A giver can’t be with a taker

A giver can’t be with a taker. They’ll allow you to give to them until you have nothing left to give while rarely ever giving to you because they know that’s just who you are, giving genuinely makes you happy. They don’t even think to include you in any activities in their life but once you think of them and want to include them, they are there. If you are a giver, don’t ever let a taker take advantage of you like that. Go where your energy is reciprocated. Many of you will have this realization soon about someone in your life. It’s not about wanting anything back when you give because you give without ever expecting anything in return but realizing that all they ever really did was take from you. Reciprocation was never in their mind when it came to you.

The truth about a man.

Just because you get thousands of likes on your profile picture will not keep a man. 

Being honest about things in your past will not keep a man. 

Being faithful and loyal since day one doesn't keep a man. 

Treating a man better than he's ever been treated before doesn't keep a man. 

Making an effort every single day to make sure he knows you truly care will not keep a man. 

Giving him all of your time that you can spare, doesn't keep a man. 

You could have the best intentions in the world and could have the most sincere feelings, and you could be the most perfect woman in existence and you still wouldn't be able to keep a man. 

The only way to keep a man is if that man wants to be kept by you. 

With a man, you can tell he wants to be kept when the relationship gets very hard and he does everything to fight for you. 

A man only fights for a woman he wants to belong to, so if he isn't fighting for you when things get hard, then that means he doesn't want to be kept by you anymore. 

Don't hold on to a man who doesn't want to be kept by you. 

You're not giving up on him. It's quite the opposite. 

It's him who gave up on you, and it's you who shouldn't waste any more of your time than you already have. 

Know when it's time to let go, know when it's time to walk away, and know when it's time for him to be unkept. 

~ Cody Bret

SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN THE WRONG RELATIONSHIP

SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN THE WRONG RELATIONSHIP – avoid them and safe your life!!!

Good or bad, every relationship has indicators. One common indicator in every wrong relationship is that: 

You cannot be in a wrong relationship and not know.

Surprised? 

As confusing as that sounds, it’s really true. Deep down within you, down, down somewhere there, you will inevitably have that nudging within you that there is something wrong with that relationship.

Here is a list of signs that show that you are in a wrong relationship.

1. YOU ARE NOT YOUR REAL SELF

A wrong relationship will squeeze you up. It sucks also. It will always attempt to make you to adapt to the other person without a corresponding demand on them as well for change and adaptation. You become a shadow of your real self – always trying to be who you are not in order to make someone else accept you, love you, validate and eventually marry you. That is not love. That is a cage, a lifelong one. Get out of it now before it is too late.

2. YOU ARE FULL OF SELF DOUBT

A situation where you aren’t sure of anything. I mean, there are no inner guarantees and assurances within you that everything will be alright. Even when you now seem to be sure, that assurance is short lived – it soon fizzles out into outer space and you are back to square one. You are not always sure about the tomorrow of that relationship. It seems to be looking good today, but you have a feeling everything might soon go south for both of you. 

3. IT BRINGS VITAL RELATIONSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE TO A CLOSE 

There are vital relationships in your life before this lover boy, lover girl came on board your life. Relationships with parents, siblings, mentors, business partners etc. I am talking about relationships upon which your life has been premised before he/she came. Relationships that have added colour and balance to your life. Relationships without which your whole essence is not in view. If those kinds of relationships come to an end, wahala dey

5 WAYS TO AVOID WASTING A LADY'S TIME

1) BE SURE BEFORE YOU ASK HER OUT 

It's very terrible to see a Brother in a Relationship, and when you ask him what he wants from the Lady and the Relationship, he can't give you a straight answer..

Which one is "I'm still thinking about it"

Thinking about it, on top 2 years old Relationship? 

Be sure about her Ethnicity/Religion and how your family will welcome that first..

Be sure about your Genotype compatibility first. 

Watch, Look at everything First, Physical, Social, Financial, Spiritual and otherwise. 

Pray (Get your conviction)

Before you now ask a lady out, otherwise, you may end up wasting her time.. 

2) BE HONEST. (DON'T GIVE HER FALSE HOPE)  

I counseled a lady some months back, uncle wasted her 2 years and was apologizing, will apology bring back her 2 years?

 His Mother never liked the lady, but he kept assuring her that he could do something, that he would marry her, so she waited, in the end, he succumbed to his Mother and the lady was left to bite the dust. 

Don't make Promises you can't keep.

3) LEAVE HER BODY OUT OF IT. 

Yes Sir, don't go there at all.

Sex would complicate issues. Without sex, your brain and heart will process what they want from her faster and do so unbiasely. 

4) AVOID UNREALISTIC GOALS

I must buy a Car First

I must build a house first.

"I must do this, I must do that... " and she will enter Menopause, you will now be saying she's now too old for you, you want someone younger to marry. Fear God oh. 

5) AVOID LONG COURTSHIP

Don't put a ring on a lady's finger when you are not ready to Marry her in a few months time, maximum a Year. Make God no vex for you.

Don't make any Lady Lord of the Rings. If you aren't ready, clear road for those that are ready. 

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(c) Musa Gift

WHY KISSING IS IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE

1. It reminds your spouse he/she is your lover, not just a parent to the children you have

2. Kissing when you wake up and when you sleep make you both start and end the day right

3. Kissing communicates to your spouse that there is still warmth in the marriage. When a couple is drifting apart, one of the first things to suffer is kissing

4. Kissing is part of making out. Yes, married couples should also make out. Making out is the grabbing of butt, fondling of breasts, rubbing of the tip of the penis, passionately hugging, touching up even when fully clothed; as you kiss deeply - without necessarily making love

5. Kissing welcomes you to each other when you meet each other at home or outside after some hours of being a part

6. Kissing says "I love you"

7. Kissing promotes emotional intimacy. Conversations become more heartfelt when a couple embraces kissing. You bond better

8. Kissing promotes spiritual intimacy. When a couple kisses after praying to say "Amen", they value praying together more

9. Kissing releases the tension and a couple gets to have difficult conversations in a relaxed atmosphere. Imagine talking heavy stuff with random kisses

10. Kissing makes your spouse feel wanted and desired

11. Kissing heightens sexual intimacy as foreplay

12. Kissing is an activity you do exclusively that makes you both feel special

Sometimes all your spouse wants is for you to shut up and kiss him/her

© Dayan Masinde

FALSE PROPHETS

Matthew 7:15 "Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves."   

Not everyone who calls on God is a Child of God. 

Never be in a hurry to trust someone because they carry a religious ambience around them

Wearing Suit is not Holiness 

Long Skirt is not Righteousness 

There are decently dressed witches. 

Not everyone you meet in church is a Christian, the church is like a Hospital, not everyone there is a Doctor, some are psychiatric patients 

Don't fall for Gifts

He can Prophesy, a person can prophesy and still have a wicked heart. 

They can speak in tongues in prayer meetings and be neck deep in fornication. . 

Don't fall for charisma alone. 

Just because he is a Youth leader in church, She is coordinating the Sisters fellowship, these doesn't count for righteousness 

Don't fall for social media razzmatazz.

Some of the Social media pastors and advocates of sexual Purity and Sister's on fire are something else in their closets, 

Get to know the person well enough before you get serious with them. 

FRIENDSHIP FIRST 

Check out their CHARACTER not CONTAINER 

Check out their FRUITS not GIFTS 

Check out their ACTIONS not their WORDS  

Watch and Pray.

Do not ignore Red flags because of a Person's flashy appearance and religious appeal.

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Matthew 24:11 "And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many."

May You not be deceived into a Relationship that will lead to regrets.

(c) Musa Gift