1. Before you see the wrong in your spouse, see also your wrong. It makes you fair and balanced
2. Before you correct your spouse, appreciate your spouse. It makes your correction better received
3. Before you accuse your spouse of something, have concrete proof. Too many people are accusing their spouse falsely based on feelings, suspicion and insecurities. If you have questions, ask without forming conclusions
4. Before you claim your spouse is distant, check if you have pushed him/her away
5. Before you claim your spouse is secretive, ask yourself if you are easy to talk to - calm, non-judgmental and empathetic
6. Don't protect a friend at the cost of hurting your spouse. It shows your spouse he/she has value. It is very easy to take your spouse for granted
7. Don't let how you treat your spouse be determined by how your spouse treats you. This only makes you hold back the best of your love and leads to tit for tat. Marriage is built by husband and wife both choosing to be the bigger person
8. Don't let a day go by without asking your spouse "How are you?" Or checking up on your spouse. It oils the marriage
9. Don't take a back seat and relax in marriage, your marriage will whither without effort. It takes being intentional to keep a marriage healthy and strong
10. Don't treat your spouse based on how your in-laws treat you. Your in-laws might not like you, but your spouse loves you
11. Do to your spouse what you want your spouse to do to you
12. Do love your spouse the way your spouse wants to be loved, not the way you think your spouse ought to be loved
13. Do the things you promised you would do. It makes your word more trusted and moves the marriage further
14. Do use your money, your phone, your success, your strengths to love on your spouse; not to hurt your spouse
15. Do make time for your marriage. Your old age as a couple will be shaped by how you invested time in your marriage over the years
©️ Akello
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