Don't Marry to Manage.

We all have desires, expectations, personality types and elastic limits.

It's not everything we can cope with and remain mentally and physically sane.

Know this, and know Peace, it's not everybody you can marry.

Do not get into the boat of Marriage with someone whose lifestyle, character, and habits you can not tolerate, to avoid "e choke" marriage.

Apostle Johnson Suleman once said, and I quote, "don't HOPE in a future whose today you can't COPE with"

If their MENTAL capacity isn't exciting or stimulating to you and they don't seem interested in upgrading

If their GIVING capacity is nothing to write home about

If their COMMUNICATION capacity is not what can fill your emotional tank, especially you that like gist and talk.

If their SELF CONTROL capacity is dead and buried, they talk before they think, and do before they know, and they don't seem very willing to change NOW, .

If their ideolgies about Marriage, Gender Roles, In-laws, Family isn't something you're comfortable with, THINK TWICE

Most times it's easy to believe they'll change with time, some of them will even promise to, but this isn't always the case for everybody

Some change, some don't.

As a rule, when you see a person with a character defect that you aren't comfortable with, and you still want to marry them, ask yourself this simple question

"What If he/she doesn't change after marriage, can I cope happily with him/her as they are now?"