HOW TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIAGE

HOW TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/ MARRIAGE

Sometimes when two people have been dating or married for so long, the communication can be flat. You've already known each other, so what is there to talk about? The chats become short and few, the phone calls become short and cold, when you are both at home everyone is busy doing their own thing, you both struggle in a conversation, when driving in the car both are silent, you two have ended up talking mostly about the things that need to be done at home, you can feel that the communication is dry.

 How does one restore that funny, warm, alive, quality communication to what it used to be before?

1. "Stop panicking"

When you panic that the communication has changed, you begin to force conversations; making things awkward and complicating things further

2. "Both of you grow intellectually"

When you don't grow as much, you stagnate. Or one of you grows more than the other, there can be a disconnect. But when you acquire more knowledge, research more, go to school to get that Degree, Masters or PhD, or even when you can't go to school you read more and become more exposed to new content; you will have more to talk about

3. "Engage your family and friends more"

Often a man and a woman spend time alone and isolating themselves. But stop making yourselves an island. Meet up with family, do stuff with friends, especially as a couple; that way you will have new experiences and memories. Conversations often revolve around two things: memories and what someone knows

4. "Kiss more"

You cannot kiss and stay quiet. Kissing excites the senses. If you don't have much to say, just kiss each other, get lost in those long intimate kisses. Soon, you both will find yourselves talking

5. "Watch movies together"

Movies are a great way to connect

6. "Go out on dates more"

Sadly, many couples, especially married couples stop going out on dates. Staying at home every time can get monotonous, nothing new to experience

Before You Say I Do:

Before You Say I Do:

 Ladies! Do not be committed to a man who is not committed to you. When a man truly loves a woman, he will show it by his loving actions. Words are cheap. Do not believe every word that a man tells you but believe everything he shows you by his actions. 

If a man loves you, he will pursue you and will never leave you wondering if he truly loves you. If you are always the one chasing him and calling him and sending countless unreturned text messages, he is not serious with you. 

If all he does is give you countless excuses of why he cannot be with you, then he is probably committed to someone else. 

A man who truly loves you will give you undivided attention and unsolicited affection. If his love is not freely given, then his love is not worth receiving. 

Do not be with a man who just tolerates you, be with one who pursues, appreciates and values you. A man who takes you for granted will always take advantage of you. Move on! You deserve better. – Isaac Kubvoruno

Don't be so much about who's at fault

You'd both lie down facing opposite directions of the same bed, both acting busy with the phone or pretending to be asleep. Action would be so close yet so far away. Frustrated, you'd both drop the phones one after the other and pretend to sleep, hoping that your move will trigger a reconciliatory move from the other. 

Your eyes will be closed but your senses wide open, painting a very clear image of every single body movement coming from the other side of the bed, hoping that one of those moves would be a hand in your direction....hoping, just hoping.

Next comes the tossing and turning that would be done again, hoping to trigger something.... again, hoping, just hoping.

Finally, the sigh of giving up and sleeping, having wasted hours hoping, just hoping.

The next morning will begin in more frustration and anger for even betraying yourself enough to descend to hoping, just hoping......and worse, without results.

You'd both leave for work angrier than you were yesterday and it just continues till it feels like there's no way back.

If you are lucky and you make it out of the eye of the storm, you'd remember someday and ask yourself why one of you didn't just say sorry.

If you are not as lucky, you'd continue to be bitter but someday too, your mind will come round and ask you why one of you didn't just make a move.

Please, I beg you with all you've got, all you are and all you hope to be. Don't let ego destroy what you have. 

Don't be so much about who's at fault as much as you'd be about who fixed it.

Peace.

-Shamseddin Giwa

DON'T TAKE YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED

DON'T TAKE YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED

1. Don't take it for granted if you have a husband who wants you sexually often. So many women out there long for their husband to desire them

2. Don't take if for granted if you have a wife who calls you at night to find out where you are and if you are safe. Some wives have gotten to the point they don't care about the husband

3. Don't take it for granted if you have a husband who opens up to you even if he ends up saying things that are difficult. So many wives wish their secretive husband could confide in them

4. Don't take it for granted if your wife put a pause on her personal development in order to raise the children and take care of you then will plug in back to her career later. So many mothers don't dedicate time to nurture their children

5. Don't take it for granted if you have a husband who uses the little money he has to love you and the children and care for you as family. So many wives are struggling alone and are with an irresponsible husband who doesn't care about the family matters

6. Don't take it for granted if you have a wife who is sexually active with you, loves to please you and is engaging in bed. So many husbands feel rejected by their wife

7. Don't take it for granted if you have a husband who lets you know who his friends are including the female friends. So many husbands live a secret life

8. Don't take it for granted if you have a wife who knows when to put the phone away and be present in the home with you and the children. So many wives are consumed by social media and entertainment they neglect the home or mismanage it

9. Don't take it for granted if you have a spouse who prays for you. When you were younger, prayers by your parents and grandparents sustained you and covered you, now it is the prayers of your spouse that does so

10. Don't take it for granted if you have a spouse who is a peace lover and who solves conflicts quickly.

WHAT YOUR WOMAN WANTS FROM YOU AS A MAN.

[29]For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church. (Ephesians 5:29)

The Bible says you should nourish and cherish your wife. To nourish means to feed and grow something. How do you nourish your woman.

1. Nourish her with the Word and Wisdom: As a man you must be deep in the Word and full of wisdom. Only a foolish man complains about the character flaws in a woman. It is your responsibility to wash with the Word. Teach her to be a good and virtuous wife. Stop grumbling and murmuring. Stop hating. Stop comparing her with other women. If you're not correct as a man, your wife can't be correct too.

2. Support her: Your wife's or a woman's progress ad prospects shouldn't be a challenge to you. The best gift you can give a woman is to unconditionally support her to achieve her dreams and visions. Stop being rivalrous and competitive.

3. Promote her: Many men are potential- hunters not potential-promoters. Promote the skills, ideas and gifts of your woman. Your woman's progress shouldn't be a threat to you. God didn't bring a woman into your life to kill her abilities but to promote them. 

4. Feed her: I still don't understand why a man would eat sumptuous meal in a canteen but hardly gives money to his wife and children. Your prosperity should be evident in your wife. If you're concerned about your wellbeing while neglecting your woman's welfare, you're a task master not a husband. 

5. Satisfy her sexuality: Give her the best sexual experience. Why should you punish a woman by denying her sex? Be skillful and creative about it. Women appreciate and enjoy good, long and thrilling sex. Must she bribe you with food before you make her feel like a woman? Lol.... Stop complaining about her size, shape and stature, at least you used her to such state. 

With love from Papa Zion...

© Impact Breed, 2019

8 WOMEN YOU MUST AVOID AS A STRUGGLING YOUNG SINGLE MAN

1) Avoid a broke woman who depends on you for money and spend it unnecessarily , She's a financial vampire and parasite, she will ruin you and date another man 

2) Avoid an arrogant woman who doesn't takes instructions, corrections and direction from you. But love so much fake life , that always pressure you to buy any latest expensive trending materials , as a STRUGGLING YOUNG SINGLE MAN you can't go far with such woman 

3) Avoid an angry woman who's always quarreling and fighting with you, who disrespect you and give you no peace.

4) Avoid a woman who's surrounded by many men , who she calls her friends or bestie. Those men are your replacement waiting for your relationship to have problems and then they will move in and replace you.

5) Avoid a woman who doesn't want to listen to your simple explanation but always want what she need from you and doesn't care how you will go about risking your life to get it for her

6) Avoid woman, that's without handwork and she's not ready to learn any , the economic is not favorable, you may not have money always as a husband or boyfriend , most men you see out there, their wife is their backbone financially , having a good plan together with your wife is the secret of most men success 

7 ) Avoid high demanding woman , you can never get or achieve ur dreams with such woman ,as a STRUGGLING YOUNG SINGLE MAN  

8) Avoid woman who doesn't appreciate your little efforts to make her okay , such woman doesn't think of the past sacrifices , if she sees any boy that is doing more better than you she will leave you.

Men, always be guilded...