Help my spouse to be peace to me,

To know how to handle me,

To know how to comfort me and console me;

To be gentle with me.

We ask for peaceful conversations,

For genuine embrace.

Blessed are the peacemakers,

They will be called children of God.

Bless us oh Lord

© Dayan Masinde 

WAYS TO GET THE BEST OUT OF YOUR HUSBAND

WAYS TO GET THE BEST OUT OF YOUR HUSBAND

Every Woman dreams to have a Husband that is Supportive, that always listens to her, that meets every of her needs..

Here are things you can do to get the best out of your Husband.

1) GIVE HIM GOOD FOOD

It has not become outdated.

"One of the ways to a Man's heart is through his stomach."

As a Lady, know how to prepare your husband's best meal, and different dishes.

The things a Man can do for his wife when he is well fed, let me not talk too much. 

You may have heard it in 1960, and it is now 2019, an hungry Man is still an Angry Man 

2) BUY HIM GIFTS

Yes oh.

Queen Esther knew this

She wanted something from her husband the king..

what did she do?

She threw him a party.

3) PRAISE HIM

Any Woman who knows how to praise her husband, she will collect his entire salary and he will not bat an eyelid.

Be his cheer leader, his praise singer

Men like to be praised.

Men love Words of affirmation

Call him Mr Handsome

Call him Talk and Do (even if he doesn't do)

Call him Sweet Husband

Use praises to whine his head.

The rest is history. 

4) PRAY FOR HIM

Yes oh...

Let him know you pray for him

Let him hear it.

Before he leaves the house, pray for him.

Tell him he is blessed.

Tell him he will get contracts. 

5) GIVE HIM GOOD SEX

Men like sex,

He may be Anointed and Spirit filled, he still likes sex from his wife

Learn how to please him in bed, know the things he loves you to do him.

He will give you the keys to his kingdom 

Let him have access to your body 24/7, you will have access to his support, love, care, bank account 24/7.

6) LOVE HIS FRIENDS/FAMILY

Buy Gifts for his mother, younger ones,

Call them occasionally

Be friendly to his friends. 

Don't come into his life and try to seperate him from his friends and family.

Be so close to his family and friends that even when you guys are quarreling, his family will side with you. 

His friends will ask him to go and settle with you.

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