When a woman accepts the hand of a man in marriage, he has accepted to perform for and onbehalf of her father those functions of and the will of that her father. That's why such a husband must pay a dowry to her father. By paying a dowry, a husband has applied to the father of a woman, to take over his responsibilities over his daughter.
That is when her father is said to have GIVEN THE HAND OF HER DAUGHTER IN MARRIAGE. Meaning that he has transferred to his son inlaw, his whole responsibilities for SECURITY of body and mind; PROVIDING essential needs of shelter, clothing, food and health. That is, TENDING.
This understanding is basic in all cultures and Religions irrespective of the style or pattern of administering the procedure.
THEREFORE; when a husband lacks the will or ability to carry out these responsibilities through his own fault of negligence or laziness, he has disappointed his father-in-law, his status, his gender and most unfortunately his God.
In some Faith, such a husband is considered worse than a pagan. The worst sin a husband can commit against God who created him a male is to deliberately refuse those functions for which he was created and made the Head of a Home, God's brick for building a godly society. It is sabotaging God's Divine Plan for mankind.
THESE RESPONSIBILITIES are the indices of the love of a husband. They are used to measure the sense, maturity and goodwill of a husband. What makes husbands fathers are responsibilities.
WITHOUT RESPONSIBILITIES A HUSBAND IS A MERE COCKREL.
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