Stop doing these

"Don't instruct your partner on how to be in a relationship with you.

Avoid requesting constant text check-ins for your mental well-being.

Refrain from asking for surprise reservations at your favorite restaurant.

Skip the requests for a warm bubble bath after a tough day at work.

Don't plead for acknowledgment of your existence.

The right person will naturally do all this and more.

Find someone who has always dreamed of having someone like you since childhood.

Find someone who consistently shows how much you mean to them every day.

Find someone who not only says "I love you" but also proves it through actions.

Find someone who prioritizes you enough to protect your feelings over others'.

Find someone who supports your dreams and life goals.

Find someone who understands it's not about giving you the world but making you a priority in theirs.

Find someone who continues to pursue you long after they've won your heart.

Find someone who memorizes every detail of your body with their fingertips when they miss you.

Take my advice and wait for this person, because the longer you settle for what's not meant for you, the longer you delay finding what is."

Losing yourself

Losing yourself. 

Remember when they continually mistreated you to a point where, you formed a habit of saying "I'm used to it". 

Remember when they never appreciated everything you did for them and you began to tell yourself "It will be okay". 

Remember when they would always undervalue you, and you learned how to say "I'm fine". 

Remember when you were always put last and you naturally reacted with "It's whatever". 

Remember when they would always take you for granted and you dealt with it by always saying "Everything will be okay". 

Remember when you were unhappy and you always told people on a daily basis "I'm doing alright". 

  If you're reading this right now, then you need to understand... nobody is worth losing yourself over.

Not one person on this earth is worth suffering for, at the expense of your own happiness.

And nobody is worth tormenting yourself over for the sake of making them happy. 

You may not want to hear this, but leaving this person is the only way you'll be able to find yourself again and truly become that person you used to be.  

Take my advice and ..... Choose this person's absence over their disrespect.

~ Cody Bret

What peace means to men

So many keep asking what peace means to men. I don’t know what it means to yours as everyone is different but if you ask me, this is what peace means in the context of marriage:

1. Communicate verbally and effectively if you have a concern, don’t throw tantrums without explanation. Better still, don’t throw tantrums. 

2. Don’t jump to false conclusions based on assumptions, work with facts.

3. Embrace emotional intelligence in not just choice of words, volume, tone but right timing  as well.

4. If you’ve said it once, at best it needs just one reminder if not done. You have made your point, it has been noted and being worked on as feasibly as it is possible to do it.

5. Respect my need for rest especially when tired from work and more.

6. Be patient especially with understanding. Everything needs not become an argument or fight.

7. I will play my role as mutually agreed upon, do yours.

8. Pay attention, if I say I don’t like it, don’t do it.

9. Where errors happen, let it not become a norm.

10. I will give it by best, what I can afford is what I can afford.

11. Don’t be the one fighting everyone every time. Learn how to interact with people cordially.

12. If you are wrong, you will be corrected. Show remorse and don’t create excuses or justifications.

13. My family is important to me, as much as I will honour you with them, honour them too.

14. I am me, don’t compare me to anyone.

15. Keep everything simple and straightforward.

-Shamseddin Giwa

A LESSON FOR MARRIED WOMEN....

A LESSON FOR MARRIED WOMEN....

INFIDELITY  MY HUSBAND TRIED ME WITH HIS FRIEND, AND I FELL FLAT. 

****** so confused, don't know what to do wife narrates. 

There is this man who began chatting with me around October. The man is very handsome and with money, he began showering me with nice messages and slowly graduating to gifts. 

We hadn't met but finally we met and I liked him more. Slowly we began planning on some romantic outing and finally we booked a hotel out of town. I had lied to my husband am going to visit a cousin of mine who lives there. 

We got to the hotel and went to the room. We showered and we got to the bed. However just as we began having romance, The door got banged so hard. The man seemed scared but went to open the door. 

My husband came inside and found me naked. He told me. Now I have proven that you aren't faithful to me. He told me it was all a set up to try me since he has always suspected me that I would cheat if given the the chance. 

The man admitted it was true he was  hired to try me. He dressed up and both my husband and him left. I felt so much ashamed, I didn't go home but went to my mother place and haven't told her why am there. The children are with my husband. 

How do I solve this one??  Am so confused though I blame my self.

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The story of the man who bought kingship in Awkuzu.

JOHN NEBOLISA A.K.A JONEB ( Arusi Awkuzu)

Late Igwe John Ejikeme Nebeolisa, it would be recalled, used to be one of the most popular multi-millionaires of the 1990s from the East.

He was known to be a close buddy of Victor Okafor aka "Ezego" which translates as the king of money in Igbo language. John Nebeolisa during prime was everything a Nigerian man wished to be in life, expensive cars like the limousine, Porsche, Peugeot Chasis, he moved with bodyguards and in convoy, whatever it is that was in trend back in the 1990s name it John Nebeolisa aka Joneb had it all.

Joneb had businesses all over the eastern region, and so many landed properties in Lagos and overseas. His businesses spanned from hotels, travel agencies and other controversial setups.

He made so much money then from his controversial businesses and also spent it as if it was going out of fashion. The late king of high life music, Oliver de Coque sang his praises to high heavens in his albums.

At some point he dedicated an attire album to the owner of the once popular Joneb Holiday Inn in Awkuzu.

Amid all these wealth and power, Joneb still wasn't satisfied with all he has achieved as a multimillionaire in his forties.

The controversial businessman Joneb wanted more power and fame to the extent he went toe to toe with age long tradition of Igbo land, specifically that of Anambra State and declared his intention of becoming the King of Awkuzu, a town in Oyi local government area in Anambra State.

After the death of King Aganama The Fourth, the throne was forcefully taken by the Late King John Nnebeolisa.

Most of the elders of the town, dignitaries and the Igwe in council thought the multi-millionaire was bluffing until he stormed their houses one by one with bags full of naira notes that anyone opposing his ambition has ever seen in their entire generation.

Joneb was so rich that he practically bought his way into the throne. He bought every single person that had a tiny reason to object to his ambition, name your price and see it doubled in your face.

It was through Joneb that I knew kingship can be bought and everything on earth has its price.

When the price was paid for his ascension to the throne of Awkuzu, Joneb along with all his aides on his side was crowned Igwe Ibilibe Ogada and Arusi Awkuzu which translates as (The biggest the town has ever seen and the Oracle of the whole kingdom of Awkuzu)

Joneb occupied the throne of Awkuzu for 10 years before dying in his home in Lagos while watching Tv with his family.

The family he left behind after his death was a young one and they weren't mentally or physically prepared to continue his legacy as the Arusi Awkuzu, so eventually the family he forcefully took the throne from later ended up with their birth right.

The gods are wise.

#Copied from Mazi Ogbonna

I HAVE NEVER HAD REASONS TO DOUBT MY HUSBAND FOR OVER 12 YEARS OF MARRIAGE👇

Before you start typing what you think in the comment section and coming up with the no man can be trusted phrase🙄 just be patient and read first😌

HE EARNED IT! He didn't just ask me to trust him👇

I’ve known him for over 13 years and many of his actions either consciously or unconsciously has earned my trust.

1) Transparency:- He has A1 in this regard, there is no password I don't know, he leaves his phone and doesn't hide to receive calls, I have access to his messages and even social media pages and handles without even asking ( A clear conscience fears no accusation).

2) Boundaries:- I have seen how he has maintained discipline when dealing or relating with the opposite sex, he doesn't have a close daughter in the Lord or female bestie😁 if you belong to the other gender and want to be close then you have to be close to both of us and be mentored by both of us. He answers your phone on speaker when he’s with me. Ivan walk into his office at will without taking permission.

3)Accountability:-when he senses any foul movement he tells me no matter what it is.

One time a lady that stayed in our house back in kogi state was sleeping in the room opposite our bedroom with the door open and her Bre*St all out, he came back home that day and asked me to go tell the girl in the other room to cover up, I did and she left a short while after “I no wan hear story”😅

We travel everywhere together and on days I'm not with him and anything happens, he calls to inform me ( sin thrives in secrecy) One time he travelled to Kanu with his driver and a girl knocked on his hotel door to ask for hot water, while the driver was getting the water from the bathroom she sat on a stool before him and open her leg😫 (note, she was wearing mini skirt) he picked up his phone immediately to call and report the situation and I spoke to both him and his driver. She did not succeed to the glory of God🙌 😂😂i cover our husbands with the blood of Jesus🙏 All these Jezebels are everywhere.

4)He doesn't hide his love for me 🥰 He shows me off and doesn't keep me like I'm a secret. He tells everyone that cares to know that he loves his wife both online and offline. I had to even tell him to reduce the online one because he too do🙃🙃

5) I’ve seen him maintain his integrity, not just with me but with other people. He will never call blue-black. His yes is yes and no is no.

6) Above all, he fears God and I’ve seen him practice what he preaches.

I know some people will say a man can do all this and still

Cheat, an you sabi😌

One thing is sure, A man can not pretend before me for 13 years😁 I am not that dull.

There are still men who are faithful to one woman.

God’s grace is sufficient.

I pray that God’s grace will continue to keep him till the end🙏