WHAT'S GOOD ABOUT BEING MARRIED?WHAT'S BAD ABOUT BEING MARRIED.SINGLE?

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What's good about being married? It can give you a sense of belonging, a feeling of security and stability, an ongoing

involvement with a sense of continuity, a home base, a feeling of closeness and intimacy, and a feeling that the future is more certain.

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What's bad about being married?

It can bring less control over your time, a need to account to other people, a tendency to lose your identity and get wrapped up in

roles, pressure to conform, boredom with routine, and a sense of obligation loaded

with shoulds and oughts.

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What's good about being single?

It can give you a sense of excitement and adventure, control over your own time, more freedom to grow as an independent person, a right to privacy, a sense of your own individuality, and the ability to make your own decisions without compromising or being accountable to others.

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What's bad about being single?

It can bring a feeling of being detached and alienated, a feeling of loneliness, more anxiety and risk, fewer supports, a limitation

in what you can do alone, and less certainty about the future.

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Since being married and being single both have some positive aspects as well as some

drawbacks, this puts us in a dilemma all our lives. We usually go through life doing a balancing act between trying to satisfy our

need for commitment and our need for freedom. Whenever we get too far out of balance, we feel a need for whatever is missing.