Monday, 22 April 2024

WHAT MOST MEN CONSIDER TO BE WIFE MATERIAL:

WHAT MOST MEN CONSIDER TO BE WIFE MATERIAL:

1. ABILITY TO HOLD CONVERSATIONS
Men love to talk too, they value conversations with the one they love. No man wants to come home to a wife with whom he has nothing to say. He wants laughter, real talk, serious talk, engaging stories.

2. ABILITY TO EASILY TURN ON
A man wants a sexy wife, a woman who easily pushes his buttons and he can look at and crave for. He wants to share forever and remain faithful to a sexy woman who connects with his kind of sexiness.

3. MOTHERLINESS
With marriage comes the possibility of having childen; whether those children are biological or adopted. A man wants not just a good wife but a good mother. She has to have nurturing qualities. If she is a single mother, he studies how that woman treats her own child/ children.

4. ABILITY TO IMPROVE HIM
A man needs a helper, he knows he needs help even though he may not admit it. He wants someone who will correct him with tender love, better him, inspire him, encourage him, be his pillar pushing him to growth. He looks at the woman and asks "Besides being sexy and beautiful, what value can she add to my life?"

5. MATURITY
Marriage is not for girls but grown women. A grown man looks for a grown woman to settle down with, a woman who has shed off her childish tendancies and wants something real. He will look at what excites her, how she carries herself; is she ready for a grown man's love and responsibility, or is she still a girl in a woman's body? He will not baby sit in marriage.

6. EMOTIONAL STABILITY 
Everyone has emotions, even men; question is, do you have control over your emotions? A man wants a wife who will be true to her emotions but not allowing her emotions to influence her decisions. Is her temper out of control, is she an alcoholic, is she having low self-esteem, is she insecure in an unhealthy way? He doesn't want an emotional wreck who is irrational, doing and saying things out of impulsive and misplaced emotions.

CAN I ASSIST MY FIANCE FINANCIALLY?

CAN I ASSIST MY FIANCE FINANCIALLY?

Over and over again, ladies keep asking me  if it is okay to help their partners with money, some are already heavily involved financially while some are one leg in, one leg out.

The fear of these ladies is the guy eventually becoming complacent, depending on them for survival after marriage, expecting them to pay all the bills and not doing anything to better their finances.

My advise for you is, what you cannot finish, don't bother to start, if you are not ready to spoon feed him for life and clear all your bills in marriage, don't start practicing now in courtship. 

A guy who is so financially irresponsible, he can't eat or pay bills till he borrows from you day in, day out and does nothing to improve his finance is a disaster going somewhere to happen.

If you are as irresponsible as he is, he will have no money to borrow!

Borrow yourself sense sweet lady! 

Let your man grow up and be financially responsible so you can have peace of mimd in marriage. A liability in courtship won't turn to an asset in marriage.

He should dust his certificaties and go look for job or find something doing! He should budget his income and learn to live within his means. If he spends more than he earns to the point you have to keep borrowing him money,either he is not earning enough or he is living above his income!

A man will become what you train him to be. If you train him to depend on you for survival on courtship, he will continue in marriage. Train him to be financially responsible.

A man who knows how to create money without becoming a financial burden on his woman is a great husband material to watch out for!

Marriage is a place of support not a burden. You are to help each other achieve your dreams not suck each other's dreams dry.

Both of you should be financially responsible.

Both of you should live within your budget.

Both of you should contribute to the success of your marriage.

HOW TO SPEAK LIFE OVER YOUR FAMILY



1. Don't just accept every prophesy spoken over you, your spouse or children. Test the spirit

2. Every morning speak a blessing over your spouse and your children

3. Find out the generational struggles, strongholds and troubles your parents and grandparents faced and those of your spouse; and reject them and cancel them

4. Speak to the kind of family, marriage you will  become. Prophesy into your future

5. Find key Bible verses to anchor your family on as a couple. Do you have a verse that you claim as a couple?

6. Don't just pray for food and journey mercies. Make your prayer life richer, there is so much to pray for

7. Interact with your spouse and children and know their daily state. How will you pray effective prayers for them if you don't know their day to day living?

8. Don't use the same tongue that prays for your family to insult or speak negativity to your family. Be consistent in what you say to and about your family, even in moments of anger

9. Find plaques to hang on the wall, computer wallpapers and phone screensavers that are in line with your prayer for your family; display them as a constant reminder

10. Ask God "What is your message for us as family? Where should we go?". God is willing to lead you, if you want to be led

© Dayan Masinde

11 FEELINGS YOU SHOULD MAKE YOUR SPOUSE FEEL



1. DESIRED
Make your spouse feel sexually wanted. Flirt with your spouse. Make your spouse feel attractive. Make him hard. Make her wet

2. THOUGHT OF
Randomly do things to your spouse that communicate you are thinking of him/her. Help out with a chore, an errand without being asked. Make tea/coffee when your spouse is working. Randomly send a message just to check up on him/her

3. HEARD
Make your spouse feel that you care about what he/she cares about. Make your spouse feel he/she has a safe space to talk. Listen. Ask questions as someone wanting to know your spouse better

4. BELIEVED IN
Make your spouse feel cheered on, that you have faith in his/her greatness. Say words such as "You can make it", "I am so proud of you"

5. APPRECIATED
Spending years with your spouse, your spouse will do a lot of good. Highlight those good. Make him/her feel not taken for granted

6. PROTECTED
Make your spouse feel safe, that you can't raise a hand, insult, threaten him/her and you will not tolerate another person doing the same to your spouse... including your own family 

7. RESPECTED
Make your spouse feel highly regarded, that you speak honorably to him/her. Respect opens up the door to a deeper connection

8. SPECIAL
Make your spouse feel like your priority, that they are not in competition with another. Do things that communicate to your spouse how grateful you are to have him/her in your life

9. SEXY
Make your spouse feel good about himself/herself. Praise your spouse's sexual advances and deeds. Compliment your spouse's looks and appeal

10. MISSED
Make your spouse know that even though sometimes you have to be a part, you treasure moments spent together. When you are far from each other, occasionally reach out for your spouse to feel missed

11. NEEDED
Make your spouse feel he/she adds value to your life. Ask your spouse for help, let your spouse participate in your activities

WHAT YOUR WOMAN WANTS FROM YOU AS A MAN.


[29]For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church. (Ephesians 5:29)
The Bible says you should nourish and cherish your wife. To nourish means to feed and grow something. How do you nourish your woman.

1. Nourish her with the Word and Wisdom: As a man you must be deep in the Word and full of wisdom. Only a foolish man complains about the character flaws in a woman. It is your responsibility to wash with the Word. Teach her to be a good and virtuous wife. Stop grumbling and murmuring. Stop hating. Stop comparing her with other women. If you're not correct as a man, your wife can't be correct too.

2. Support her: Your wife's or a woman's progress ad prospects shouldn't be a challenge to you. The best gift you can give a woman is to unconditionally support her to achieve her dreams and visions. Stop being rivalrous and competitive.

3. Promote her: Many men are potential- hunters not potential-promoters. Promote the skills, ideas and gifts of your woman. Your woman's progress shouldn't be a threat to you. God didn't bring a woman into your life to kill her abilities but to promote them. 

4. Feed her: I still don't understand why a man would eat sumptuous meal in a canteen but hardly gives money to his wife and children. Your prosperity should be evident in your wife. If you're concerned about your wellbeing while neglecting your woman's welfare, you're a task master not a husband. 

5. Satisfy her sexuality: Give her the best sexual experience. Why should you punish a woman by denying her sex? Be skillful and creative about it. Women appreciate and enjoy good, long and thrilling sex. Must she bribe you with food before you make her feel like a woman? Lol.... Stop complaining about her size, shape and stature, at least you used her to such state. 

With love from Papa Zion...

May the Lord give you more understanding in Jesus name 

© Impact Breed, 2019

TRUST MEANS...



1. Sleeping next to you defenseless, and sure that you will not harm me. 

2. Having children with you, knowing I will not do parenthood alone.

3. Introducing you to my parents and family, confident that you will honour them and love them like your own. 

4. Eating food that you have cooked, knowing that you can never poison me. 

5. Watching you walk through the door of our home, knowing that you will not do anything outside there to jeopardize our precious family.

6. Investing my money, emotions, time and effort in us, knowing we have a firm foundation and this is serious.

7. Giving you my naked body raw, knowing that you are responsible and faithful with your sexual organ so you won't bring me diseases.

8. No need for me going through your phone, because I know you don't need me to police you, you are not doing anything shameful inside there. 

9. Proudly calling myself yours, knowing no one else is claiming you. 

10. Being at peace when you are physically far away from me, knowing you will do what is best for us. 

11. Banking on every word you tell me, knowing you are telling me the truth.

12. Closing my eyes in surrender, knowing I am safe with you.

13. Defending you when others attack you, knowing you are worth fighting for.

14. Giving you a lifetime to spend with me, knowing I will not regret it.

© Dayan Masinde