Falling in love with someone can be more complicated as we age and change relationships, bringing our past lives in tow.
When a relationship has to take account of someone else's children as well, it can be a difficilt decision for you to make and should not be one that is taken lightly.
Coping with someone else's, especially when you are not raising children, can be an abrupt and disruptive change in life.
Be conscious that the road ahead will not be smooth running but you have taken time to do the ground work and you are fully aware of what might be ahead, it should be a journey filled with love, dedication and the determination from both you and your spouse to be, that is going to work.
First, understand that you will never replace their mother, so do not try second, understand that the children are probably still grieving.
Give them while still being a step-parent.
Continue making them needs and putting them to sleep if they want to cry, let them listen to them.
Some of them may throw temper, remember, everyone grives differently.
Try to understand that, the child/children will not agree for a while to him replacing his/her mom but try to explain that you are there to help them both.
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